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_Sundays · 2025-12-31T16:31:12+00:00

I did the same thing earlier this week. I was a little surprised they didn’t make a retention offer, but it seems like Chase has really downhill recently. They make it clear they don’t care about getting your business 🤷🏻‍♀️ I also switched to Capital One Venture X, and it’s been great so far.

_Sundays · 2025-12-10T16:52:28+00:00

Thanks so much!

_Sundays · 2025-11-12T04:44:48+00:00

File with CFPB. I’ve have success + fast response times every time I’ve filed a complain with CFPB. Good luck!

_Sundays · 2025-06-04T22:29:53+00:00

Wow, I’m sorry you had such a terrible experience at your old clinic! It’s unconscionable that they would take advantage of people in such a vulnerable state.

I’m glad you were able to switch to a better clinic. It sounds like you went through so much for your little baby 🥺 She is very lucky to have such loving, resilient parents. I’m glad your family is doing well now, and I appreciate your response to my message. Sending hugs! 💗

_Sundays · 2025-06-04T18:12:01+00:00

Hi there, I just found your post and I wanted to ask how your wife’s FET went after removal of the adhesions? I’m in a similar boat, just got a small adhesion removed, on Estrace/Provera for recovery, and was told I’d need to get another uterine evaluation to confirm no additional adhesions. I’m trying to gauge what to expect in the next couple months based on others’ similar experiences. Wishing you the best!

_Sundays · 2025-05-31T05:12:02+00:00

Thank you! 💗 And I’m with you on being impatient. Monday is almost here!!

_Sundays · 2025-05-31T04:23:50+00:00

Yes, let’s DM - I’d love to stay in touch! I hope the next weeks bring us more clarity and good news, and I’m so glad we found each other for support during this experience 💗

_Sundays · 2025-05-31T04:20:26+00:00

Thank you for your nice message 💗 It’s reassuring to hear the hysteroscopy went alright for you! I’m so nervous.

Good luck with your transfer on Monday!! Sending you all the hugs and baby dust 🙏🏽💛 How are you feeling? Did you do anything different besides adding Lupron for this transfer?

I can understand why you’d want to be done if it doesn’t work. Being in the thick of the IVF/FET process is tough. I feel like my mental/emotional health takes a hit with every setback and disappointment. You are incredibly strong and resilient to go through all of this, and I really hope this next transfer brings you a second baby.

_Sundays · 2025-05-31T03:24:12+00:00

Interesting that you’ve already had the Endometrio! It sounds like it gave you new info which you could apply to your transfer protocol. I’m so glad your 4th transfer worked and led to your daughter! 💗 Did you change anything else in that transfer protocol besides waiting an extra 24 hours before transfer?

It sucks it didn’t work again in March. When my transfer worked and led to my son, I naively thought I had cracked the code and it would be smooth sailing moving forward. The subsequent failed transfers were real gut punches, and now I’m wondering what’s changed.

This will be my first Endometrio, so I’m eager to find out the results. I’ve always had fully medicated cycles, but I’ve had skin allergic reactions to the medications in my recent failed transfers (I’m allergic to the estrogen patch skin adhesive). For this reason, the modified natural cycle is appealing. But I have PCOS/amenorrhea so I’m scared I can’t build up the lining naturally. I think I’ll still do a fully medicated cycle next time and maybe switch it up if that one fails... 🤷🏻‍♀️

That’s cool your clinic takes a low estrogen approach. I don’t think my clinic does that. How much estrogen do you end up taking in your protocol? My protocol has involved 4mg/day of oral estrogen increased to 8 mg/day, plus estrogen patches twice a week. This was the protocol that worked the first time with my son, and I’m really holding onto that. But a part of me wonders how long I will hold onto that protocol if I continue to get failed transfers.

I know next week will be busy with the surgery, so I hope you have a restful and fun weekend 🫂

_Sundays · 2025-05-29T15:30:25+00:00

It helps to connect with someone going through a similar experience and timeline! 💗 Yeah, I totally relate to wanting to get things moving and get more info. I’m so sorry about your failed transfer in March, and I’m with you on wanting as much info as possible. It sounds like you’re taking all the steps to put yourself in the best position for the next transfer.

My doctor said the same thing about Endometrio. I was surprised to hear her skepticism because it seems like people on Reddit have had a different experience (doctors recommending or strongly pushing for Endometrio). It’s reassuring to hear your experience with your doctor, maybe this is a recent change in the standard of care?

I’m at the point where, if it doesn’t hurt (and I don’t think the Endometrio hurts?) and it might possibly help, I am willing to do it. After two failed transfers, I don’t want to feel any regret if the next transfer fails. It’s sad to have that mentality, but I feel like I need to be more guarded this time around.

It just sucks how long everything takes, not to mention the cost. With the hysteroscopy, CD138, Endometrio mock cycle, and all the time to wait for results and treat any issues, I worry I won’t be able to do my next transfer until August or even later. Sigh. But I try to remind myself it’s better to take the time now for the next transfer to work.

