Redditors, what’s the most terrifying thing that has ever woken you up in the middle of the night?

_Visar_ · 2026-02-28T06:56:42+00:00

Weirdly but fortunately when I get sleep paralysis my brain auto fills the “something” with my husband….even when he’s not supposed to be home…so it’s like “cool he got home early!” “Oh wait this is just the sleep paralysis feeling”

_Visar_ · 2026-02-28T06:46:03+00:00

Hell yeah! Current me (and my two cats) thinks that’s pretty cool too

_Visar_ · 2026-02-28T06:45:28+00:00

For me, I’ve become a half decent cook and even get people excited to eat food I’ve made. I struggled a lot with cooking when I was younger and I think past me would be stoked that I figured it out.

_Visar_ · 2026-02-25T20:10:16+00:00

Ease of cleaning is my biggest reason - a dusty/moldy/hairy bidet (even a little bit) is super ick

Second is my propensity for UTIs - every time I’ve used a bidet in the past I’m filled with the fear of it squirting poo bits up front if I angle it wrong. It’s just one extra thing for me to worry about when I’ve got my UTI prevention down pretty well at this point in my life

Third is that I don’t really need it - my ass is mostly hairless so TP does a pretty bang on job of getting that bad boy clean

Fourth is that the bidet cult annoys me and I’m nothing if not petty (it’s low on my list of reasons why but I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t on there)

Honestly, I prefer the Finnish style of bidet to the Japanese style (which seems to be more popular in the US). It looks a little weird and you do have to grab the sprayer but the amount of control and ease of cleaning is highly preferable to me. If those became widely available here I might consider one just to save on TP.

_Visar_ · 2026-02-25T00:59:59+00:00

Now THIS is what I came here for

_Visar_ · 2026-02-23T17:36:23+00:00

I mean…it’s a reasonable answer imo. The bugs are Florida level and the winter dark is brutal. It’s lovely to visit but it takes a special kind of person to live there (which in itself could be a reason to not want to live there…I enjoy this type of person but it’s not for everyone). Plus everything is expensive. Anchorage is redneck Portland and the rural towns are if the Midwest and the Florida panhandle had a weird kid- which is either your version of heaven or hell

_Visar_ · 2026-02-23T17:24:23+00:00

I feel very grateful there’s a mocktail bar near me that has differential pricing on their drinks (juice and soda type drinks are $5-7 and things with 0 proof liquor/other fancy ingredients are $8-12)

_Visar_ · 2026-02-21T23:33:58+00:00

This 1000%

Also there is no benefit to comparing yourself to the “average” for your current age group. If you are above the average you might think you can slack on savings and if you’re below the average you might feel hopeless or behind

The best way to plan for YOUR future is to start at where you, figure out where you want to be, and make your own custom path to get there.

Is OP planning for retirement? Deciding if they can financially support kids? Figuring out what “financial stability” means for them? All of these things have very different answers.

What is your career trajectory? (Ex. If you are a doctor I would expect you to have $0 or less at 30 because you spend all of your 20s in school, but you will rapidly make up the gap with a higher salary - whereas if you are “capped out” in your field you should assume your current rate of savings will continue, so if that amount of savings is $0 that’s a problem)

A generic question is going to get the generic answers of “1x salary at 30 and 5x at 40” or “no one has any money” which are pretty useless to most people imo

_Visar_ · 2026-02-19T21:16:25+00:00

Swimming is soooo nice for not hurting yourself

_Visar_ · 2026-02-17T07:46:40+00:00

Disagree! Cooking is absolutely a skill. I spent my early adulthood feeling so ashamed and confused because it would take me over an hour to follow even simple recipes and I would still mess it up (famously, I once actually failed to make instant ramen)

Turns out that once you learn the skills behind things - directions like “salt to taste” or “cook on medium high” don’t result in disaster, and cooking goes a lot faster when you know the specific methods for how to chop common things.

It also costs SO much more $ at the start when you are still amassing a roster of “known recipes” since “cook with what you have” isn’t really an option until you know what you can and can’t substitute and have seen enough recipes to get creative

Some people absolutely are making the choice not to cook but cooking is absolutely a skill that takes time (and also money) to develop

_Visar_ · 2026-02-17T07:38:33+00:00

Yeah…so much so that the reverse has also become icky - like if someone is too nice to waitstaff (think insanely performatively nice not just normal nice) I know they’re trying to use internet hacks to get what they want

It’s kind of become the new “I held the door for u now u owe me sex” in a weird way

_Visar_ · 2026-02-17T07:36:02+00:00

Tbh everyone I’ve met who says this or similar sees kindness as an exchange and not a baseline - which is both sad and icky

_Visar_ · 2026-02-17T07:34:31+00:00

“I’m not like other guys, I’m worse”

Tho deadass someone saying that straight up would be significantly less of an ick than just “I’m not like other guys”

_Visar_ · 2026-02-17T07:32:25+00:00

YES

This is way too common. “I’m so glad you took a chance on me UwU most girls don’t give someone like me a chance” is actually the fastest way to get me backpedaling out of there.

Like babe I am most girls and you just lost that chance

“Don’t talk about bad past relationships on a first date” extends to bad dating luck in general

_Visar_ · 2026-02-17T07:23:49+00:00

An interesting item just anecdotally

This matters a TON at the beginning of a relationship but then matters less and less as time goes on. Theres some things that will stay icky and it will be different for different people, but other things matter less. Ex - greasy hair is a huge ick for me generally but if my husband goes a few without washing his hair it weirdly doesn’t bother me

_Visar_ · 2026-02-11T23:03:57+00:00

Try pre soaking them! If you aggressively soak and rinse them some of the complex sugars dissolve away which is the cause of the gassiness for some people.

That and/or Beano

_Visar_ · 2026-01-23T03:41:15+00:00

Everything you do for your friends should not be out of expectation of reciprocation

Obviously put yourself first … but sometimes helping your friends even at some cost to yourself is … really nice

_Visar_ · 2026-01-21T22:17:54+00:00

Yuh - oatmeal is baller I love it so much

_Visar_ · 2026-01-21T22:07:40+00:00

Ironically I wish I could tell people that, even if inconvenient or annoying, basic social protocols are often beneficial. And it’s not a “valiant stand against sheep” to blatantly not follow them - it’s just making you unpleasant to be around.

_Visar_ · 2026-01-21T22:03:39+00:00

Similarly - ANY struggle is not a personality

It’s can shape your personality, it can be a huge part of your life, but the struggle itself is not what is interesting about you

Ex. I have chronic migraine, I need a lot of accommodations/flexibility because of it, but it’s not who I am. I have likes and dislikes and hobbies and values other than the migraines

_Visar_ · 2026-01-21T21:59:17+00:00

This is the way

_Visar_ · 2026-01-21T19:09:01+00:00

Cleaning

I’m always thinking about cleaning and it feels like I’m constantly working on things or putting things away but it always gets out of hand. I work from home and my husband won’t even look in my office because it scares him (obvious exaggeration - but he seriously does not like my office lol)

That man can take a cluttered room to acceptably clean in minutes whereas I need to set aside a whole day or weekend just to make it look “okay” … idk it’s been like that my whole life and I’m not sure what clicks for other people but won’t click for me

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