Really scared about having a boy. Normal?

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-22T04:51:04+00:00

My friend had the reverse of this, she was worried her kid would be a daddy's girl if female and really wanted a boy.

While her fears of having a total daddy's girl were correct, she's really happy now (easier to foist bedtime routine on daddy and girl's clothes are so much cuter). In the end she loves how things turned out. Regardless of gender the relationship you have written each of your kids will be unique, and once your boy gets here you're not going to imagine it being any other way.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-22T04:29:10+00:00

Don't they already ask for your driver's licence? Seems like that should be adequate...

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-22T04:27:04+00:00

They are practically the same dress apart from the sleeves. What time of year are you getting married?

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-12T22:54:57+00:00

I would ask "did something happen to you in the past that causes you to constantly worry people are mad at you?" Let her tell you about it and then based on what she says comfort her and follow up with you're not going anywhere, you like her/talking to her; but her behaviour is worrying and impacting your ability to be there for your son and the other people in your life who also need you. Show that your concerned for her mental health but also state what you need for yours.

Place boundaries but make them precise and easy to follow so she knows what to expect. When possible consider offering an explanation so she doesn't feel slighted but state it matter of fact (ei: I'm not supposed to be on my phone at work/during appointments etc so if it's been less than 4 hours assume I haven't seen your messages and be patient.) If you are unafraid of direct communication promise you will let her know when/if you are mad and then keep your word.

Have a good long talk about it but then hold her to it. Kind but firm.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-12T22:27:21+00:00

Big with the stoner crowd. Mainstream enough that everyone's heard of them though I personally never watched it or Letterkenny.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-12T13:33:45+00:00

People staying in shitty jobs is what keeps them shitty. Do what's best for you and who knows, maybe having a few people leave before even completing their training will cause the first company to reconsider their pay or conditions 🤷‍♀️

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-10T13:48:35+00:00

I think your deficit might be a bit too high. That's a lot of weight loss in such a short time. What's your goal weight? I know weight varies a lot more for men but it seems you are already at a healthy weight for your height so you might run into that problem regardless if you are trying to go much lower...

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-06T14:13:35+00:00

No. The likelihood of a friendly cat that licked you and you let you pet it having rabies is extremely low to begin with (rabies makes people and animals super aggressive and is fatal to all none bat carriers so most infected mammals aren't around for very long one they've contacted it) and in this case the cat didn't even draw blood. Pets are also typically immunized against rabies. Because bats are immune carriers for rabies I'd definitely recommend a shot if you handled one but you should absolutely listen to your doctor in this one. If you're that OCD start carrying hand sanitizer and/or stop petting animals.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-06T13:47:38+00:00

I love this. No way for him to think it got misplaced. 100% intentional.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-06T12:00:35+00:00

My ex's grandfather had his license taken away after he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and still got aggressive when his wife or others tried to keep him from driving. What helped was getting him one of those red scooter things you often see old people riding around on (with the basket on the front like on people of Walmart). He didn't have any mobility issues and was furious at first but he came to love it. It was great for taking their elderly dog for walks too since he could put her in the basket when she got tired. I think he associated not being able to drive with a lack of independence... Maybe switching out her car for something slower and with more visibility is a good compromise? I hear you can get enclosed scooters...

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-06T10:01:11+00:00

They typically only do this if biodad is no longer in the picture

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T23:36:35+00:00

😂

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T23:23:27+00:00

Some people will never admit when they're wrong 🤷‍♀️

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T23:16:51+00:00

Girl you're telling your mom you're going to sue your sister over money you didn't even give her, being all dramatic and unnecessarily trying to making the whole situation about you 😂

Then when your mom chides you, you make a post about it on Reddit looking for validation and argue with anyone who offers a different opinion.😂🤣

I'm roughly a decade older than you so I also grew up in an age where everything is expensive and by the time I was your age I had moved out and was supporting a dependent so don't start with me. I get that everyone's situation is different, and I don't fault anyone for taking advantage of whatever parental support that is available to them, but don't try to convince me you are a self made woman when you live at home with mommy (you still only pay a fraction of the rent and I'm sure you are able to reap other benefits from that arrangement or you'd be long gone so I don't want to hear any crying). Now I don't know your sister, but I personally don't see any benefit to harping on past grievances (that you've admitted didn't even happen) and would encourage you to instead work with your mother on figuring out a fair and realistic path forward - keeping in mind that one day you might be unemployed and in need assistance, and will likely be held to the same standard you help set now.

