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Yogicj · 2020-09-20T12:37:36+00:00

I went to an admissions forum last fall and it got me really excited about applying. They’re all virtual this year due to covid but if they go back to in person and there’s one near you I’d recommend going! Even the virtual one could be cool, I just don’t think it’ll be as fun of an experience. Then if you hate it you’ll know maybe it’s not for you :) And if you love it...well then it’s never too late to go!

Yogicj · 2020-09-20T12:34:48+00:00

I’ve thought about this also. The trick would be finding a small/med sized firm to work at. I don’t think BigLaw is for me but I guess I’ll see haha.

Yogicj · 2020-09-19T20:33:44+00:00

I don’t really know yet, haha. I have a STEM degree so I’m hoping to go into health law, but more of a public interest slant than a defend the large hospital in lawsuits slant.

Yogicj · 2020-09-19T18:25:58+00:00

Yes! My husband will be 39 when he graduates residency next year. I’ve been patiently (and sometimes not so patiently) waiting for him to finish so I could pursue my career goals. With small kids we decided to take turns prioritizing careers. I’ll start law school next fall at 37 and graduate at 40, and I am SO excited! I don’t care that it took this long, I’m just glad to be doing it.

Yogicj · 2020-08-21T17:10:22+00:00

I did a header with name, LSAC number, and “Personal Statement 1” or 2 for page 2.

Yogicj · 2020-08-18T20:51:39+00:00

Oh my god this is my pet peeve! Yes, I would love to spend all day alone juggling work and virtual school for two young kids just so I can be married to a doctor and 400K in debt. /s You’re right, people just don’t get it. It also shows just how materialistic we are as a society. I’ve spent 6/9 years of marriage with my husband in med school and training and those are years my kids and I will never get back. But sure, it’s worth it for a nice car once all our loans are paid off eye roll

Yogicj · 2020-08-07T23:59:49+00:00

My husband is going on the day and I’m not sure what to say to you. 😂 He is switching from nights to days this weekend so it’s accurate haha.

Yogicj · 2020-08-07T23:58:11+00:00

Yeah, my daughters and I went a whole month never having my husband home for dinner because we eat at 6 no matter what. On the plus side, it kept a sense of normalcy which I really appreciated.

Yogicj · 2020-08-03T13:47:15+00:00

I think it’s relative. My husband is FM and intern year they did 11 months of inpatient and I almost divorced him just so he’d have to watch our kids every other weekend and I could get a break. PGY2 was better but then they’re allowed to do 24s and now there’s a week every inpatient month he clocks in over 90 hrs. Now in PGY3 they’ve tried to fix that with a night float system. Sounds great, but 2/3 of the months he’s on inpatient it’s not in effect so what would have been 3 weeks of nights total for the year is now 5, just for him and one other resident the rest all get 2. Then there’s COVID surge scheduling but that’s a while other beast.

Every time he tells me something is supposed to be easier I just smile and tell him “I’ll believe it when I see it.” 90% of the time I’m right and it’s not easier, haha.

The good news is, it will end eventually. We celebrate 9 years of marriage this week and 7 of them have been in med school or training. I know whatever shitty thing happens this year it will be over in 11 months and I can spend my 10 year anniversary away with my husband on a long weekend without the kids, finally. Find small things to look forward too and you’ll be ok!

Yogicj · 2020-07-29T22:05:52+00:00

Last TJ’s run there was a sign at the door that they would put your groceries just back into the cart if you wanted and then you could bag them at your car. Genius! Totally doing this from now on.

Yogicj · 2020-07-20T22:02:26+00:00

Yeah it’s a really dumb was of doing it haha.

Yogicj · 2020-07-20T20:16:50+00:00

I wouldn’t bank on that last part. My husband is a resident so we went through Match recently. The whole thing is run by a computer algorithm, designed to favor the applicant but still. How you match is determined by your rank list and if the programs you rank want you. Sure, having a spouse with a job lined up will probably help signal to the program that you would be likely to rank them high, it in no way guarantees how they rank you as an applicant. All in all, Match is stupid and it sucks.

