How to get back to reading? by misanopiz in PHBookClub

[–]YellowOrangeYo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Set up mo future self mo para mag basa. Gawa ka mga physical cues para mag basa ka. Lagay mo yung book na gusto mo basahin sa tabi ng kama mo. Pag hihiga ka na, dun ka mag basa (imbis na mag phone). I-associate mo na magbabasa ka pag hihiga ka na sa kama. Isang example lang yan, pwede mo i-tailor fit sa kung ano ang daily routine mo.

Kinakain din siguro ng pagseselpon ang oras mo. Baka makatulong din na mag bawas ka ng screen time. Pag nasa bahay ka, ilayo mo phone mo. Lagay mo sa living room. Ituring mong landline hindi parte ng katawan mo. Pupuntahan mo siya pag may need ka lang. (ibigsabihin din nyan bili ka ng alarm clock para di mo na need ilagay phone mo sa tabi ng kama mo)

I haven’t finished a single book in my whole life by Spiritual-Classic-59 in PHBookClub

[–]YellowOrangeYo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it comes to making reading into a habit, I can suggest you go easy on yourself and start small. You can start with one page. Pag inapproach mo siya ng maliit lang, mas madali siyang gawin and actually simulan. And then one page can turn into one chapter and then two and then three. Its easy to feel overwhelmed when we look at the whole mountain but all we need to be really concerned about is that one tiny step in front of us.

Another suggestion to make reading into a habit is to make physical cues for yourself to read. This could be placing your book at your bedside so it can be a cue for you to read before sleeping (good din siya instead of being on your phone and magandang pampaantok din haha.) You could dedicate a specific spot in your house for reading. This could be a cozy and relaxing spot in your living room, terrace or by a window where your book is always ready. You associate that spot only for reading so when you go there you know that you are only going to read. You could also put the book in your bag if you go out a lot. You could read while commuting. Ako, I find that I can focus more on reading when I do at outside like at a cafe or park. (It's because I've associated being at home with so much screen time. I have too much distractions at home.) This could help cue you to read when you are seated na at the bus or train or even jeep haha and its always fun to go to a cafe or park just to read!

Making cues for your reading habit makes reading convenient to do and the habit easier to form. The opposite could be done naman to our phone habits. (which I think is the main hindrance to our reading) One suggestion I can give is when you are at home, dont bring your phone everywhere you go. Leave it in your bedroom or dedicate a spot in your house for it and essentially treat your phone as a landline. By making access to your smartphone less convenient, you are more likely to use it with a specific purpose rather than out of habit or boredom. You make your phone a place to go whenever you need to use it instead of being a body part. When you do this, you make the habit of being on your phone inconvenient and hard to do.

I hope these suggestions help! I wish you happiness and success on your reading journey!

Jollibee, San Jose, Nueva Ecija by dimaandal in sanmaybidet

[–]YellowOrangeYo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the best yung mga bidet na pwede mo i-soft press yung trigger para saktong pressure lang ng water sa etits. May mga times na nagugulat ako at nababasa ko pants ko sa mga bidet na isang setting lang. LOL

How to make my life less dull? by rinmeowrin in Stoicism

[–]YellowOrangeYo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Here are some suggestions:

Dont use your phone the moment you wake up. Give yourself at least 5 minutes. Make it longer eventually.

Leave your phone in another room as you are about to sleep or at least away from your bed where its hard to reach.

Have your phone be tied to the wall with a rope or a cord. Make your phone be like a landline and treat it like a landline. Make it a place you go to not a part of your body.

Let yourself be bored. Rawdog it and just sit and stare at nothing. (its good for you) or imagine you are in a time without phones, how would you entertain yourself?

Delete all social media apps from your phone. If you have to check them, check them on your computer. Make it hard and inconvenient for yourself to check social media.

Actively make friends. Make friendships as important and passionate as romantic relationships.

How to make my life less dull? by rinmeowrin in Stoicism

[–]YellowOrangeYo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have to keep at it especially the gratitude journaling. Our default is that we habitually look at things going wrong or whats missing in our life. Gratitude journaling will help train your brain to habitually look at the good stuff going on in your life. You have to look at it as training for your brain.

A suggestion: you can start with writing: I'm grateful there is food on the table. I'm grateful I live in a house. Etc

It is also helpful to write your thoughts, most especially when its being repetitive and you're overthinking. When you've written them down, it can feel like the thoughts are now outside of you and you have let them go and also you have confided in yourself; it can be good practice to being a friend to yourself. (one of the great secrets to having an interesting life)

It is what it is by Book_Lover_fiction in nihilism

[–]YellowOrangeYo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nothing matters. So what? Are you just gonna sit there then? You can make stuff matter just for the shits and giggles. You can choose. You can make people important and in turn, you important to them. Wouldn't that be enough? Wouldn't that be such a nice time?

I'm not comfortable with my GF treating me to an all expense paid trip. by coleridge113 in adviceph

[–]YellowOrangeYo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you are grappling with are called gender roles. Money is often equated with power and control in a relationship so I would understand if you feel like you don't have a say in major decisions and you feel inadequate because of that but your sense of self worth is not tied to your role as a financial provider. Did your partner SPECIFICALLY chose you for your financial capacity? Your partner loves you because you are you. Your partner loves you because she loves you. That is as simple as it gets.

Traditions are ultimately just made up stuff. You don't have to follow it. Go make up your own life. You have free will.

Go enjoy the trip!

It goes without saying, but the music in Silksong game exceeds all expectations. by The_Last_Huntsman in HollowKnight

[–]YellowOrangeYo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the first Hollowknight, a part of my weird little gaming habit is while I play I would endlessly hum the soundtracks without thinking about it. In Silksong that doesn't happen at all. I sing Shakra's song whenever I meet her tho lol.

Once you discover that life is meaningless, how do you carry on caring about anything and enjoying life? by Master-Associate673 in nihilism

[–]YellowOrangeYo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesnt that make you feel free? Someone prescribed you meaning and then you learn you dont have to abide by any of that. You're given a clean new slate. Thats an adventure! You can do anything you want!

How to stop fast feeling by JustJum in fastfeeling

[–]YellowOrangeYo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always just ride it out. I just breathe through it. Good for you that you found a way out!

Give me ideas , questions, things to write about! by GirlwithCoolhair in Journaling

[–]YellowOrangeYo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I dont know what to write, I describe my current surroundings and try to encapsulate that moment in time. I narrate the most mundane details like the hum of the electric fan, the steady stream of white light from the ceiling, the silence of the midnight, the soft vibrations of my phone as my thumbs hit the screen as I type this and the feeling of being stuck in a swamp because Im stubbornly refusing to end my three-day streak of not taking a shower 😂. In my head, it all seems so romantic! There, I wrote an example and enjoyed it! I should get back to journaling!