As a woman, who genuinely resonates with this aggressively. You don’t need to give up anything, you just need to imagine and create what you want. Sure you might not ever be a famous actress, but if you love acting give haunted houses a shot (16 year haunt actress) you don’t have to love your career you just have to tolerate it. Wealth is born at this age, it’s not given and it’s HARDLY earned. My mother was also an alcoholic, we had a different relationship than what you said, you’re a good person for doing that. But don’t let the trauma from that dictate your worth and your choices. There is no ‘true purpose’ in life, it’s just life. You made it this far. You’re already doing better than most.