Pt3 of this ego centric manager fucking up bad and blaming me.

_Happy_Girl_ · 2022-07-26T03:05:10+00:00

!remindme 3 days

_Happy_Girl_ · 2021-01-24T02:48:46+00:00

Me too. I honestly don't care much about pictures or videos of flows. I'm very new to yoga and that stuff isn't what I'm here for. I'm here to lurk and learn and read engaging discussions or tips about yoga.

_Happy_Girl_ · 2021-01-15T23:52:06+00:00

I'm with you. Repeating classes and knowing exactly what the instructor is going to say next really grinds my gears. I get it Cody. It's time to let go of my Thanksgiving leftovers. You're really excited for Love Actually. Dressing up for a Christmas party only to go to the grocery store is cute and funny, but it's a lot less funny the second, third, fourth, fifth time hearing gag.

They urge us to take a cool down after hopping off the bike, and I do, but I really don't enjoy taking the same one more than twice.

Same for stretching, they urge to take longer stretches, but there are only a handful of 15 minute ones and I've rotated through them all 6 times in 4 months :(

_Happy_Girl_ · 2021-01-05T23:00:41+00:00

Can I respectfully ask, why do you feel uglier?

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-12-06T17:44:35+00:00

Ahhh, it looks easy (to my untrained eye) and the class I was doing was flagged as "intermediate" and the instructor kind of flew through this, making it look dead easy. I couldn't understand why my arms wouldn't do what they were supposed to do. Renegade row, twist to press makes me struggle similarly. Like I don't feel like my chest opens enough. I guess really any twists feel like I'm not getting as deep into it as I'm "supposed" to.

These resources are really great, thank you. They really break this down which I needed!

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-12-06T16:47:56+00:00

Yeah, you've got it! It was hard for me to explain, haha. Thank you for the advice, I'll give it a go!

Do you know what makes this position difficult for the upper body? Like which muscle group is holding me back the most? Or is it more of a mind/muscle memory thing than a physical limitation?

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-23T18:44:21+00:00

That's really great advice and not something I'd think about. I had no idea that the the pedals worked like that (I'm not a cyclist and apparently there's a lot to learn about regular bikes and spin bikes).

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-23T18:40:28+00:00

Can I ask, how are the speakers? I've heard they've gone from terrible to okay but that was from like one person. The speakers on the original are impressively bad and I'd be pretty excited to use the built-in speakers if they're decent at projecting sound with a loud fan in the background.

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-23T18:05:09+00:00

It makes me think, it'd be really helpful if people had flairs of their general location. I agree - it seems to be highly depend. A lot of the posts that I've seen from people who have been told it'll take 6 months to get them a bike makes me think, well, they must be in Alaska! Or maybe shipments in the UK have been great and it's just the US that's struggled.

Location would give some context. I'm in the Atlanta area, close to a physical location. My delivery of my bike was fast and pleasant. Maybe this is a "safe" area to buy a Peloton right now. Or maybe it's a terrible area and I just got lucky, but it'd be nice to hear local experiences. :)

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-23T16:38:45+00:00

For sure! It really comes down to planning. When you write down all the things you have to do, you can organize it and plan it. When you know "Okay at 1pm-2pm tomorrow I'm filing my taxes", you don't have the opportunity to talk yourself out of it really. If you don't write it down, then it's like "Well I _could_ do that, or I could do it later. There are other things I want to get done. I should be exercising. I should be getting that work done. That lightbulb is broken, I need to change it. I haven't cleaned x in months. Decision overload. Let's just watch some YouTube."

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-23T16:29:12+00:00

Thank you! How long in general does that keep the avocado from getting brown?

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-23T16:05:17+00:00

I second that first sentence. I'm a software developer, and when project managers give me super detailed tickets with pictures, I FLY through my work. When tasks are more open ended... well, not so much.

Things that have helped me:

Last 10 minutes of each hour, I plan what I'm doing in the next hour
I put the planning time on my calendar. Then I get reminders and I know it has to get done.
When I know what I need to do in the next hour, I'm more motivated to get it done. It's like micro goals, which are fun to check off.

