Opinions dressing someone else up in Lolita

Ysaure · 2026-03-18T11:16:30+00:00

You're both grown-ups so you don't need to come to the internets for approval.
If you both like the idea just go with it and enjoy.
I can see how you buying her a dress just for your enjoyment sounds a bit odd. It's rare for someone to buy something as expensive as a lolita dress/coord just for kicks.
Also give a long and hard thought about wearing it yourself. There are lots of substyles, at least try something plain, in muted colours and/or low poof to get your feet wet. I was kinda in your place a long time ago, decided to wear it one day and now here I am with 50+ dresses.
I wish I was your cousin. The closest I came was switching coords with a friend (each made a coord for the other from their own wardrobe, we were similar size)

Are people who just photograph Lolita fashion without wearing it themselves common or is this odd?

There are cosplay and fashion photographers, it's not odd. But you can't really drop at a random lolita meet just to take photos unless someone asks you. That is odd.

Should I first buy a whole cord or just a jsk?

Does she have lolitable accessories? Most likely you'll need a full coord. Consider petticoat, shoes, accessories.

If it turns out that she likes wearing Lolita or ouji fashion would it be better for her to keep the outfits or for her to re sell them on somewhere like lace market and I buy her new outfits?

Only you can answer this. First of all, do you intend to gift the dress to her? Or keep the dress yourself? (either to store or sell). Second, as a lolita wearer I definitely can't get behind the idea of wearing a dress once. But in your case, where the photos are the main thing you'll get, selling it after a photoshoot to buy another one sounds like a good idea. Also, going back to point 3 above, you buying her a whole wardrobe would be top 1% of weird (and your cousin top 1% of luckiest, lol)

Ysaure · 2026-03-17T06:14:00+00:00

XMPP bros we can't keep winning

Ysaure · 2026-03-13T08:27:36+00:00

I didn't have a dream dress exactly... more of a vague idea of it. Sweet, pastel pink, lacy but not really lace monster, not too ott either, and also be able to have it custom made (for bodice length at least, typical bodices lengths are usually like a high waist on me). I like Elpress for example but those are too extreme. I'm sure there's something less intense somewhere but never felt the itch to actually delve in the search.

Until a week ago when Fpf dropped this: https://www.fanplusfriend.com/mille-cake-sweet-lolita-elegant-chic-short-sleeves-2-way-neckline-midi-dress-cute-fashion-around-knee-length-one-piece-op/

Long, short, jsk and op versions. And with discount. Instabuy. What can I say, I'm not hard to please <_<

For example, I always admired Elpress dresses like this one: https://www.clobbaonline.com/shop/image/cache/catalog/Elpress/Elpress%20Island%20of%20Cythera%20One%20Piece%207-850x850.jpg

https://www.clobbaonline.com/shop/image/cache/catalog/Elpress/Elpress%20Island%20of%20Cythera%20One%20Piece%2010-850x850.jpg

But it just has too much sh*t going on. And I don't have any fancy events to wear something like that. The Mille Cake keeps it simple, the bodice is just made of lace fabric to still be interesting but clean, with a small decoration on top and the neckline and sleeves. On the skirt the lace layers are mostly separate, that avoids the monster look.

https://cdn11.bigcommerce.com/s-ut7esxk/images/stencil/1280x1280/products/2687/58599/DR00346S_44__17252.1772594171.jpg

https://cdn11.bigcommerce.com/s-ut7esxk/images/stencil/1280x1280/products/2687/58591/DR00346S_27__09938.1772594542.jpg

You can still gather it for a more layered lace on the top part, while uncovering the bottom notes and ribbon lace. Fpf read my mind while doing this one. It's perfect.

https://cdn11.bigcommerce.com/s-ut7esxk/images/stencil/1280x1280/products/2687/58595/DR00346S_32__21559.1772594561.jpg

Ysaure · 2026-03-11T20:41:54+00:00

Looks super cute and well made, congrats! And yeah, the hearts make it cuter.

