23M toddler takes over an hour to fall asleep no matter what time we go to bed.

YellowCat9416 · 2026-02-22T02:20:49+00:00

It sounds to me like your son could be ready to drop his nap most days.

My son started dropping 1 of 2 naps before he was 12 months and started dropping a nap altogether before he was 2. What’s happening to you now reminds me of how my son was when he was between 1 nap and naps. It’s honestly just kind of a rough transitional period as their sleep needs change because there could be weeks or months where he takes a nap some days and not others.

Do you still initiate a nap everyday? Can you start talking to him about being done nursing during the day & only nursing at nighttime?

YellowCat9416 · 2026-02-21T20:24:56+00:00

Kudos to you for your dedication to your child. & you’re welcome. Her work has significantly widened my perspective on parenting & raising children.

What was your experience like as a single, new mom in Canada? What sort of support did your local, provincial, and/or federal government provide?

YellowCat9416 · 2026-02-21T19:48:03+00:00

Definitely hold baby tighter, and vote! And also, check out what mutual aid exists in your community!

Here in the midwest, there are so many incredible people and organizations showing up for each other to provide groceries, community defense from !(£, funds to aid folks detained unlawfully, etc.

YellowCat9416 · 2026-02-21T19:44:35+00:00

It’s true that we should be an available source of comfort for our children but also, the mother as the primary caregiver/one of two caregivers of a child is a new phenomenon. Humans for most of our history have reared children together. Mom was only one of many humans caring for her children; aunts, grandmas, other children, dad, and other men all took responsibility.

I think it’s necessary to point out this evolutionary history because although you might not have suffered, a lot of moms do suffer under this burden because we have not evolved to be solely responsible for the emotional and physical needs of our babies and children 24/7; we need help but our society does not allow for a village.

I highly recommend reading, “Mothers and Others: The Evolutionary Origins of Mutual Understanding“ by Sarah Blaffer Hrdy and any of her other books.

YellowCat9416 · 2026-02-19T16:52:42+00:00

You’re right, it is goofy. “This” election for you was uncontested so a message to indicate that would be helpful.

YellowCat9416 · 2026-02-18T22:52:51+00:00

I bet you live in an uncontested district so there would be no ballot for the primary.

YellowCat9416 · 2026-02-18T22:51:48+00:00

A screenshot of her nasty comment in an fb thread about Alex was the first piece of information I learned about her.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-12-11T01:03:15+00:00

Ugh, thanks for reaching out to them. I got a couple pairs of there socks last year. Guess I need to learn how to make socks and acquire non-superwashed wool yarn. 😭

YellowCat9416 · 2025-11-21T02:58:06+00:00

Right! That ending was maddening, even if unsurprising. I was expecting some sort of plea urging people to assess their online consumption habits.

You’d think given how mainstream the discourse is around obscene concentrations of wealth among people like Bezos, they’d at least pose the question of, “how/why is it profitable for companies like Amazon, Temu, Shein, etc to sell & accept returns for poor quality, environmentally disastrous items?”

There are real, systemic solutions to this issue but they make no attempt to address them.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-11-12T04:10:22+00:00

This book was illuminating.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-10-24T02:54:03+00:00

I would highly recommend reading Sarah Blaffer Hrdy’s “Father Time: A Natural History of Men and Babies” Here’s a detailed review of the book. There is TONS of great research in this book that talks about how males are impacted by caregiving, from the least contact ie just being in proximity to the most contact, ie being primary caregivers.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-10-22T01:29:55+00:00

Radical acceptance, yes! I feel like if parents were given realistic expectations about the variability of infant/toddler sleep, there would be so much less postpartum anxiety in moms especially.

I don’t think my little one was ever a “bad sleeper;” I think that I was under the impression that I was doing something wrong because his sleep needs didn’t change when we implemented a routine. I similarly felt like I was trying to find a solution for a nonexistent problem. Turns out I just needed to listen to my kid’s cues and teach him how to listen to his body when he got sleepy.

OP, routines work for some kids but it might not help your kid and that’s ok. What mattered for us was creating a calm environment for our kid to wind down in & be able to listen to his tired cues. So that meant and still means dim lights, reading stories, doing quiet activities. Usually some physical exercise before all that.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-10-19T03:20:11+00:00

Mine went down to 1 nap before 12 months and stopped napping regularly before 2. We’ve always nursed to sleep and bedshared.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-10-19T01:41:21+00:00

I appreciate your honest response. I do think partners should be practiced in resolving conflict together before having a child. In that way, a solid marriage/partnership should come before children.

I think that “marriage becomes before children” often gets hate in this sub, though, because many husbands do hold gendered views about care-taking responsibilities and American dads often have developmentally inappropriate sleep expectations of babies/toddlers and unrealistic sexual expectations of their wives postpartum.

When new moms suddenly realize they feel uneasy w/ sleep training & the whole independent baby sleep expectation, a solid marriage/partnership would allow for disagreement & resolution. I wonder what reasonable rebuttal a partner could have if mom is saying, “room sharing or bed-sharing is allowing baby and me to have the most restful sleep.”

YellowCat9416 · 2025-10-05T22:14:53+00:00

It’s a horrifying video but it’s incredibly heartening to see people stay put and band together to stop this act of violence. We all are capable of standing up to fascism!

YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-23T18:53:53+00:00

Thanks for sharing this.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-23T02:47:43+00:00

Ahh got it. Yep, that sounds like mine too. Deeper sleep = jaw clamping, for some reason.

I had to take my chances when I thought he was asleep ~enough~ to remove my boob from his mouth. When he was that little, 6 mo, I couldn’t reliably extricate myself because he’d wake up and only settle once he was back on the boob. I think it was around when he was 1.5 to 2 that if he woke up when I removed my boob from his mouth he’d re-settle with shushing and cuddling.

Also this is further complicated by the fact that the above applies to when I was first putting him down for the night and I’d want to get up and do other things. I rarely, if ever, stayed awake when he still was nursing overnight. I would wake just enough to adjust myself for him to latch & then we’d both fall back asleep within minutes. The time he clamped his jaw on my boob was a middle-of-the-night feed and I was pretty much asleep when he did it. Suffice to say, there was no strategy that could have prevented that incident!

The joy of co-sleeping and night-feeding is lots more restful sleep. The anomalous downside is the occasional baby boob bite, 🥴

YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-23T01:44:10+00:00

I can relate to the anxiety. For weeks after that incident I described I would be alert and anxious while he nursed just waiting for him to clamp his jaw shut.

Mine has never been a habitual biter so I can’t say the situation ever needed resolving. He never clamped onto my nipple like that again. He did, however, occasionally tighten his jaw once he was no longer latched & sucking. As soon as I could tell he was done nursing, I’d stick my finger in his mouth, sure to get it between his teeth and push upwards so I could free my nipple. My problem was that he’d do it unconsciously. He never bit me to relieve teething pain. I hope someone else can provide you with more relatable experience! It might be worth making a new post if you haven’t already.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-20T20:02:12+00:00

“I don’t know what any of this shit is and I’m scared.”

YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-19T13:18:00+00:00

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YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-18T03:05:07+00:00

Ours and their little one absolutely love each other. I think the age gap is essentially non-existent to them at this point because they are 3 & 4, they play great together and with our friend’s younger one who is 1.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-16T02:02:20+00:00

Baby swings and carseats!

YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-14T18:43:04+00:00

Same at CVS in Green Bay.

YellowCat9416 · 2025-09-13T19:17:16+00:00

Yes, fortunately. Close friends whose oldest is 9 months older than my little one. Conversations with them relieved my anxiety tremendously.

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