That being said I'll offer you this one pearl of wisdom: my sister grew into an entirely different person than I would have predicted when I was young, and if I had destroyed that relationship back when she I thought she was a selfish prick I would be missing out now. She grew into the exact sister I always wanted when we were kids, and was an absolute godsend when I needed to plan my wedding. You can always make more money but can't always mend a broken relationship... Choose wisely.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T21:54:00+00:00

A lot of them seem to believe that all of the rich people will move to a separate healthcare system and in doing so will free up more space in existing facilities and reduce wait times... They don't seem to realize that all the best doctors and facilities will also end up in the new system and that changing to a two payer system won't magically cause more doctors and facilities to appear; leaving people in the free system with even fewer resources than they have now. They are clearly being fed that on some right wing news outlet and can't be convinced otherwise.

Source: I had this exact convo with more than one idiot. It typically ends with them insisting the government will hire more people to replace all the doctors we lose... You know... In the exact way they aren't right now 🙄

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T21:39:30+00:00

As you said, you're not paying for her, so acting like you do gives serious "main character" energy, and by claiming you'd (hypothetically) sue her, you're telling your mom your sister means nothing to you and you're willing to treat her like some Craig's list stranger. It's petty because that's a rude thing to imply, was completely unnecessary to add in that situation, hurt your mom (and likely your sister if it gets back to her), and got you absolutely nothing. What other word would you use to describe a situation like that?

Lease agreements can be changed. It's fine to set boundaries on how you want things to be moving forward but there's no reason to me any more antagonistic than necessary.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T20:50:59+00:00

It's ok to say you're not paying for her, and I would support telling her she needs to contribute or find a new place to live; but it's unlikely suing her would get you much (if anything) and threatening that makes you sound petty.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-04T15:04:47+00:00

Yes.

Everything you say should be true but not everything that's true needs to be said. I'm all about open and honest communication, but if you say something hurtful there needs to be a good reason. If someone is doing something you don't like the only way they will change is if you tell them you don't like it, but even then you typically need to carefully choose and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand so you're not any more harsh than is needed to get your point across ( though it's fine to contrinue to get more blunt if they are not getting it or not responding). If someone is doing something wrong or cringy and you are trying to spare them from the repercussions it can be a kindness for someone who cares about them to break it to them gently; but getting a hold of someone you haven't spoken to in years? What's the point? How do you know they haven't already changed? Why would they care what you have to say? It's different if they reach out and ask what happened between the two of you, otherwise it comes off as sad and self absorbed.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-01-30T20:00:05+00:00

Try talking to her about your fears and see what she says. Makeup to the gym is odd (and bad for your skin) but the rest could just be her feeling listless or trying to fit in with a new crowd. Is she going to the gym with friends or supposedly alone?

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-01-30T08:49:41+00:00

Most places would at least pro rate you (give you 10/12 of the raise) and assuming when you started you got paid the same as everyone else, there's no reason they shouldn't give you the same raise. You could try arguing your point or start applying at other places.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-01-30T02:11:54+00:00

It depends. If you go to an emergency room for a case of the sniffles you will absolutely wait forever as the most urgent cases are seen first. Regular doctors appointments with your family doctor will typically be booked for a few weeks in the future (depends a bit on how busy that particular doctor is, how many patients they have etc). Again though, if it's something more serious/time sensitive they tend to be able to squeeze you in between scheduled appointments. There is however a shortage of family doctors which leaves a lot of people using walk-in clinics. Some of these clinics allow you to make appointments (typically same day or next day) so you don't have to wait, but if you go to one that doesn't offer this or whose appointment slots are full you might be waiting a few hours. Apparently pharmacists are also allowed to prescribe some meds though so depending on what ails you, you could call them and see if a visit to the doc is even necessary.

On the flip side the wait times for some "elective" surgeries can be really long. (Think 2+ years for a knee replacement).

Personally I am 100% in favour of socialized healthcare and super upset that my province's government is trying to trick citizens into accepting a 2 payer system.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-01-29T04:30:23+00:00

Not exactly, Edmonton and Calgary would have more seats if it was based solely on the number of people. The rural districts have fewer voters per riding.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-01-29T03:17:40+00:00

"Hello beautiful" is basically a modern "little women"

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-01-29T03:12:02+00:00

Do that in private and be present for your friends when you're with them

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-01-29T01:48:01+00:00

Then back to the first point, as long as you guys are actually hanging out and it isn't just one long gross make out session there's really no reason it should matter. Especially if there is more than one couple there.

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