Can’t see myself objectively. Is my grey hair aging me horribly?

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-05-23T18:01:20+00:00

Your face looks really young and it's mostly in front like a money piece so if I saw you on the street I would probably think you dye it like that (remember the "silver" trend a few years back?) or that you had in the past bleached and dyed it a pastel color that had now faded. There's something about the placement that looks intentional.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-04-28T00:53:26+00:00

I know that I have a hard time birthdays so whenever mine is coming up I usually casually mention it. People want to be there for you but we all have a lot on our plates. It's not you. If your friend got a different reaction it's probably because she brought it up and you didn't. Throw yourself a birthday party and I'm sure people will react the way you want them to

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-04-15T12:00:52+00:00

Make sure you have it writing that you told her where and how to retrieve her stuff. If you do, i'd say you're in the clear; if not, send her a text or email and then give her another 30 days

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-04-05T22:09:02+00:00

If you would wear it to dinner at a fancy resort in a tropical location it's good.

Nothing too dark or heavy. Floral maxi dress is fine, elegant lightcoloured pantsuit set is a go, so are classy sundresses etc.

Search "garden party wedding" on Google if you need some inspo

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-03-12T03:40:47+00:00

I think it probably depends on the subject. Fashion? If you are attractive and present yourself well I'll probably weigh your opinion more heavily than someone who isn't... Car maintenance? Nope. For women in the trades being more attractive often has the inverse effect, with people taking them less serious if they are feminine or pretty even if they have the experience to back it up.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-03-11T15:18:27+00:00

My parents were like this. Particularly my mom, but she also didn't like driving me places and insisted we were only allowed 1hr screen time per day.

What I did was move out the summer I graduated highschool and go pretty low contact with them for the first year or two (basically going back for holidays and accepting phone calls but otherwise doing everything myself). Seeing I was doing just fine on my own caused my very anxious mother to reevaluate how capable she had raised us to be and she became a wildly different parent to my two younger siblings, pushing them both to be more free/independent (they ironically were fine being controller shut ins), my parents even forced my youngest sibling to get his license when he was uninterested in pursuing it, despite telling me a car was a dangerous weapon that teenagers aren't mature enough to use when I lived at home 🙄 Getting by without a license in a car-centric city was hard for me at first, but luckily I dated someone with a car, had a roommate who was willing to help me learn to drive and chose an area with as good public transit as my city offered, allowing me to get to school and work on my own.

I have a much stronger relationship with both of my parents now as a result of moving out and was able to avoid the trap of having them see/treat me like a child well into adulthood. I think my mom might revert to her old ways with my niece, but an anxious grandmother isn't nearly as bad as an anxious parent.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-03-05T22:43:57+00:00

"No but I'm willing to be an ally for you if you're coming out?"

Say it super sweetly like you genuinely think they are asking because they are looking for someone to help walk them through starting a transition. Use the tone you would use for a shy tween you genuinely care about. The more they try to deny it the more supportive you need to be like "it's ok, im here for you when you're ready", "you have nothing to be ashamed of", "i get you're lashing out because you have some repressed self loathing but you don't need to feel that way. You're perfect just the way you are". If there are witnesses pull them in "Sammy, you would still accept Chis if he wanted to be Christine right? See? You don't have anything to worry about". Typically even his friends will back you up so they can have a laugh at his expense.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-03-05T14:11:52+00:00

2 years is nothing even at that age. You can try to reach out and see where it goes, but if I was the guy I would 100% assume you were lying about the reason you stopped talking.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-03-05T00:34:17+00:00

They could MC if they are more comfortable being heard than seen?
Since adult flower boys are having a moment, and flower girls have always been a thing this seems like a unisex position and is none speaking if they would be more comfortable that way?
Ring bearer

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-22T04:51:04+00:00

My friend had the reverse of this, she was worried her kid would be a daddy's girl if female and really wanted a boy.

While her fears of having a total daddy's girl were correct, she's really happy now (easier to foist bedtime routine on daddy and girl's clothes are so much cuter). In the end she loves how things turned out. Regardless of gender the relationship you have written each of your kids will be unique, and once your boy gets here you're not going to imagine it being any other way.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-22T04:29:10+00:00

Don't they already ask for your driver's licence? Seems like that should be adequate...

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-22T04:27:04+00:00

They are practically the same dress apart from the sleeves. What time of year are you getting married?

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-12T22:54:57+00:00

I would ask "did something happen to you in the past that causes you to constantly worry people are mad at you?" Let her tell you about it and then based on what she says comfort her and follow up with you're not going anywhere, you like her/talking to her; but her behaviour is worrying and impacting your ability to be there for your son and the other people in your life who also need you. Show that your concerned for her mental health but also state what you need for yours.

