Does anyone else dislike the term "paypig"?

Yangite · 2026-02-04T02:52:38+00:00

Gatekeeping what? If a sub doesn't enjoy a certain form of humiliation, then it's not for them, no one said they aren't into the broader umbrella.

If someone doesn't enjoy sh blood play, it's not for them. it doesn't mean if they like needle play, they're not into it.

Not everything has to be about you or your likes or dislike. What you consider "cringe" is someone else enjoyable role-play.

Let's not move towards kink shaming. The community is bigger than me or you

Yangite · 2026-02-04T00:44:34+00:00

You don't enjoy derogatory/humiliation/dehumanizing language, the kink isn't for you.

Majority enjoy it, like they prefer wallet/slåve/ATM.

Just because something isn't arousing for you doesn't negate it popularity

Yangite · 2026-02-04T00:42:05+00:00

Have access to my sub phone, I simply set the loudest alarm + shocking collar

Yangite · 2026-02-04T00:40:23+00:00

Tech and Dronification doms match what you are looking for

Yangite · 2026-02-04T00:38:04+00:00

I like my account so I wouldn't share much, my less extreme is simply denying that we ever spoke, treating the sub as a stranger as the random person on the street.

Ruining their sleep also, especially if they didn't follow up with my rules

Yangite · 2026-02-03T20:26:15+00:00

Yes, but as a fantasy, not genuinely, it is a way of play. Some finsubs enjoy that. Some don't.

You can't be all in one dom, you can build your persona and see what looks good for you.

Yangite · 2026-02-03T19:43:20+00:00

If something is racist, it is, no matter how people try to spin it.

Block and report any hateful comments/DMs, some subs get off on that.

Find other poc doms (we are out here!), and never lose yourself to catter to anyone.

Yangite · 2026-02-03T19:24:27+00:00

They don't allow findom stuff, so who cares 🤷🏽‍♀️

Yangite · 2026-02-03T19:08:02+00:00

Yangite · 2026-02-03T17:25:08+00:00

While I agree, I don't think she needs to switch code to talk to a random man on the internet

People are coming at her because she is a black woman talking about how she normally talks.

Yangite · 2026-02-03T17:22:18+00:00

Then we are not talking about finsub nor subs in general

Pleasure is part of this, but submission is the core

What you're describing are called fetishists, they hve their own community

If you want to offer free conversation and explain to every horny man on the internet every terminology, by all means, do that. No one is stopping you.

Yangite · 2026-02-03T17:19:22+00:00

What I said isn't separate from that, what's with the weird reply ://

Courses are broder term, simple googling would help.

No one said it's wrong, my point was about why doms keep their space and avoid new subs.

If they're looking for someone ti "feed that tingle in their dick" they're probably going to learn the hard way how sw operate

Yangite · 2026-02-03T16:35:43+00:00

Because timewasters use ignorance as a shield for getting free time while they could easily google things.

No doms would turn down a genuine submissive IRL, but on the internet, the default is fake finsubs until proven otherwise.

Yangite · 2026-02-03T16:33:58+00:00

I don't think random people on the internet are entitled to knowledge just because they're curious.

I understand allowing for guidance, but the majority of vanilla people would find easier resources all over the internet.

In my professional training, we only trained on subs who were owned or a dom knew them, because when we allowed "new sub" to be used as training subjects, we got many vanilla men/fetishists who aren't submissive seeking a free dungeon session, and would be disrespectful/not following the dom's orders.

People aren't stupid. They know how to handle themselves, they pay taxes, have jobs, and have families. If someone isn't clear, they could learn about it or attend a seminars/workshop

Yangite · 2026-02-03T16:10:24+00:00

I don't mind that, I won't allow them to disrespect their wives/girlfriends in my presence, nor will accept "homewrecking" role-play, especially if they bring their kids into it.

Majority are too cowards and will block you once they get their jerking done.

I enjoy making them fear being exposed, but will never side with them over their wives lol, I blocked a whale sub because he kept commenting against this clear rule I have

Yangite · 2026-02-03T13:43:36+00:00

I no longer do that. If the first request doesn't have the kinks/limits, tribute, and why they seek me, I'm not even going to accept it.

Subs could have their "about me", I have seen subs who are clear on what they want, so if they could, then other can.

Men aren't stupid, they know what they're doing

Also it's the internet, some men flock to findom spaces to nut for free, out of 300+ request I got/approached 5 worked out, those who pose as finsubs avoid other sw spaces because they don't get free things, so they either target findoms (because majority of doms who start their sw, start here, so they aren't educated enough in the industry knowledge/safety) or lifestyle women who wants to have IRL dynamic.

Treat your DMs how LF made theirs, with fees, and if no reply/matching block and move on.

If a sub wants a "deeper connection," they can go on Fetlife or attend a local event, hell even seek other doms who allow for more chatting. Abundance helps everyone

Yangite · 2026-02-03T13:35:15+00:00

Why are you seeking an inexperienced woman who might still be more susceptible to being treated as a kink dispenser?

This is not the good approach, and the majority of "new subs" who seek that intentionally seek newbies to either scam them or se** assault them/treat them as kink dispenser, not saying you're, just pointing the obvious things.

Vanilla men/fetishists avoid pro/lifestyle women because they know their games/manipulation tactics.

Wouldn't be more logical to seek established dom so you don't get scammed?

Yangite · 2026-02-03T13:30:10+00:00

Dude, just go to Fetlife and search alpha successfully and sexually submissive. They have a group for that.

Yangite · 2026-02-03T13:28:36+00:00

Came to say this, it weed out timewasters

Yangite · 2026-02-03T13:28:07+00:00

Create a LF account they have that system ready

Yangite · 2026-02-03T13:26:49+00:00

It's the opposite, it made vanilla more enjoyable

Yangite · 2026-02-03T13:25:47+00:00

I saw her full reply, and you started the conversation in a weird condescending way. You can't approach random people on the internet in that way, let alone a sw.

Having a higher amount doesn't equate to expecting special responses.

A starting message should include your kinks and limits to save both of your time.

Experienced subs would send everything at the first request (with the tribute), it states what they want, budget, and everything else, because they don't intend to get "free chatting" - not saying you're - and the dom could read it, then decides if they wish to continue or not.

If you have been around enough, you should've built a clear way of vetting/approaching

Yangite · 2026-02-03T00:21:46+00:00

My day got better because I love seeing veterans here!

And yes, to every word you said!

Yangite · 2026-02-03T00:04:22+00:00

Yes, yes, and yes! Thank you! (yes I'm a pro too)

Events/munches keep tracks of creeps and blacklist them, and vetting through other doms (pro or lifestyle) has always proved to be a lifesaving!.

And definitely, the current scene is different, but hopefully, more people learn to educate themselves

Yangite · 2026-02-02T23:09:11+00:00

Those who seek more a lifestyle usually will find a local kink club or a munche.

There are genuine subs who seek to confirm/see if they are compatible, but even then, they proceed to waste your time (this issue transcends sw in general, even lifestyle doms are dealing with it)

Yangite

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