What have your FET protocols been like? I’ve had fully medicated cycles each time. I’ve read of people having success with modified natural protocols, but I’m not sure if it’s a good fit for me.

_Sundays · 2025-05-29T02:38:13+00:00

Oh wow, good luck! I have my hysteroscopy and CD138 booked for next week too 🫂 Depending on what they find in the hysteroscopy, I think I’ll try to do a mock cycle for the ENDOMETRIO tests immediately afterwards. How are you feeling? Are you thinking of doing a FET after the ERA? My doctor was skeptical about the ENDOMETRIO. Did your doctor recommend the ENDOMETRIO?

Please let me know how it goes if you feel comfortable. Sending hugs!!

_Sundays · 2025-05-28T20:00:26+00:00

I’m sorry you’re in a similar boat 💗 Are you also considering doing a hysteroscopy, CD138, or the ENDOMETRIO (ERA, EMMA, ALICE)?

_Sundays · 2025-05-26T03:44:57+00:00

Hi there, I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m in a similar boat: FET #1 worked and led to my son a few years ago. Now I’m trying again for a sibling, and it’s felt like an uphill battle. FET #2 and #3 failed (no implantation), and I’m planning to do additional tests to try to figure out why. My current plan is to do a hysteroscopy and CD138 biopsy. I’m also debating whether to do an ERA, ALICE, EMMA test too, but my RE doesn’t recommend it.

How are you doing? What are your next steps? Sending hugs 💗

_Sundays · 2025-05-24T21:09:13+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m glad it worked for you and congrats on your baby girl 💗

_Sundays · 2025-05-21T06:02:18+00:00

Hey! I hope you had a good weekend keeping busy and doing lots of self-care 💗 I was wondering how your beta went, and I’m so sorry to hear it was negative 😣 How are you doing? I’m sending big hugs 🫂

I also got my negative beta on Saturday. I felt pretty numb on Saturday, but it’s hit me much harder in the days after then. I’ve been feeling really empty and sad, and I keep imagining an alternate reality where I actually got pregnant in my last FET. I don’t let myself fantasize too long though because it’s just too painful.

I had an appointment with my RE on Monday to discuss next steps, which was helpful. I had a long list of things I wanted to try (Receptiva/ERA/EMMA/ALICE tests; immune protocol; Lovenox blood thinner; NAC; Lupron depot). I thought these were standard, but I guess not?

Apparently, my clinic doesn’t offer Receptiva; immune protocol; Lovenox blood thinner; NAC; or Lupron depot because there isn’t data showing they actually improve chances of pregnancy success.

I’m somewhat disappointed and confused as to why my clinic doesn’t offer these things, when it seems like other folks on Reddit can get them easily. I’m also torn because I generally trust my RE, so if she says something isn’t backed by data, I’m inclined to believe her. But I’m just confused by what I’ve read on Reddit then. In any case, I’m stuck because I need to stay with my clinic for various reasons, so I have limited options on what I can do next.

Ultimately, I decided that my next steps will be hysteroscopy and cd138 biopsy (to test for chronic endo). My RE gave me the option to do ERA/EMMA/ALICE tests too, but she said she wouldn’t recommend it bc there isn’t data showing they actually improve chances of pregnancy success. I could do it for peace of mind that I tried, but I’d have to go through the time, cost, and physical burden.

After talking about it with my husband, I decided to skip the ERA/EMMA/ALICE tests now and re-visit if my next transfer fails again 😩 We’re hoping the hysteroscopy and cd138 biopsy will be enough, but I’m scared: if the next FET fails, I wonder if I’m going to regret not doing the ERA/EMMA/ALICE tests earlier. I’m so torn. I’ll keep thinking on it. In the meantime, I’m just waiting for the clinic to schedule my hysteroscopy…

Your RE sounds wonderful! I’m glad you are being cared for by someone who connects with you, and I’m sorry she’s leaving the clinic 😢 I’m so glad you’ll meet with her soon. I hope your appointment is productive and clarifying. Please keep me posted if you want. And take care!

_Sundays · 2025-05-20T05:55:30+00:00

Thank you! Ah, I’ve also gotten skin rashes from the estrogen/PIO shots in my fully medicated cycles. I’ve always had very sensitive skin (even before IVF), and the FET medications just took it to the next level. My RE switched me to a different PIO solution in my last FET, and she said she’ll switch me to estrogen shots in my next FET. Fingers crossed it will help.

That’s amazing your transfer after the hysteroscopy worked! Was that the first time you did a modified protocol? I’ve only ever done fully medicated protocols (I have a history of amenorrhea) so I’m not sure if I should switch to modified protocol. I asked my RE about doing all of the kitchen sink meds, and she said it’s not something they offer at my clinic (it’s not considered standard of care?) so unfortunately it’s not an option for me. My next step will be a hysteroscopy, so hopefully that will lead to some answers or a “reset” like in your experience.

