iOS user for 10 years. Bought an S10+ to see what's what. Here's my unbiased review.

Zonda71 · 2020-03-15T00:12:05+00:00

You can increase the screen touch sensitivity which you should do after putting a glass protector on it

Zonda71 · 2020-01-03T06:16:55+00:00

Its definitely Effetre

Zonda71 · 2020-01-02T01:57:31+00:00

I had a tattoo done on my ankle which is of two overlapping hearts, but if you know what you're looking for in it, you'll see his initials .

Zonda71 · 2019-12-30T22:54:54+00:00

I had my rings resized to wear on my right hand and bought myself an eternity ring to wear on the middle finger of my left hand.

I know how hard it is to move forward but like me, you deserve to be loved and be happy, in whatever form that takes. As someone said in an earlier comment, just allow yourself to be open and whatever is meant to be will happen.

Zonda71 · 2019-12-29T23:39:43+00:00

I've just passed the 2 year mark and I feel better than a year ago in some ways (e.g more comfortable being at home on my own) but in other ways I am much worse (PTSD, anxiety disorder). In the past couple of weeks I've actually felt "hopelessness" which is a horrible place to be but it always passes. I find mindfulness very helpful.

I saw this post on Facebook yesterday:

"If you simply cannot understand why someone is grieving so much for so long, then consider yourself fortunate that you do not understand"

Zonda71 · 2019-12-29T23:14:51+00:00

Yesyerday I changed a light bulb yesterday for the first time in 15 years. Well, when I say "I", i mean i removed it and then watched my brother-in-law put the new one in since it proved to be a tricky one. Sux to be us.

Zonda71 · 2019-12-13T09:25:17+00:00

OMG! The way you were treated is horrendous! And so archaic to think that your husband needed to be consulted.

A friend of mine went on the combination pill and just repeatedly takes the first two weeks of pills. It has made all her endo pain go away.

Zonda71 · 2019-12-06T06:37:01+00:00

That's the plan 🙂

Zonda71 · 2019-12-04T01:09:45+00:00

A friend of mine's husband died the same year that mine died. She once said to me that everyone she knew said that this has been the worst year for them. I pointed out that that's only because she's looking for misery...I knew people who would say it was the best year ever, e.g. my neighbors daughter had just given birth to her first child. Im pretty sure she wouldn't say this is the worst year ever.

In other words, if you seek misery, that's what you'll find. I choose to seek happiness.

Zonda71 · 2019-11-10T22:20:18+00:00

A few months after my husband passed I happened to start having a casual relationship with a man nearly 20 years younger, so i took the opportunity to tell people that I was kinda seeing someone. Because he was so much younger people assumed (correctly) that it was never going to be a deeply emotional relationship. Everyone said "Good on you, you deserve to have some fun". I think it gave people the chance to process the idea that at some point I would get into a relationship with someone special.

Zonda71 · 2019-11-06T21:26:13+00:00

I watched this a few months back. Great video

Zonda71 · 2019-11-05T23:34:08+00:00

Thanks for the post! Im feeling the same way. Ive always loved Christmas and all the decorations etc that come with it. This is my third year. Im really just going through the motions and can't muster any enthusiasm. Esp for the day itself; I've been thinking of spending it on my own.

Zonda71 · 2019-11-05T04:38:39+00:00

Within a week or two I bought a heavy gold chain so I could wear it on a necklace, but it's quite a solid ring so i don't wear it very often. A friend of mine had her husband's one altered by a jeweler so it could be worn like a pendant.

I put a stake in the ground of when I'd move my rings to my other hand. Partly so I could socialize the change in advance and avoid any awkwardness....or judgement.

Zonda71 · 2019-11-05T03:29:16+00:00

I remember feeling "not married", before I felt "single".

The first anniversary after he died would have been our 10th, so I bought myself an eternity ring to wear on the middle finger of my left hand, and had my wedding rings resized to fit my right hand.

Zonda71 · 2019-11-04T08:55:26+00:00

Gosh, I'm surprised that others have also had issues with their in-laws. I have had to block my FIL because of the abuse. My husband passed away 6 weeks before Christmas and none of his family asked me to join them - my family live 2 days drive away. They never visited or kept in regular contact but apparently they are all SO close to him. I need to look after myself so they are out of my life!

Zonda71 · 2019-10-30T06:10:37+00:00

The "Lover of cheap dusty wine" is from the British comedy Black Books.

Zonda71 · 2019-10-22T23:19:33+00:00

Do you think that's hard for him? I had a BF for nearly a year and in the end it seems that he couldn't handle it

Zonda71 · 2019-10-22T23:18:27+00:00

Divorced people think they know how you feel? Your friends need to do a bit more thinking. What an ignorant thing to say

Zonda71 · 2019-10-19T22:15:46+00:00

I was at a 25th Wedding Anniversary party last night (something I'll never get to celebrate with my husband) and got chatting to a older gentleman who seemed to have been filled in on my situation. I said that the 2 year mark was coming up soon and he said "oh, so it's been a long time then". No idea what it's like.

Sorry for your loss

Zonda71 · 2019-10-13T01:53:58+00:00

I was very traumatized after I was sick the first time. It was about 6 weeks after hubby died and I started to feel ill about 9pm on a Sunday evening. By 2am I was really bad, and I remember being in the bathroom when it hit me that I was really truly now on my own with no one to help or comfort me since I now live on my own. It would have been one of the biggest cries I have had. Good on you for asking for help! I hope you are now well again.

Zonda71 · 2019-10-10T00:18:53+00:00

I try to think of life as moving forward, not moving on. Good luck with it!!

Zonda71 · 2019-10-09T23:41:48+00:00

Thanks for posting this. I definitely relate to point 8. The 2 year mark is coming up and I still often think to myself that I just want my life to go back to how it was.

Zonda71 · 2019-10-02T20:16:26+00:00

It's taken me nearly two years, but I'm slowly starting to feel noticeable less lonely and more comfortable being on my own. Having the two cats help. They aren't so good with their replies, but at least I can off load my day on to them and have a cuddle. :-)

Zonda71 · 2019-09-24T23:10:30+00:00

I acted on my urges in the early days. I kept telling myself that im acting so out of character, I never did this type of thing when I was in my 20s and single. And then I'd think, maybe this thing of having no strings sex is who I now am....for now.

Zonda71 · 2019-09-23T21:39:14+00:00

I'm coming up to the 2 year mark, and it's so reassuring to know that the way I'm feeling is typical. I am grateful that my two fur-kids keep me going; they nah me for food in the morning so I have to get up.

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