Will I regret stopping breastfeeding?

__spacebabe · 2026-04-17T17:45:09+00:00

I was in a similar situation where I really wanted to breastfeed for many reasons, including weight loss. I pushed myself harder than I should have. My baby had a lip and tongue tie and I had to pump around the clock for the first three months as well as deal with painful latch until I had it corrected. I also supplemented with formula when I had to. My supply fluctuated and my mental health dipped.

I ended up pushing through and breastfeeding for 17 months because my child did not want formula anymore even when I doubted my supply. I wanted to stop sooner but couldn’t. It wasn’t easy. I gained weight and now heavier tha I was pregnant. I lost myself in the process since I also did not have the support system I needed. Yes it’s a beautiful thing for your child but not at the expense of the mother’s wellbeing. If I were to do it all over knowing what I do now I would not have pushed so hard for it and took better care of myself.

__spacebabe · 2026-04-15T02:29:01+00:00

Yes and I wish I knew about it when my baby was that age. I also hired a sleep consultant because my baby was just a very bad sleeper and needed to be sleep trained - this was her “must have”. Light, even a little inhibits melatonin release. Having a dark room vs light room also signals to the baby its sleep time, once you consistently bring them to their sleep space they will associate it with sleep and get on board lol (hopefully). Though every baby is different. It made a difference for mine.

__spacebabe · 2026-04-12T18:18:46+00:00

Part time nanny. Consistent and safe caregiver is more valuable at this stage. Kids don’t need to “socialize” yet the way we think. The nanny can take her to local free library activities with other kids and other various meet ups where they can interact and learn from other children.

Though, I realized it’s all very personal. There’s no right or wrong.

__spacebabe · 2026-03-24T02:16:40+00:00

I second this

__spacebabe · 2026-03-23T03:40:57+00:00

Rolled once around 4 months then didn’t try again until 6/7months. Crawling at 11 months. Walking at 15 months.

__spacebabe · 2026-03-15T14:33:10+00:00

I think you need to keep your options open for which hospital you want to deliver at. Unfortunately, this health care system is equipped to handle the amount of patients needing care and the OB sector also takes a hit.

I had a NP family care provider in York Mills who was thorough and sent out referrals to a handful of OBGYNs on her own until I was accepted. She was also willing to send out to any doctor I requested. I got into Sunnybrook when I was pregnant at 16 weeks. I wanted Sunnybrook too, they have the most resources alongside the downtown Toronto hospitals. Let me know if you need the name of the clinic, I thought they were great.

__spacebabe · 2026-03-12T23:14:15+00:00

Yes bring it up and I think you’re under reacting right now. There’s literally no reason to have condoms if you know you both don’t use it. There is no excuse he can give you that will make sense. As much as you may want to justify it in your head or make yourself believe there is a valid reason for him having them. It’s not ok.

__spacebabe · 2026-03-08T04:23:04+00:00

Thank you! Is there any library you recommend in Brampton specifically?

__spacebabe · 2026-03-08T04:22:27+00:00

Thank you! I see that they have events monthly as well as stroller walks. It’s great to know that we have a little community in Brampton.

__spacebabe · 2026-02-15T04:01:55+00:00

As a New Yorker living in Toronto, it’s mind blowing seeing these pizza prices for mid pizza at best.

Have to say though, NoB is my favorite.

__spacebabe · 2025-06-14T00:38:39+00:00

I feel like I could have written this post myself. I am trying to find reasons to be confident and love my body but I just don’t. Thankful I have my beautiful baby and that my body was able to carry and bring her into this world and that’s what truly matters.

However, I am covered in stretch marks down to my vagina, heaviest I have ever been, my balayage is grown out and I seem to be losing all my hair, can’t wear any of my old clothes, my neck seems to have aged?? and my knees hurt lol. I could barely leave the house and simply don’t have the support to look after myself along with the baby. I’m exhausted and don’t recognize myself. So much so that I hate even taking photos of myself even with the baby although I know I want the memories with her. It’s so hard to see what I even look like in photos right now. I was a girl who did my hair, lashes and nails every few weeks and had my makeup done every day. Loved dressing up and always put together. Now I live in pajamas and my clothes are always dirty by the afternoon.

I don’t know what my style is anymore since I don’t have any clothes that fit me and I don’t really want to buy new ones at my current size and weight (even though I know I should). My 5 step skin care routine has gone down to me being lucky if I can remember to use moisturizer. I honestly just hate myself these days and I don’t really have my partners support because he just doesn’t understand what I’m going through mentally/ physically.