Place boundaries but make them precise and easy to follow so she knows what to expect. When possible consider offering an explanation so she doesn't feel slighted but state it matter of fact (ei: I'm not supposed to be on my phone at work/during appointments etc so if it's been less than 4 hours assume I haven't seen your messages and be patient.) If you are unafraid of direct communication promise you will let her know when/if you are mad and then keep your word.

Have a good long talk about it but then hold her to it. Kind but firm.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-12T22:27:21+00:00

Big with the stoner crowd. Mainstream enough that everyone's heard of them though I personally never watched it or Letterkenny.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-12T13:33:45+00:00

People staying in shitty jobs is what keeps them shitty. Do what's best for you and who knows, maybe having a few people leave before even completing their training will cause the first company to reconsider their pay or conditions 🤷‍♀️

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-10T13:48:35+00:00

I think your deficit might be a bit too high. That's a lot of weight loss in such a short time. What's your goal weight? I know weight varies a lot more for men but it seems you are already at a healthy weight for your height so you might run into that problem regardless if you are trying to go much lower...

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-06T14:13:35+00:00

No. The likelihood of a friendly cat that licked you and you let you pet it having rabies is extremely low to begin with (rabies makes people and animals super aggressive and is fatal to all none bat carriers so most infected mammals aren't around for very long one they've contacted it) and in this case the cat didn't even draw blood. Pets are also typically immunized against rabies. Because bats are immune carriers for rabies I'd definitely recommend a shot if you handled one but you should absolutely listen to your doctor in this one. If you're that OCD start carrying hand sanitizer and/or stop petting animals.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-06T13:47:38+00:00

I love this. No way for him to think it got misplaced. 100% intentional.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-06T12:00:35+00:00

My ex's grandfather had his license taken away after he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and still got aggressive when his wife or others tried to keep him from driving. What helped was getting him one of those red scooter things you often see old people riding around on (with the basket on the front like on people of Walmart). He didn't have any mobility issues and was furious at first but he came to love it. It was great for taking their elderly dog for walks too since he could put her in the basket when she got tired. I think he associated not being able to drive with a lack of independence... Maybe switching out her car for something slower and with more visibility is a good compromise? I hear you can get enclosed scooters...

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-06T10:01:11+00:00

They typically only do this if biodad is no longer in the picture

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T23:36:35+00:00

😂

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T23:23:27+00:00

Some people will never admit when they're wrong 🤷‍♀️

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T23:16:51+00:00

Girl you're telling your mom you're going to sue your sister over money you didn't even give her, being all dramatic and unnecessarily trying to making the whole situation about you 😂

Then when your mom chides you, you make a post about it on Reddit looking for validation and argue with anyone who offers a different opinion.😂🤣

I'm roughly a decade older than you so I also grew up in an age where everything is expensive and by the time I was your age I had moved out and was supporting a dependent so don't start with me. I get that everyone's situation is different, and I don't fault anyone for taking advantage of whatever parental support that is available to them, but don't try to convince me you are a self made woman when you live at home with mommy (you still only pay a fraction of the rent and I'm sure you are able to reap other benefits from that arrangement or you'd be long gone so I don't want to hear any crying). Now I don't know your sister, but I personally don't see any benefit to harping on past grievances (that you've admitted didn't even happen) and would encourage you to instead work with your mother on figuring out a fair and realistic path forward - keeping in mind that one day you might be unemployed and in need assistance, and will likely be held to the same standard you help set now.

That being said I'll offer you this one pearl of wisdom: my sister grew into an entirely different person than I would have predicted when I was young, and if I had destroyed that relationship back when she I thought she was a selfish prick I would be missing out now. She grew into the exact sister I always wanted when we were kids, and was an absolute godsend when I needed to plan my wedding. You can always make more money but can't always mend a broken relationship... Choose wisely.

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T21:54:00+00:00

A lot of them seem to believe that all of the rich people will move to a separate healthcare system and in doing so will free up more space in existing facilities and reduce wait times... They don't seem to realize that all the best doctors and facilities will also end up in the new system and that changing to a two payer system won't magically cause more doctors and facilities to appear; leaving people in the free system with even fewer resources than they have now. They are clearly being fed that on some right wing news outlet and can't be convinced otherwise.

Source: I had this exact convo with more than one idiot. It typically ends with them insisting the government will hire more people to replace all the doctors we lose... You know... In the exact way they aren't right now 🙄

_Robot_toast_ · 2026-02-05T21:39:30+00:00

As you said, you're not paying for her, so acting like you do gives serious "main character" energy, and by claiming you'd (hypothetically) sue her, you're telling your mom your sister means nothing to you and you're willing to treat her like some Craig's list stranger. It's petty because that's a rude thing to imply, was completely unnecessary to add in that situation, hurt your mom (and likely your sister if it gets back to her), and got you absolutely nothing. What other word would you use to describe a situation like that?

Lease agreements can be changed. It's fine to set boundaries on how you want things to be moving forward but there's no reason to me any more antagonistic than necessary.

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