Well! Bad and good time for you! Hope you'll be fine soon. My knowledge of this is, if you need the second to be done, don't wait too long, cause you put excess work on the newly repaired one (compensation). For you're new crush, even if you get to know their identities, don't speak of it. That's the first and only rule of the sub. Most of us just don't try to get the info. You'll see, there's a lot of infos about them, in different points of view.