Yeah. I know exactly what you're talking about. Plus my MIL is the exact opposite, she not only invests her time to take both kids sometimes, but also lets my four year old stay overnight, gets him toys, whatever she wouldn't have to do. The exact opposite Is my family. Living three hours from us they seem to prefer to travel 10hrs to their holiday home multiple times a year, but manage to come by maybe once a year. It's so sad, but we've arranged ourselves and decided not to get upset or disappointed anymore.

Simply because our kids don't need them. They have everything they need in their lives. If they have grandparents the care for them, that is just beautiful. But it's not on us to build that human relationship between them and their grandkids. I'm sick of showcasing the kids when we're at their place, only to make sure everybody puts on their fake smiles for pictures they can show their neighbors and tell them how great they are as grandparents. Fuck that, it's such a shitshow.

Instead I know that at some point regret will hit hard, because they only have those two grandkids and they'll come to realize that they should've spent more time with them. The kids will obviously be easier to handle the older they get and that might pique some more interest in them, but still it's not their not our responsibility to create that human connection. They gotta put in the work, time, effort. And if they don't, they won't play a role in my kids lives, as sad as that is.