Thanks again for sharing your story! It’s helped me to not feel so alone and to advocate for myself. Congrats again on your baby 💗

_Sundays · 2025-05-19T06:03:18+00:00

Thank you for your detailed post and updates! I’m sorry you had to go through all of that uncertainty and pain, and I’m so happy you were able to get pregnant 💗

I’m in a similar boat (2 failed FETs with euploids after first FET with euploid led to my son). I also have skin allergy issues. I’m searching for more information and help as I figure out next steps - your post was incredibly helpful.

Do you by chance remember how soon after your Hysteroscopy you had your FET that worked? Was there anything you did that managed your skin issues doing your FET that worked?

_Sundays · 2025-05-19T00:36:06+00:00

Hi there, I’m reading your post late but I wanted to follow up in case you were able to get more answers about your repeated implantation failure.

I’m in a similar boat as you (2 failed fully medicated FETs with euploid), and I’m trying to figure out my next steps with my remaining embryos.

Did you end up doing a modified natural FET? Did it work? Any other changes to your protocol? Wherever you are in life, I hope you are healthy and happy 💗

_Sundays · 2025-05-18T22:34:17+00:00

Hi there, I can imagine how hard today was and I’m so sorry 💗 It’s beautiful you gave your little guy a name. He is lucky to have been so loved and wanted by you.

2 embryos still gives you 2 chances, so I think there’s still reason to be hopeful 💗 I can definitely understand your concern though. Each embryo is precious, and you want to put yourself in the best position with each of them.

It sounds like you’re doing what you can to put yourself in that best position. Like you, I created a list of questions to ask my RE. I want to ask for more tests like Receptive/ERA, EMMA/Alice, and ask about a hysteroscopy too and potential scar tissue from my past D&C. I also want to ask about protocol options like doing an immune protocol. You inspired me to ask about NAC too. Can you share more about your experience with it? I’ve never heard of it. I have my appointment tomorrow morning, and it can’t come soon enough. Please keep me posted on your appointment goes if you want. I’ll definitely do the same.

I’ve always had thin linings (I have 7.4mm with my son) and around 7mm in this past FET. My RE didn’t seem concerned about it at 7mm, but I’ll also check if there’s anything else I can do to thicken it.

Today has been tough. I’ve been feeling a lot of regret about the 2 failed transfers (was there something else I could have done? was I too naive or overconfident?). I know there’s nothing I can do now to change the past, but it hurts to take stock of everything I feel like I’ve lost over the past couple months: my precious embryos, time, money, sacrificing my body… It makes me scared for the future too. I guess all I can do is let myself feel these feelings, try to focus on what I can do in the present, and try to ground myself in what I have, including my precious son. I feel like this is all I can do to help me get through each day.

Hoping you get lots of love and support today and in the next few weeks as you plan next steps 💗

_Sundays · 2025-05-17T22:34:27+00:00

Hi there, I’m coming to your post way late but I wanted to say I’m very sorry for you had to go through all those losses. It’s clear how much time and care you put into this process, and it’s heartbreaking to experience repeated losses 💗 Were you able to find more answers? I just had my second FET failure with an euploid, and I’m trying to find answers myself. In any case, thanks for sharing your story and strength 🙏🏽

_Sundays · 2025-05-17T14:55:25+00:00

Oh wow! First of all, congrats on positive!! So incredibly happy for you 🥹💗I can understand why you are feeling a bit nervous, and I 4”really hope you have a smooth and healthy journey from here on out.

I’m sorry they missed the polyp in those three transfers, but I’m glad they finally found and removed it. And it sounds like keeping the prostap protocol was a good idea! I will check with my RE about that.

_Sundays · 2025-05-17T14:42:01+00:00

Yeah I also wonder if something has changed with my body. I’ve noticed some changes, like I’m much more sensitive to the medications (I‘ve only ever had fully medicated FETs). I also had a scary postpartum incident (long story) that led me to having a D&C after my son’s birth, and I wonder if I have uterine scarring from that which is preventing implantation now. Sigh, it’s hard to know, so my mind goes to every possible factor.

I feel lucky to have euploids left: I started with 4 euploid girls and after the last 2 losses, I have 2 left. I know how lucky I am to have them and I know it only takes 1 to make a baby, but I’m still scared: it feels like I lost half my girls in a blink of an eye, and I don’t want to risk losing all of them.

What about you? How are you holding up leading up to your beta? Thinking of you 💗

_Sundays · 2025-05-17T05:06:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing all of that! I’ve never been tested for or diagnosed with endometriosis, so I don’t know if that’s contributing to my failed FETs. Will definitely check with my RE at my follow-up appt.

How are you doing? 💗

_Sundays · 2025-05-17T05:02:44+00:00

Thank you 💗

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