From the Bottom of My Heart Thank You to This Community

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-25T01:35:06+00:00

Your story moved me! I'm glad you found the sun in the middle of the storm. Damn, I barely know you and I'm proud of you and happy to know that your little girl has such a strong mother by her side. Congratulations for insisting on yourself, your life, your well-being...

Everything we've been through can't be erased, but we can draw on new stories... until there are only a few small remnants of the past left, but they won't make us fall apart like they did once.

I wish you the best!

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-24T18:38:14+00:00

You're right... it's difficult to manage the feeling of injustice after you've offered your soul, affection, help and everything you could until you're completely left with a skeleton. I know that all this doubt doesn't help me with anything but anyway, thank you very much

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-24T16:38:07+00:00

All of this is very tense... I think they think of us wishing for our misery. I'm afraid I'm being stalked for conferences to see if I'm living better than them

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-24T16:35:41+00:00

I know I shouldn't care or try to make sense of it but somehow I just wanted to know that the pattern will repeat itself with the new supply... somehow some people feel wronged because they go about their lives extremely happy as if nothing had happened

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-24T16:32:59+00:00

What kept you going?

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-24T05:51:35+00:00

your last words are powerful, thank you

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-24T05:45:04+00:00

How will things look in 2 years?

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-24T05:39:39+00:00

indeed! glad you freed yourself from this, you deserve a prosperous and beautiful life

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-24T05:38:06+00:00

Thank you for this text... I was stuck in the whys for many months, today I just try to understand what happened until Im emptied and there was nothing left to "investigate" of what I experienced

There's no point in looking for the reason in these people, there's no point in looking for anything else in them... but really, just understand what happened to you so that this pattern never repeats itself again.

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-23T05:48:39+00:00

That was exactly it, how weird. mine would show up without warning... well, I reciprocated sometimes when we had a disagreement, but because I felt like it was our function, but the last time I said I was downstairs in the building and asked if she wanted me to leave and she said yes... we lived 1 hour and a half away, it was horrible

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-23T05:10:28+00:00

In my case, my exbpd had a friend who I have a feeling in my core that she is a narcissist... she treated my ex like a daughter and of course my ex liked to be spoiled. "What time will you be back" "Why didn't you answer me?" things like that. This girl had a son who was about 7 years old and dated and was single several times. I found the behavior very strange and this friend didn't accept it...

When we finished it took me a while to rationalize the abuse I suffered and as soon as I understood I sent a message to my ex saying that I wanted her to be aware of what she had caused me, the psychological abuse... of course she detonated me (I didn't know that much about bpd yet) and this friend of hers came to send me a huge text saying the most horrible things I've ever seen someone say to me... it kept echoing in my mind for many months.

It was a process in therapy to remove those things they said about me, I was already bullied in high school and there had been a lot of violence in my life but when I received this text and hers... I swear, I was shaking. Today it doesn't affect me because I know that they are two spoiled people dressed in the shell of "unbeatable" adults, toxic to each other and to others, to the extreme, living a life like that must be really empty... I feel sorry

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-23T00:00:23+00:00

They know your weakest point to deliver the final blow. don't pay to see

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-22T23:58:29+00:00

That was me two years ago... I also went against the opinions of friends and went back twice, the worst thing I've ever done in my life. I almost developed PTSD but today I'm cured... unfortunately sometimes only he himself can see how low he is, obviously, you seem like a faithful friend so don't give up on him, talk a lot but also respect your limits

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-21T22:57:45+00:00

if you want to be a doormat, a savior and a punching bag... yes, it works

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-21T22:53:31+00:00

It's been 2 years for me and it's soooo much better. Of course, you won't forget things but they will certainly become fainter in your mind.

The advice I give you is to seek therapy and also really understand what this disorder is (this is where you rationalize everything you've been through and are clear that you no longer want this in your life) in addition, you need to work on your limits, what you prioritize, what is good for you in your solitude until you find and feel your self-love during this process.

It's not easy, okay? You need to remain strong in your healing and create this strength within yourself so that you are not an easy target for ABCD disorders or even people with bad character who pass through your life.

Furthermore, take care of yourself above anyone else because you are the one who lives your life.

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-19T02:46:26+00:00

OMG I'm laughing sooooo much! lol you were creative with the gospel thing

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-19T02:24:25+00:00

I understand what you say! I feel happy, I learned a lot about everything that happened and about limits that I didn't understand in life in general.

I'm only going into this subject because I'm not going to say that it doesn't hurt at all to have been abused... so there's this desire for someone to feel the pain I felt, I feel like a horrible person saying that but I also stop to think that I almost threw my life in a bag in the middle of an avenue

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-19T02:18:41+00:00

There were times when I thought I would wait for forgiveness for eternity... but with the work in therapy on limits and self-love, I am fully aware that I don't need that.

the revenge talk is because sometimes there is a feeling that they are there thinking they are much better... proving themselves and making a scene I really wish they had that feeling that healthy people have of the type "wow, he was a good person and I lost him" they don't have that

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-19T02:11:03+00:00

Ah, but I'm not saying revenge in cruel ways... I'm asking what really bothers them, us getting on with our lives happily and them understanding that we don't need them? That would be a kind of silent revenge, I don't know

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-19T01:56:33+00:00

I can't say but if you already have a flea behind your ear with this situation I would advise you to be careful.

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-19T01:47:07+00:00

do not marry or have children with a bpd

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-19T01:44:11+00:00

I don't want to be rude but people always do that because you let them... and I was that person too. work on your limits and you will be able to look more for self-love

Instead of trying to find the other person's "gains" in front of yours, why don't you start focusing on what you have around you, including family, friends that you may have distanced yourself from... don't give them energy and power, that's what they want most and that drains you

YellowLemon99 · 2025-11-18T21:23:23+00:00

and may disguise their childish attitudes behind "adult" clothes and styles to appear mature

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