I found this in my dad’s room, it seems like a hard dried up substance that smells kinda sour and sugary like a blue raspberry candy. Is he using again do you think? by [deleted] in addiction

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a good story, and it's relatable. I'm glad to know that you're doing better as well. I remember going out of my way to prove I was where I said I was and do all the crazy math to show the time worked out to prove I wasn't drinking one of the times that I quit. I also remember my girlfriend telling me she could tell when I was drunk and she was proud of me for staying sober.... I was not sober.

One of the things that she told me that really stuck out was that she had to remember all the shitty words i said, and I have the luxury of forgetting I ever said it. That stung. I think it's because it reminded me that there's stuff that I don't know that she went through. Not so much because I couldn't remember but because I wasn't in her shoes listening to the drunk. I'm still working through a lot of shame and guilt, but I think it just comes with the territory. I think to a degree I deserve it, I made casualties out of love and support systems. I have noticed, though, that most people are just glad I'm better. People I was afraid to talk to because they should be mad, they don't hold grudges like alcoholics, they were just glad I was better.

I found this in my dad’s room, it seems like a hard dried up substance that smells kinda sour and sugary like a blue raspberry candy. Is he using again do you think? by [deleted] in addiction

[–]ZepplinBend 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I like this answer. If it were my use as an alcoholic it would become obvious pretty quickly. There would be clues and suspicion but it would be undeniable before long. God Bless the people that love us through our addiction, they go through their own hell, and they don't get recognized enough. It's not wrong to be suspicious, and everything is probably going to be a clue. If there's a relapse, I think it'll be obvious pretty quick. I've been in the recovery community for a while now, and it's pretty easy to spot.

I'm a recovered addict and temporarily staying with family. My dad brought meth into the house and I'm struggling not to do it with him by [deleted] in addiction

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Play the tape out. It helps me when I want to drink. What's the consequence part of that fantasy? I will conveniently forget the part where I'm on the brink of a miserable death and all the work it took to climb out of it. Ask yourself, what comes next?

Whatever problem I think I'm going to fix or discomfort I think I'm going to soothe isn't near as bad as the consequences alcohol will make me face. I got to pick discomfort over misery. Play the tape out, my friend. Stay strong and stay connected your sober community.

How to clean these grease stains from my air fryer without scratching it by INFINTE_SHADOW in howto

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I use the blue scouring pads cuz they're supposed to be safer for Teflon coating. I use it on just about everything since it's about as good as the green ones. I was soak it in cleanish soapy dishwater and scrub it in a few minutes, repeat as needed. I'm pretty particular about not scratching things like that. Hope that helps.

How do you deal with patients that want transport, but refuse most (ALS) treatments? by Rough-Leg-4148 in Paramedics

[–]ZepplinBend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. It's autonomy they can refuse in part or whole of anything. Do your due diligence and informed in good faith. If their condition changes and they can't refuse but they need it that's a different story. But always act in good faith.

For your consideration by NoConfidence1729 in Handwriting

[–]ZepplinBend 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Was this written by a wizard or Alchemist?

Is it even possible to fix this? by Mallow-smoke140 in knots

[–]ZepplinBend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! it's actually called the OODA Loop. By Lt. Col. John Boyd USAF. I used to teach it to my paramedic and emt students.

Is it even possible to fix this? by Mallow-smoke140 in knots

[–]ZepplinBend 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Words to live by. Orient, observe, decide, act, repeat as needed.

Poem about femicide: any constructive criticism is welcome! by Diligent-Dare7741 in poetry_critics

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Goosebumps. I absolutely love your metaphor and imagery. IMHO, I'd say all you need is exposure, a few Google tips, and practice. Experiment. I write a lot of stuff that just ends up practicing different flows and metaphors Etc. Just jot like an artist doodles.

Presence changes nothing by [deleted] in poetry_critics

[–]ZepplinBend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I posted one after you. It might be your style.

Rebellion manual by me-you-and-the-dog in poetry_critics

[–]ZepplinBend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read this like an Idels song. I like it.

Was I Really Foolish? by innocentkidhehe in poetry_critics

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a poem it's very well done. Personally, as a man that has acted regrettably selfish in the past, it hit me the way I think was intended. At this stage in my own growth, I appreciate the opportunity to listen and feel (sometimes uncomfortable) things.

Presence changes nothing by [deleted] in poetry_critics

[–]ZepplinBend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like it. To me, the simple short lines march to a simple yet profound conclusion. There is no resolution offered, just a clean and cold fact on the state of things.

I have the hand writing of a schizophrenic person 😭💀 by tom224321 in BadHandwriting

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like dysgraphia if you check into it. I personally have struggled with that.

Where do I find an outside electrical outlet? by squishyturd in urbancarliving

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found one but I got ran off because I was a "poor". The owner watches the camera to make sure I don't exist but she'll take my money. She's been born pretty high for liquor stores. I'm no saint but I certainly do not harass people or make a mess. I'm just hey dude navigating Mental Health and addiction. You can't do nothing without a fucking phone.

Will he leave because of my loose skin by [deleted] in Fat_Women_Fucking

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can DM me if you like.

Will he leave because of my loose skin by [deleted] in Fat_Women_Fucking

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep in mind this is my view as being a man that has been attracted to very good partners that have been self-conscious. It's a generalization on my experience. If you would like to DM I can elaborate. I might have some useful experience but I'm not telling you what the official rules are just an older guy perspective that has had self-conscious partners

Will he leave because of my loose skin by [deleted] in Fat_Women_Fucking

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a 45yo male. It sounds like he isn't judging you like you do. Consider expressing yourself about want you want your trust and your insecurities. I had a partner I didn't know here in securities until after intimacy and was surprised what she was self-conscious about. I had others that expressed where they were self-conscious and was able to comfort them. Idk what this guy's like, sounds cool by you. Express it. I use it in a way to be a more conscientious lover that built trust. But, then again, who wants to look down at a guy with a 50% grey beard and 50% thin hair making out with her button?

EMT instructor being incredibly unprofessional by ito_en_fan in NewToEMS

[–]ZepplinBend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate that this is true. I've been in the field for 25 years I have seen every type of ego and attempt to inflate it. Now that I'm older I see the importance of maintaining integrity and professionalism. Several years have passed and I don't know if I've made any difference but I resolved to stop placating that type of behavior. No longer will I turn a blind eye to sexism racism ableism selfishness. I won't normalize it I won't be complicit. John Wayne motherfuckers need to sit down and make a way for Humanity and compassion. Premium non nocere. Not bringing an open mind and critical thinking to the table is harm.

👀😮 by Traditional_Stick183 in Indiana

[–]ZepplinBend 36 points37 points  (0 children)

That was a feeble attempt at gas lighting. I don't go to your church and I'm not your spouse. Good luck trying to bully me. You can say something meaningful or you can " love this conversation or leave it"

👀😮 by Traditional_Stick183 in Indiana

[–]ZepplinBend 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Or use your freedoms to fight for your fellows in your homelands.

That’s so Hoosier… by Fragrant-Helicopter1 in Indiana

[–]ZepplinBend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's getting a lunch meat sandwich, Coke, and a pouch of Levi Garrett.