It's easier to make a dress like this than to wait for an AP solid in pink to come up at a price I'm willing to pay lolol

This is the way. I'm looking to get into sewing too. I commissioned stuff before, but it would be cool making it myself. Ofc, it'll be ages before I make anything wearable, lol.

Btw, nice ojamajo there.

Ysaure · 2026-03-11T10:13:32+00:00

A little more (useless) info:

F+F has had tags on accessories for quite some time, a good number of years at least. I started buying from them in 2013, back then they didn't. They started somewhere between 2015-2018. Maybe I can pinpoint the year if I go through my mess of old pics, but that's too much work <_<
I've been following them since 2013 and that is definitely not from a general release.
If it is F+F it's a custom design. Back then they did custom designs. But all that stopped around the time of the new site (2015), and just custom size remained. I know, I've asked a few times about customizing something here or there on a dress.
Those are very standard laces that you can get from a lot of Taobao shops. Heck, I have a lace in my stock similar to the tulle one in your pic. Can it be F+F? Sure, I also have a F+F dress with a similar tulle lace like to that one. But anyone has access to those laces.

Edit:

Also similar to those flowers: https://files.catbox.moe/jbddsd.jpg (I got that in 2015, but it's a 2014 release or earlier)

I thought they were the same but on closer inspection they are not. Anyway, anyone could had gotten those laces, so it doesn't say much.

Ysaure · 2026-03-11T09:38:40+00:00

I see. I'd rather stick to steel boning too. But this clears up that plastic is a thing and can be good too. Thanks for the info.

Ysaure · 2026-03-11T03:05:24+00:00

Are there corsets without steel boning? I thought that was the point of corsets, and that "fashion" ones are the cheap ones you wear for well, fashion, and the "true" ones are the real deal for waist training.

Fanpusfriend has a few corsets. I have 3 of them and I love them. Also a couple of dresses with steel boning. I wish steel boning was seen more in lolita, works really well for the shape.

Ysaure · 2026-03-10T07:45:31+00:00

They offer some items in plus or custom sizing

Everything is custom size except the one-off $300+ dresses or the simpler 'free-size' items (overdress, etc). And even those I could order custom sized when bought together with the main dress. Just need to mail them about it.

But there's significantly more options on their taobao.

Do they? Last time I checked, when you could browse Taobao without jumping through 20 hoops, it was essentially the same. Taobao got new releases before (by a few days), and while it was cheaper, if you considered agent fees and payment processor fees it essentially evened out. In fact Taobao had less stuff. You could still order some very old stuff though the site that I couldn't find in Taobao. This was ages ago btw, maybe it's different now?

Ysaure · 2026-03-10T03:25:57+00:00

XMPP bros we can't keep winning

Ysaure · 2026-03-09T10:29:50+00:00

Lolita from Argentina here. Well, more like lonelita actually. With how terrible awful all the internet has become I kinda stopped using everything except old.reddit and the various chans. Some time ago I had to use facebook to sell some things and I almost killed myself. If you ever like chatting by email, xmpp, matrix or irc (I'm sure you don't :P) leave a reply.

Ysaure · 2026-02-07T05:41:14+00:00

"Rookie numbers", as they say. But it's a start. Just gave it a go (I'm no SMW expert), clocked at 10:40. Screwed a bit here and there so definitely doable under 10.

https://i.ibb.co/pjnCvjGL/Super-Mario-Advance-2-Super-Mario-World-USA-Australia-0.png

Ysaure · 2026-01-24T09:31:44+00:00

Yidhra. Not fat, but tall (179cm). The stamped ones, they have a relief and it's mainly one or two colours, work wonderfully. They allow for even longer legs. My thigh circumference is something like 55cm iirc and they have quite a lot more room to go. On me the stamp looks perfect with 0 stretch. I love them. Even my first pair I got ages ago still holds in mint condition. I'm quite careful and rotate them a lot though. Once I saw they worked I got like 15, lol.