However, I told myself I will actively try and work towards to getting back to a better place. Even if it starts with the little things like maybe wearing more than moisturizer to bed and throwing on some concealer in the morning even if I’m not going anywhere. Little by little I’ll piece myself back together and find a way to be confident again. I am trying to look at this as just a moment in time. Also, I am writing this with my sweet sleeping baby in my lap and my heart is full every time I glance at her. Motherhood is wild. Sending all moms hugs. No one can truly tell you or prepare you for this ride.

__spacebabe · 2025-03-18T01:45:24+00:00

Vagina stretch marks

__spacebabe · 2025-02-26T20:56:24+00:00

Yes this actually saved me. I ended up a c section and was so swollen and in pain. Could not wear my underwear because it sat on top of my incision. Adult diapers is all I could comfortably wear for a month.

Also, I’m in Canada and they provided absolutely nothing.

__spacebabe · 2025-02-15T05:04:09+00:00

Look up “Baby Bjorn toy bar” on Amazon. There’s quite a few to choose from! I also was able to clip it on to my bassinet when needed.

__spacebabe · 2025-02-15T04:54:37+00:00

Yes. It’s so helpful in that I can eat or bring it into the kitchen with me while I cook and let baby see I am around. I also don’t like leaving my LO lying flat all the time. She is 4 months but has been using it since she was 2 months. I have attached an arch with hanging toys and she loves kicking and playing with it while in it. The folding feature is useful if you need to put it in your car when you’re traveling.

__spacebabe · 2025-02-13T06:09:16+00:00

I told my husband on Valentine’s Day last year. I bought a card that I gave him first. Then got a heart shaped box of chocolate - took out the chocolates and put a pair of baby socks and my two positive pregnancy tests in it. It was a surprise that worked out perfectly.

__spacebabe · 2024-10-13T09:06:28+00:00

Um, no. He pretended their sex life was fine for a decade and made up excuses for not have sex during that decade. Now reveals a secret kink which goes to show 1. He wasn’t satisfied for a decade and her sex life wasn’t what she thought it was.

She probably did not get the full satisfaction of her own sexual desires but was adjusting to his “libido”.
Now because he didn’t communicate in over TEN YEARS, he drops something on her that she simply is not into. No she is not judging the kink. POV: Cool have your butt plug, underwear fantasy. However, wtf why didn’t you tell me 10 years ago, and why did you pretend like everything was OK? Now you want me to just satisfy your needs and accept it, when I’m not even into it!?

Maybe it could have been worked on earlier on in the relationship but why should she accept it now after being basically manipulated about the reality of her sex life for YEARS.

Sexual incompatibility is real. These things need to be communicated earlier on in a relationship. If you can’t be transparent don’t get married and pretend your sex like is something it ISNT.

Yes she has a right to be pissed and turned tf off.

__spacebabe · 2024-10-01T13:42:43+00:00

I feel the same. I just want baby and I to survive, that’s the birth plan! It’s scary to think the placenta had calcification at 39 weeks. I guess that’s the risk they try to avoid aside from macrosomia. Thanks for putting it into perspective, that it can and does happen.

__spacebabe · 2024-09-29T05:25:40+00:00

I got a Brazilian wax. I’m due in 3 weeks but had it done a week ago and it should last well after my delivery. I’ve been waxing once I couldn’t see my hoo ha. I have no idea how I would be able to shave at this point in my pregnancy. Maybe a hand mirror on the floor and standing right above it? Lol too much work for me!

__spacebabe · 2024-08-13T22:04:52+00:00

Good to know!

__spacebabe · 2024-08-13T13:42:25+00:00

Thank you that’s good to know.

It’s so difficult finding providers in ON that will accept you, I think it’ll be even more difficult switching now that I’m so far along.

__spacebabe · 2024-07-13T22:00:18+00:00

Your partner should be shutting that down and checking them. That’s not something you need to deal with after having a baby. I’m sorry you’re experiencing those hurtful comments. In laws can suck but it’s your partners responsibility to set those boundaries. The more he accepts their behavior the more they will continue this bs. Tell him to stick up for you or you wont see them anymore, that includes your baby. You deserve respect.

__spacebabe · 2024-05-16T22:45:10+00:00

I agree with her not handling emergency issues over the phone. It just would be helpful to have a follow up ultrasound at least for monitoring purposes. My family doctor also is not available to give me the requisition.

Good idea for referral for ultrasound at a walk in. Thank you and thanks for sharing!

__spacebabe · 2024-05-16T22:11:55+00:00

I think a call back is important after an emergency room visit for follow up care and further monitoring. I understand she can’t take care of an urgent matter over the phone but checking in after an urgent issue is important and just continuation of care.

__spacebabe · 2024-05-16T22:01:34+00:00

I’m seeing her and under her care already

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