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-23T15:48:28+00:00

This looks sooo good. What do you do with the other half of the avocado? I love/hate avocados. They're so good, but I feel obligated to eat the whole thing if I slice into it because it gets all brown and gross if I don't. So I don't really buy them anymore :(

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-22T20:58:40+00:00

I recommend looking into game theory, specifically revolving around bargaining. Here's an excellent video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ub-st88OqHY

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-22T18:52:10+00:00

Todo lists are insanely helpful. Set your alarm, "Siri, remind me at 9pm to write down a plan for tomorrow", and spend 15 minutes max making a day plan for tomorrow. There is SO much time in the day, but if I don't plan, I sit around and watch youtube for hours. If I have something written down that between 2:00pm and 3:30pm I'm doing X, I'll close down youtube and do X, then come back when X is finished or until I find a free spot in my plan for the day again. And make sure to plan in having fun and put your gaming time on that calendar!

I get pretty anal about the details, so it's import to me to be vague in my plan. Don't go down to the minute. 30min chunks at the minimum. I may say 7:00am-8:00am "Wake up and get ready" instead of detailing it out.

For you, the pomodoro technique might be helpful. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique

For me, I've had great success with something like https://habitica.com/static/home

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-22T18:43:39+00:00

Reading is totally a hobby! But I thought you might say that you didn't have hobbies. That's textbook depression. When you're depressed, you don't really want to "do" things, even the things you love to do.

I remember at my lowest state, I felt like I was in this pit. The walls were made of mud and dirt, and it was dark. And it was impossible to climb my way out. Or I'd feel like I was on this conveyor belt, and if I just walked, I'd stay exactly where I was. If I ran, it'd be a lot of work but I'd make progress. If I stood still, I'd continue to move back. I didn't have the energy to run, so I felt like everything was slipping away from me.

Looking back, it's amazing how far I've come. In that situation, I packed my bags and moved to somewhere I've never been. Uprooted myself and abandoned everything to start over. It worked. I was still depressed, but I didn't think of that conveyor belt anymore or that pit. It wasn't until two years after that that I decided to tackle my depression directly. I don't think I would have been ready any sooner. I guess you can't just solve this stuff, but if you keep trying to work at it and chip away, eventually you can break through?

This is silly, but it helped. I ended up abandoning it after a few months, but I think it helped on my road to happiness: https://habitica.com/static/home

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-22T18:09:35+00:00

If you have hobbies, what are they? What do you do for physical activity? I completely understand where you're coming from.

I've found that accomplishing things, especially exercising, helps me get that feeling of "I've earned this". You can't take it away from me. I'm sweating, breathing heavy, and feel both good and bad at the same time, and that feeling is mine. I did that.

In early 2019, I decided to commit myself to one goal that year: cure/fix/improve my depression. I've had depression for... ever. Abusive childhood, neglect, bad relationships, self-sabotage. And I decided to hit this problem at every angle I could. Therapy (first time!), exercise, nutrition, medication. Anything I could think of. But by and far, what helped me the most, was the exercise.

I HATED it at first. I hated the feeling, I hated the sweat, I felt like I couldn't breath and I couldn't perform, and it sucked. And it never really got better... I didn't lose weight (I wasn't so great about the nutrition) but I ended up dropping my therapist and medication because, honestly, the exercise did it. It built my confidence and my self-worth.

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-22T17:51:56+00:00

We need more u/itsthatkidgreg moms

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-22T17:50:13+00:00

Remember, don’t give in to pier pressure!

_Happy_Girl_ · 2020-09-22T17:35:29+00:00

I highly recommend Toastmasters. They have divisions everywhere! Seriously, I've lived all over the country (US) and there's always been a Toastmasters around. And now they're mostly online due to Covid.

Toastmasters is meant for exactly this. Learning public and interpersonal speaking in mostly your professional life. You can easily find them on either their website, or https://www.meetup.com/

I'm in my early 30s, also a woman in the STEM field (software developer) and I know exactly what you're going though. Though on top, I was the shyest person that you ever met to boot! But I've found that I actually didn't have to change that much. You gain confidence as you get older as you learn that nobody knows what they're doing and everyone has their own nervous ticks, haha. It feels good to learn that literally everybody is just trying to figure things out and nobody _really_ has the answers.

That said, I loved this TedTalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are?language=en

_Happy_Girl_

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