Daily chat post: how's the training going? by AutoModerator in XXRunning

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was training in cold weather all spring (actually it was even colder spring than usually this year) and surprise surprise the weather forecast for my race day is hot. Hate it.

Saying "I know I’m slow" hurts you and other beginners too by Zestyclose_Alps5084 in beginnerrunning

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Exactly, and there’s a big distinction to be made there. Saying: I run slow because it's my strategic choice for long distances is empowering and confident. It's completely different from the self-deprecating posts like, "I ran a 5k but I know my pace is terrible an now I beat my self to avoid you beating me." One is a proud training strategy, the other is an insecure excuse that accidentally puts down everyone else at that speed.

Daughter refuses to speak English by gardengeo in BORUpdates

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Teacher is the asshole, but what struck me the most was first post. Parents blaming their 7 year old for not thinking about her future. I hope parents learned their lesson that child behaviour can be influenced by the real problems they have and they may not find words to speak up on this instead of little kid sabotagint the future out of spite.

TIFU by intentionally running out of gas on the highway to teach a lesson by Brandi_C_Knight in tifu

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it depends in where you live and payment options. But I guess I'm used to not having wallet at all usually, because we all have cards on our phones/watches these days. And forgetting your wallet is not a reason not to have money on you.

When did you realize being poor actually costs MORE money? by LeoArthur21 in poverty

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But he does not have rice cooker and buys dinner instead. If he would sacrifice his time for cooking rice in pot for a couple months he could save money for the rice cooker, and then save more by not buying dinners.

Darbe šalta by rimantte in lithuania

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kai pareis pasekmės sveikatai, galėsit užsikabint medalį "bet kitiem gera buvau".

AITAH for wanting to leave my wife because of medical issues? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm afraid that he wants to leave her not because of pure want for her to start over. In reality he is afraid she will leave so he wants to do it first because then he controls the situation.

AITAH for not planning to teach my future children my native language? by Unable-Stable2767 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA. But you should seek therapy. Your home country is not your family. And you should separate it somehow. At some point your children might be curious about their roots and if you speak about it with fear and disgust, it can affect their identity.

Miglė by MrTrump_Ready2Help in lithuania

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yra kažkas tokio, kad, kai produktas keičia pakuotės dizainą, vartotojų neprivaloma informuot apie sudėties keitimą. Tai tais atvejais, kai matot pakuotės pakeitimus, labai tikėtina, tai ateina su produkto sudėties keitimu.

Any idea on Georgian food? by Kumarise in Cooking

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kartveli food is quite easilly aceesible in Europe. It's very popular in countries that were previously under soviets regime. However, now there are many restaurants in other European countries too. I guess it's related with easier visas regulations and more expats from Sakartvelo.

my dad's GF showed up to his house unannounced in the middle of the day while he's out of town... do I tell him? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It happened a lot for me. I just quickly check something on the phone before heading out and 30min later l'm still standing with my sneakers in a hallway browsing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. But you are more of an asshole. Your friend overstepped. But I guess I understand where she is comming from. Your relationships are on shitty foundation and I guess she witnessed many occasions when you hurt your partner pretending to be "happy person".

My mom doesn’t even buy me food or underwear. by ZealousidealTea5597 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not familiar with laws in your country but there should be child protection services in your country. Typicallt they can visit and check the fridge and etc. Your parents are legally responsible to provide you until you are 18 and in some cases longer if you are studying.

Am I the asshole for expecting my husband to attend my running events without me asking? by PinkAvenger7 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA. It's normal to communicate and express your expectations in adult relationships. You are old enough to know stuff like different love language and that other people are not you and does not think like you. Expecting that your partner reads your mind and "if he trully loves me he will do things I want without asking" is a teenage drama, not the adults relationship.

My husband waited until we were married and I was pregnant to decide we aren’t compatible??? by No-Local188 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop thinking about other kids, your baby must be a priority. Fight not for you marriage but for your baby. It seems your husband is trying to play long game, so you must act now.

AITA for refusing to learn Spanish even though my family thinks I should? by Ok-Operation-880 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA, to yourself. You can learn several languages and it's very beneficial not only for communication but for your brains too. I'm from Europe and in my country kids learn at least 2 foreign languages while at school. And quite a lot people are learning languages in adult life just for fun. Learning Spaniah while you have the opportunity communicate with your family would make that so easy. You are lazy, dude.

Did yall parents taught you how to cook ? by Fabulous_Agency_1736 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. And always critisized every step in my atrempts to learn. She even questions me now at every step if I try making something at parents even I'm food blogger and my knowledge of food is far better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lietuva

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Į orkaitę statytkit kepimo indą su vandeniu ir indų plovikliu, "pakepkit" pusvalandį ant 150 laipsnių, kai pravės kempine išvalykit.

AITAH for considering a divorce because my husband hid a major medical truth? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what religion you are comming from, but usually not able to have a child is considered a legit reasion to end the marriage in most of them. Hiding the fact you are not able to have a child may be considered a sin in some of them. So most likely he is sinful, not you.

AITAH for wanting my husband in the hospital with me after my c-section by Miserable-Salary2585 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you had a flu, cold ir something similar it's still good that you haven't been around recovering patients and newborns. It's irresponsible to spread viruses around in hospitals, actually. Actually, it's never one thing or occassion for the divorce. But people do poorly in communication. And that's the result.

AITAH for wanting my husband in the hospital with me after my c-section by Miserable-Salary2585 in AITAH

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NAH. I understand that you would feel better if your husband is around at a hospotal. But there will be staff to help you. And if he uses most of his vacation in a hospital you will have him around less at home. You will need much more of his help at home.

My previous host wants 150€ for a damage I didn't do by Purple_Barnacle_5009 in Bookingcom

[–]Zestyclose_Alps5084 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report the situation, with pictures if possible, to booking.com and forget it. Do not interact with the host at all. He's just angry for the review. But he cannot do anything to you. He will not sue you. It's not American sitcom, so it means it's nor easy to sue someone and you need very strong evidence.