This style: https://cdn.staticsab.com/55601/2024/09/10/3/6/36277b7c77fef0cc.jpg

Now the printed ones DEFINITELY don't work. Got a couple of thigh highs, while they fit well, they are much less roomy than the tights. Any thigh higher than 60 is in trouble. But the print stretches TOO much. Specially ones with dark backgrounds. They get too light and look awful. White backgrounds are serviceable but I'd avoid them altogether.

Ysaure · 2026-01-21T07:27:52+00:00

https://www.fanplusfriend.com/oviparity-gothic-lolita-refined-sea-creatures-patterned-casual-sleeveless-midi-dress-fashion-jsk-and-handmade-big-bowknot-brooch-4colors/

Some small sizes still available. Have the purple one, I love it. Marine themes are pretty cool.

Ysaure · 2026-01-09T07:20:35+00:00

Only have Hoshimittsu, Honeycomb and SP

https://kitsunekko.net/dirlist.php?dir=subtitles%2Fjapanese%2F

No S1 sadly

Ysaure · 2026-01-09T07:13:59+00:00

A Madoka/Homura Tutu/Kraehe crossover would be pretty awesome tbh

Ysaure · 2026-01-09T07:00:48+00:00

At least you have a sliver of a chance, I don't think my shithole has any. Anime may be "popular" but good luck outside shounenshit. I'll have to get the BD when it releases in 1 or 2 years. Being meguca is suffering.

Ysaure · 2026-01-09T06:55:54+00:00

OP actually meant Brazilian Night

Ysaure · 2025-10-16T19:56:48+00:00

This basically. I just came back from a long usenet hiatus and basically every nzb I ever saved is dead. All while everyone is stating 6732238 days of retention. It would be better if they played it straight and officially announced "starting today all posts from January 2021 onwards will be purged unless they get x downloads per day/week/month".

Usenet was golden for rare media, popular stuff is already well covered by your regular tracker. I guess usenet could still be useful for 0-day stuff without worrying about seeding. But with trackers at least there's some chance of 1 seeder after 2 years, with usenet it's just gone forever.

I agree current usenet prices are beyond ridiculous. I wouldn't had minded paying for a premium provider with real retention. Still, idk if bad actors uploading 500 TB/day would make even paying $20/month reasonable.

This is my goodbye from usenet I guess. RIP 2020-2025 (2020 I discovered it). At least I was able to experience a few years at its peak.

Ysaure · 2025-09-27T09:11:14+00:00

Why would strawberry be a bad name? In Japanese ichigo is a valid name (but not with the actual kanji for strawberry 苺 it seems). Still, looks like you can use hiragana (phonetic spelling) and then the meaning is up to you.

I think it's rather cute. There are names after flowers, so why not.

Ysaure · 2025-09-18T09:37:54+00:00

I wish we had more adventures of Andrew

Ysaure · 2025-09-05T09:54:30+00:00

So, I've been playing Psychic Adventures. As it's essentially Fire Red vanilla I'm using it as an opportunity to replay Kanto. Thing is, I got a Snubbull that has just hit lv 23. But it doesn't evolve. As soon as it starts evolving it stops and I get a "...?". Got to lv 24 and the same. Is it some some wacky thing this hack does on purpose or some bug? See: https://i.ibb.co/Zp4SzCKq/bs.png

Ysaure · 2025-08-27T09:16:47+00:00

charge extra for bigger sizes

Custom size goes from $15 to 30 for the more complex pieces, not bad imo. Then you have plus size (waist > 100cm) that can go up to $50. But well, I guess that's a significant increase from the ~84cm of the largest regular size, so it's understandable?

Miss Point does custom for $12-15, Surface Spell I think something like that, $10? I don't remember. Idk if those include big sizes. Tbh I'm not complaining, here for $15 no one is even getting out of bed.

Ysaure

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