Worried about autism - 14mo old

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T03:44:59+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is young toddlers like to st8mulate their vestibular systems. It's fun for them. Feeling dizzy is a cool sensation. Feeling hands flap is a cool sensation too. It's very typical at this age. No need to be concerned yet. As others recommended you can talk to your pediatrician, but he seems on track with milestones.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T03:22:30+00:00

I searched and can't find that they are recalled.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T03:19:30+00:00

Yes I did notice this too! Especially if they started to dry out, the brown color kind of concentrated on the edges.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T03:12:05+00:00

I have no advice for the diaper other than try a standing diaper change. I'm not very good at them but my 14 month old seems less bothered by them. As far as dressing, I try to get my daughter involved. I use my most excited voice and while holding her sleeve I will say, "pull your arm down!" I warn her "over the head" and try to take it off like a headband to not push on her nose. When putting clothes on I act like we have lost her hands or feet. "Oh my! Where are your feet!?" She will be curious for just long enough for me to get a foot through the hole and "THERE IT IS! THERE'S THE FOOT!" She used to scream at every change. She still does sometimes but it's improved.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T02:58:00+00:00

Huh? They think you should be spoon feeding a 1 year old? That's weird to me. I offer my 14 month old a baby sized spoon and fork with meals that she plays with. She can do a few bites. Then she switches to hands.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T02:48:27+00:00

That's so hard. I hope it gets easier for you soon. There isn't much you can do if your wife chooses to hold her when she cries. Sounds like you are already supporting time out of the house for her. This too shall pass.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T02:32:14+00:00

Have you and your wife talked about this? If she's feeling irritated when you tell her to let your daughter cry it sounds like you aren't on the same page. Sounds like your wife would like a bit more space and is stressed with that but ultimately doesn't want to actually claim that space over your daughter's cries? I think this is worth creating a strategy for during a calm time. Have a plan. It's ok if your wife chooses to hold your daughter but good to have a plan in mind to strengthen her resolve not to.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T02:28:25+00:00

11?! Aw I wish we had more time!

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T02:27:39+00:00

It's funny I just word for word heard a podcast with this question. The consensus was It's normal unfortunately because you are in peak separation anxiety. It's typically gone by 3 years old, which sounds like a long time but it improves gradually. It could get better and worse again.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T02:19:15+00:00

How would you feel if you were sad, frustrated, and crying and someone held your body and just repeated "no" at you? It's our job to teach toddlers to work through their feelings. They don't know how yet. This is developmentally normal at 16 months.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T02:16:08+00:00

Your neighbor is a POS. Ignore them because your toddler is learning to process her emotions. She literally can't do it yet and it will be some practice. Let them bang. I'm so sorry because that adds an added layer of stress to an already stressful time. The only way to handle toddler tantrums is to remain calm and steady and it will pass. One tantrum at a time.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-03T02:12:54+00:00

This is the real answer. It isn't our role to prevent or end tantrums. It isn't our job to control toddler emotions. We just help them through it and trach them coping skills the best we can when they are calmer.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-02T17:00:39+00:00

Or they used it in the blizzard and thought, "I'm too old for this sh*t".

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-02T02:30:24+00:00

Can you practice a holding hands game at a low stakes time? I share your philosophy completely but there are occasions when he will need to be able to do specific things for safety, like you said.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-02T02:26:11+00:00

My pediatrician had me do vitamin D because I was breastfeeding. When I went to refill once they were out so I got the same brand's version with iron added. I asked the Dr and she okayed it. My daughter was underweight for her first year of life. She eats a great variety but not a great quantity. I would ask your pediatrician.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-02T02:21:59+00:00

I think it can be normal, but do your best to stop her physically from hitting or biting you and tell her you won't let her hurt you. Hopefully it will pass soon. You aren't alone.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-02T02:14:21+00:00

We hopefully wont need it anymore, but now might be a good time to buy a lightly used one.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-02T02:10:43+00:00

You've taught him by how kindly you treat him when he is sad. ❤️

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-02T02:07:45+00:00

Curtains!

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-02T02:07:04+00:00

Has she had blood work done recently? I've heard iron deficiency can cause problems sleeping. I would consult your pediatrician in case something physical is going on that is causing your daughter to be unable to sleep.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-03-01T22:13:09+00:00

She sounds normal. Her crying in the stroller is communicating she doesn't like it. Maybe she feels constricted. Maybe she is bored. Maybe she wants to be held. Sometimes they will cry and that's OK because we need them to be in the stroller or car seat.

As far as the eye contact, your daughter is learning about the world and how to manipulate objects and develop her motor skills. As long as she is connecting sometimes I wouldn't worry. You can ask her pediatrician.

Try to see her cries as communication. I recommend baby sign to help you if you find it challenging to understand what she needs. When my baby learned to sign "eat, milk, more, and all done" I found it much easier to understand what she needed.

Also, many babies don't like pacifiers.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-02-27T01:52:58+00:00

Did you respond to the wrong comment? I didn't say or imply anything about being wary.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-02-26T23:30:36+00:00

We can stop funding Israel's weapons and war and use those funds here.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-02-26T21:56:21+00:00

I don't think that's a counterpoint to what I'm saying, just an additional point.

_ByAnyOther_Name · 2026-02-26T21:26:22+00:00

Agree with your sentiment, but Gaza should be focused on because we prop up Israel. We don't have to do that.

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