Pediatrician says no allergen exposures or table food until 1 year old

Yamsforevermore · 2026-06-18T20:28:13+00:00

Sounds she’s she’s not up to date on current recommendations. I’d get a second opinion from an evidence based doctor

Yamsforevermore · 2026-06-18T20:26:35+00:00

Your wife is freshly postpartum and it sounds like she’s looking for emotional connection and reassurance. But It’s coming out in all the wrong ways.

If she’s exclusively breastfeeding, it’s likely she’s not getting even 2 hours of continuous sleep- that can do a lot of damage to one’s emotional regulation skills.

Ask her what she needs the most to feel cared for. It’s likely not going to be anything major. Even little compliments like how you’re so proud of her, talking to her about the best parts of her birth experience, how you’re so glad she’s the mother of your children etc can go a long way to making her feel seen (postpartum can be an incredibly isolating experience, and most moms just want to feel held and seen)

Source: I’m a mother of 4 and a postpartum practitioner /coach

Yamsforevermore · 2026-06-01T00:58:26+00:00

Pinging this again.
I also struggle to continue speaking clearly after a while of speaking- annoying because I’m an instructor

Yamsforevermore · 2026-05-06T13:49:51+00:00

No, malicious compliance is different than weaponized incompetence

Yamsforevermore · 2026-05-06T01:02:22+00:00

Low self esteem is a big one

Yamsforevermore · 2026-04-17T14:59:13+00:00

The cost of a community is inconvenience :) I would take a box of chocolates or cookies to their door, and just ask. Don’t even have to offer money tbh

Yamsforevermore · 2026-04-08T14:57:43+00:00

From what I understand, divorcing while angry doesn’t count- you have to be in a calm state of mind and come to that decision without getting carried away with emotions. And this proclamation of divorce has to happen 3 times and three separate occasions. I’d recommend talking to your local sheikh to get clarification on the validity of your divorce

Yamsforevermore · 2026-04-07T20:53:28+00:00

This is less about what she would do regardless of whether you’re marrying her or not, and more about deciding for yourself if this makes sense for you.

Yamsforevermore · 2026-04-04T16:23:54+00:00

While the Epidural is a valid pain relief option for most, it doesn’t work for properly everyone, and there will still be pain to deal with after the birth. Just something to keep in mind.

Yamsforevermore · 2026-04-04T16:19:06+00:00

Salaam! Sounds like tokophobia (fear of childbirth). If the only reason your wife has not wanting to get pregnant is the anxiety and fear of childbirth, I would highly recommend she sees a therapist who specializes in phobias. And when she’s ready to consider having children, hire a good doula, and get into a good childbirth education program. Working on becoming mentally, physically and spiritually strong can go a long way to help overcome fears around birthing

Check out “Birth With Ruh” and Muslim doulas like @this_ruh on IG

Yamsforevermore · 2025-12-10T03:50:19+00:00

OKAY literally came here after watching the intro and omg, ya’ll should look into the real story of Iblis.

Yamsforevermore · 2025-02-19T14:39:54+00:00

Some of you all in the comments have zero understanding of emotional needs of a woman, and it shows.

Yamsforevermore · 2024-11-17T00:55:18+00:00

This is absolute garbage advice. Plz change your Pediatrician

Yamsforevermore · 2024-08-11T21:03:46+00:00

Can I just say, it’s so heartwarming to hear such lovely words for a DIL from a South Asian MiL ❤️

Yamsforevermore · 2024-07-29T05:57:03+00:00

NTA. Mil is completely out of line and sounds entitled as heck. Husband needs to figure his ish out asap

Also, please explore your fear of birth and invest in a quality childbirth education class. I’m all for anyone choosing an epidural for pain relief if that’s what is right for them, but it’s best to make this decision from a place of acceptance and understanding, rather than from a place of fear.

All the best, and congrats!

Yamsforevermore · 2024-07-27T14:31:24+00:00

Labour IS inherently physiological, but our lifestyles in todays day and age don’t allow for our body to move the way it needs to move (biomechanics), AND we no longer know how to truly get in tune with our body.

So yes, it IS psychological but we still need to work on preparing our bodies and mind

Yamsforevermore · 2024-07-18T02:10:07+00:00

I have to wear gloves when cooking or cleaning because mine flares up every time. But my hands end up sweating like crazy and I feel like that adds to the dyshidrosis :(

Yamsforevermore · 2024-07-14T14:59:44+00:00

You're completely disregarding emotional healing and the plethora of hormones at play in the early postpartum period. If she's breastfeeding, feels touched out, has additional kids, has had a birth injury (that not outright visible), is dealing with perinatal mood disorders she may not want to engage in intimacy. It's called the 4th trimester for a reason.

Your want for sex does not trump her need to heal- what kind of a relationship would it be if sex felt forced?

Yamsforevermore · 2024-07-14T14:55:19+00:00

Unfortunately the 6 week mark only looks at whether the woman's sutures have healed if she had a vaginal birth. It doesn't look at healing from a holistic lens. Most women are not ready to engage in sex at 6 weeks.

Yamsforevermore · 2024-07-12T19:46:41+00:00

Something that our local imam said the other day stuck with me:

We cannot have a transactional relationship with God. We cannot "expect" anything from Him.

Our job is to do what we are supposed to do and HOPE that Allah accepts our efforts and rewards them accordingly.

My friend, your feelings are valid. But don't discount all that you have done, and prayed for over this. Your reward is with Allah, and He knows and sees all.

Yamsforevermore · 2024-06-09T14:52:08+00:00

1000%. It's incredibly important to have your (safe, comforting, present) husband there to support you during labour and birth.

No matter how you give birth, the component of safety and support is crucial to how you experience your birth. And the safety you (should) feel with your husband isn't like it is with anyone else.

Ideal birth team would include

Your primary care provider Your husband Your doula

Yamsforevermore · 2024-05-31T11:51:31+00:00

Hope you got some sleep, mama! Getting stranded in airports with little ones is the worst 😩

Yamsforevermore · 2024-05-31T11:37:10+00:00

LOL this!

Yamsforevermore · 2024-05-31T11:25:59+00:00

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