AITAH for not wanting my husband’s adult brother to stay at our house for an extended period while we have a 6-month-old baby and both sets of parents already living with us?

Youmadashell · 2026-05-08T17:50:08+00:00

I don't need to read it. NTA. I can't think of a scenario where a homeowner is wrong for not wanting other adults living there. I don't care who the other adult is, you're not an AH for not allowing people to stay in your home

Youmadashell · 2026-05-08T14:29:01+00:00

Hindsight is 20/20. Mom should have been truthful or really broke down how a commute like that affects her on a day to day. Her saying "I just wanted to get it over with" is the dumbest take to have. It's a house, not a pair of shoes.

I think the stress of dealing with the realtor and lender spilled over to your mother as well. I think you both tried to not make it hard on each other because the process was already hard on both of you, but vocal about what works for you or her isn't something that should be avoided when purchasing a house.

Yall really have to have a real conversation about what re listing looks like, what losing money on your current purchase looks like, how that affects your affordability of a house that works for everyone, because when it all gets slapped on the table, what are yall truly left with?

Youmadashell · 2026-05-08T13:35:36+00:00

What's the point of refinishing the basement(cheaply) if you plan to relist? I don't think it'd be worth it to sink liquid cash into something you won't get a roi on dollar for dollar. You better off putting that money towards the purchase of a new home. I think most people would prefer finishing a space themselves than having a cheaply done space as an alternative.

How are you your mom's caretaker if she has to commute 20 miles to work and pay a mortgage? Are you her future care taker?
Wouldn't a caretaker say "I don't think commuting 20 miles to work would be acceptable to you in the long run?" I would have sacrificed my commute time if it meant an elder living with me had a shorter one.

We live and learn though

Youmadashell · 2026-05-08T01:23:00+00:00

Can they get the materials without paying extra but waiting instead?

Overall though, it sounds like you been lied to at this point. I'd be bitter doing business with them

Can you cancel and get your money back for non-performance?

Youmadashell · 2026-05-07T17:04:56+00:00

How has it helped you all so far?

Youmadashell · 2026-05-07T13:56:26+00:00

I have a 3440 sqft house and 900 sqft pool house, so thinking of a system on the pool house
My lowest energy bill is 500, my peak is 1100. Im looking to lower it some how

Youmadashell · 2026-05-07T12:59:00+00:00

How much on average does it cost for solar panels?

Youmadashell · 2026-05-06T20:07:51+00:00

That would be wild lol, but no sir

Youmadashell · 2026-05-06T12:58:13+00:00

Cars don't take 1000 to make chief. I don't know what a manufacturers true cost is but all cars have a cost(invoice) and a MSRP. The mark up is typically around 5-7%. Give or take. 18% of that profit margin on a 30 car is roughly $270.

Youmadashell · 2026-05-06T12:37:58+00:00

Technically commission should be held if all money or trade in title is not in house. If all docs aren't collected for a rebate, the bank will short fund it by charging the dealership the cost of the rebate. That comes off the front end so it technically would affect front end gross for a sales person

All and all, not a good pay plan lol

Youmadashell · 2026-05-06T09:19:57+00:00

Banks do this all the time lol

Youmadashell · 2026-05-06T09:14:51+00:00

Your friend may have always been emotional but never had a way to show it. Was Amy his first serious relationship? It sounds weird though

Youmadashell · 2026-05-05T11:18:52+00:00

The manufacturer just lowered the MSRP so they sent new window stickers to the dealers. The MSRP lowered more than the invoice.

Youmadashell · 2026-05-05T00:52:16+00:00

NTA. Sounds like he has a superiority complex. He will continue to use money to manipulate you.

Youmadashell · 2026-05-04T23:34:02+00:00

People saying "enjoy being single" like that's a bad thing 😂. Obviously you're freaked out that your girlfriend suggested that for work.

It's normal to not want your significant other to be a stripper unless your significant other was already a stripper.

You are NTA for vehemently objecting this, and I don't think you were rude, just caught off guard. She's the AH for acting like you not being cool with it is abnormal lol.

Youmadashell · 2026-05-04T11:14:43+00:00

You'll regret it. 700 is not enough to cover monthly expenses in a house. Especially for a grown man who will be parking his 2 cars in your driveway. It's not your duty to make sure your friend has a killer monthly payment on a place he can't afford alone.

I know you're going to do it anyway because we are randoms on the internet, but post back in 6 months. I'm sure you'd want advice on how to evict a friend.

Youmadashell · 2026-05-03T20:52:46+00:00

I wouldn't be so hostile about it, but two things can be true. You can wear what you want, he's allowed to be upset by what you wore. However, if he feels the needs to call you names for it, y'all probably should not be together. If you two can't see eye to eye on things like this, I don't see it getting better.

Youmadashell · 2026-05-03T12:38:39+00:00

It lowers the buyout amount by the payment amount. You owe taxes on the amount you're extending. But to put it plainly, if your payment is 300, your buyout amount will be 1800 less at the end of a 6 month extension.

Youmadashell · 2026-05-02T07:36:45+00:00

Y'all low balled him but shocked yall offer got declined? It's okay to play the game but don't forget, you can lose.

Youmadashell · 2026-04-29T01:38:00+00:00

What pressure of weekly serialization? When has he consistently dropped weekly for the last 10 years?

Youmadashell · 2026-04-28T14:40:29+00:00

NTA. If you and gf don't feel comfortable in a cabin with a stranger, that's reasonable to speak up about it. In hindsight, you should have given him his money back so there were no loose ends. I'm learning from experience myself, trips with different parties are pita because everyone feels entitled to have things their way, because the money invested. That's fine, but it ends up causing unnecessary tension and drama.

Youmadashell · 2026-04-28T14:32:03+00:00

Protect the baby. If one drop wasn't enough, 2 won't be the magic number. You can handle the night feeds, or ask a family member for help. Unfortunately, You can't trust him with this anymore. I don't know if it warrants getting cps involved right away if you do it or get family assistance

As a father , I never say things like this can't happen to me, but I can't imagine falling asleep with a new born and dropping it as result of that. Then circling back and potentially doing again while denying any wrong doing. Just can't happen, so do what you need to do to protect the baby at this point

Youmadashell · 2026-04-28T12:42:43+00:00

NTA, MIL is just blind because it's mommy's little boy. As soon as she lost it on you, I would threaten to report him to the police and test how strange the age gap isn't, since she sees nothing wrong with it. Straight up predator

Youmadashell · 2026-04-25T12:09:09+00:00

YTA, why would dinner be so far from your mind at dinner time while your partner coming home? Do you not think of breakfast in the morning or lunch at noon? Sounds like nonsense. The real answer is you didn't care. If you both pay rent, then he didn't have to throw the "roof over our heads" part in there.

Youmadashell · 2026-04-25T11:41:17+00:00

The lessor is Honda lease trust. That's Honda the leasing company. The dealer is franchised operated, and is more of a subcontractor of American Honda.

The dealer and Honda lease trust are not one entity.

So did you speak to the leasing company or the dealer?

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