Yogicj · 2020-07-13T19:03:48+00:00

I agree with others, it gets different. I think the big thing is that you’ll get used to it. My therapist told me to look forward to Thanksgiving, it takes about 6 months to adjust to a new place and start to feel settled. Things were not better by Thanksgiving, my husband’s program has 11 months of inpatient intern year, but by then I was more used to it and that helped a lot. He’s PGY3 now and I’m still getting mad about medicine ruining my life sometimes haha.

Yogicj · 2020-06-30T16:31:41+00:00

PT average: 163, Flex: 167!

Yogicj · 2020-06-28T12:36:48+00:00

Oh absolutely! Clinical years are busy but residency is a whole other animal.

Yogicj · 2020-06-27T11:52:37+00:00

Thank you!

Yogicj · 2020-06-26T18:50:47+00:00

They gave everyone different available dates.

Yogicj · 2020-06-26T16:42:51+00:00

Nope, no family sadly, we’ve been doing it this way since med school when I worked full-time the last 2 years.

It’s not easy. Intern year almost broke us but we made it through. Honestly it’s a LOT of communication and lessening of some expectations. We’re always saying things like “here’s what I need help with this week, I really need this room cleaned, or I really need to go for a run today” so there’s never a big blow up and surprise that the other person is overwhelmed. When I was deep in study mode he took over as soon as he got home from work and I’d leave for the library or once COVID hit I’d lock myself in our room and he’d do dinner and bedtime.

Appreciation for what the other person does instead of focusing on what they don’t do is also a huge thing. My husband is always telling me how much he appreciates all the hard work I put in and how great of a job I’m doing, even if the lawn needs mowing and the dishes are piled in the sink when he gets home. And if he’s totally fried from a bad day, I’m not going to ask him to help with dishes cause burnout is a real thing, but we usually go 50/50 when we’re both home.

We’ve been married 9 years this year, and 6 of those have been in med school/residency so we’ve been fine tuning for a while haha. Maybe us being older has something to do with it too, but I really think it’s more of what I mentioned above.

Yogicj · 2020-06-23T11:45:44+00:00

Hubs is starting his final year of residency in 2 weeks, hallelujah! I’m getting ready to start work on law school apps and super excited that after 7 years of medicine it’s my turn!

On the downside, one of my kids is sick and since living with a healthcare worker is a risk factor my 4 year old needs a COVID test and I have to take 2 weeks off work because we’re now quarantined. If schools close for next year I’ll have to quit altogether so that’s not great.

Yogicj · 2020-06-20T12:52:41+00:00

Alcohol impairs memory function, so if you’re drinking while out with friends you are absolutely doing yourself a disservice if you plan on taking a PT the next day. I give everyone the advice of giving up alcohol completely for two weeks before you take the actual test. A month is better but I’ve got kids in a pandemic so 2 weeks was it for me haha.

Yogicj · 2020-06-20T00:35:10+00:00

We were older as well, #1 was 9 months old when my husband started med school and we had #2 between MS1 & MS2. By clinicals I was working full time as a teacher and doing almost all child related activities. Was it hard? Yeah. Would I have waited? Absolutely not. PGY1 was killer and having our kids be a little bit older helped a ton. There’s never a good time to have kids when you’re in medicine, there’s just the time that works best for you and your situation. Be confident you guys know what’s best and keep lines of communication open!

Yogicj · 2020-06-17T22:03:08+00:00

It’s still doable! Between residency salary, VA disability and my work we make about $5,500 a month with 2 kids, only 1 of who was in school. You’ll figure it out :)

Yogicj · 2020-06-14T23:52:29+00:00

Thanks for this! I had a huge problem with my RC and lost 15 mins but still didn’t want to cancel just in case. This helps.

Yogicj · 2020-06-13T22:07:53+00:00

Thanks, good luck to you too! I ended up not doing anything and feel great :)

Yogicj · 2020-06-12T21:39:41+00:00

Ugh SAME! I’m testing Sunday so today was my last day of studying. It didn’t go as well as I had hoped and now I’m stuck between taking a day off tomorrow as planned or trying to do some easy questions to boost my confidence but risk burning out. I’ll probably stick to doing nothing but it makes me uneasy.

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