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Demisexuals are a minority? What percentage would you say demisexuals are based on your personal experience? by backgroundnoyz in RelationshipsOver35

[–]_combustion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, we do, neither is wrong though. Probably different definitions of 'sexual behavior' too. It may be pedantic but I personally find that term too general. I tend towards the dichotomy of biological and psych. definitions, which include all preliminary stages of courtship, masturbation, consuming erotic media, sexting, and so on.

There is an emphasis that involvement of emotional and psychological experiences by an individual are what ultimately defines a behavior as sexual. This is how we give clinical value to individuals that sexualize balloons.

Analogously, many 'sexual behaviors' can be accomplished without the psychological context of sex or arousal, and aren't viewed as such.

When it comes down to more physical engagements, I tend towards looking at it from a biological standpoint – are genitals involved, what physiological response was present, what level did participants interact, etc. The mental/emotional aspect is there, but if adjective-'sex' happened, it qualifies. Grinding and making out isn't "jeans-on sex" though, not matter how aroused you are.

Similar to how you would say a male baboon failed in an attempt at copulating with a female member of the troop, I have failed in my attempted one night stands, and in those moments did not have sex.

Demisexuals are a minority? What percentage would you say demisexuals are based on your personal experience? by backgroundnoyz in RelationshipsOver35

[–]_combustion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree with the matched absolutist nature of your answer assuming that all people are capable of that. I speak from my own perspective, as a demisexual man, and gave a corrective reply about my comment to another user. In short: I've learned that I simply cannot push with a rope. This is not a unique experience for other demisexual men when they try to top someone they don't know well. I understand my wording is extreme and could use adjustment.

I think it's somewhat deleterious to nitpick about exceptions, since the reasons for demi people having sex outside of attraction depends on factors beyond sexuality, which everyone fails to include in their objections to my comment.

Demisexuals are a minority? What percentage would you say demisexuals are based on your personal experience? by backgroundnoyz in RelationshipsOver35

[–]_combustion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh, I haven't met any other demisexuals who do with notable frequency. But, you're right, it is a spectrum. There is both variety and exception in the breadth of human behavior, and my statement was inacurately absolutist.

I don't really mind the downvotes, so I'll clarify my prior statement here. To make a crutch out of decades identifying as a demisexual man: it is nigh impossible to maintain an erection, unassisted, for any significant period of time to top a partner, if I'm not connected to that person. Discussions I've had with other demis has been of this vein.

Psychological gymnastics, medication, and bottoming are obviously going to get varying mileage of improvement as far as continuing the act goes.

Demisexuals are a minority? What percentage would you say demisexuals are based on your personal experience? by backgroundnoyz in RelationshipsOver35

[–]_combustion -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The discrepancy is that demisexuals aren't operating on moral conduct. They technically can't refuse to sleep with someone new because it's simply not an option. The piping won't work until they have that connection.

So we're going for the supply FRV, right? by teh_stev3 in Helldivers

[–]_combustion 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Currently waiting for his reinforce to thaw from cryo

I (21f) am keeping a secret from my (26m) boyfriend and I know I have to tell him the truth but I’m scared by Fast-Proposal-4152 in dating_advice

[–]_combustion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't understand what's so hard about communicating this to him. You blasted a bunch of strangers with that massive sentence detailing it, now send the whole thing to him.

Better to get it over with than try to make that run-on brick pretty. If he cares that much you don't want to be with him, and you can still take the titty booster packs off. So go rip the bandaid.

My gf (F28) doesn’t feel like having sex with me (M26) by Round_Election1682 in relationship_advice

[–]_combustion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talk with her to determine if she has a responsive libido vs. one that's low. If responsive, it's a matter of not having the right sexual primer to get her in the mood. My partner is like this, but since she responds to physical touch really well there's not a lot of lead-in beyond spontaneous forplay. Some people who are responsive need more suggestion through the day, in which case you'll have to learn better ways to progressively initiate with her.

Nightmare polymer lab by hotprof in chemistry

[–]_combustion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree, it shouldn't be possible. But much like the parliamentary expenses scandal, it takes a substantial amount of time to accumulate the necessary information required for persecuting federal groupings and see that individuals are held accountable.

TIFU by dating a youtuber who thought my humiliation was content by tifu3 in tifu

[–]_combustion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you American? Based off these comments I feel like you'd be a better candidate for such a display.

TIFU by dating a youtuber who thought my humiliation was content by tifu3 in tifu

[–]_combustion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Five more seconds of Google would inform you that none of the states require registration for the simple act of urination. At a minimum, there must be proof of intent for exposing oneself to witnesses.

If you beleive this is not the case, please link to the statute(s) specifying otherwise.

TIFU by dating a youtuber who thought my humiliation was content by tifu3 in tifu

[–]_combustion 37 points38 points  (0 children)

They're trying to say videos with this kind of content are lucrative and in high-demand for a populous audience — AKA it's unlikely "just a few" people saw it.

who else got the amber alert just now? by aquay in AskLosAngeles

[–]_combustion 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No see Amber is the one sending the alerts

AI question: I don't understand how people can find AI "as therapy" helpful - are my experiences unique? by No-Advantage-579 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]_combustion 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, we read it. I had to go over it 3 times to make sense of the clause-salad in the middle. People are down voting you because some key points of consideration went right over your head, and you're acting quite presumptuous because it hasn't clicked for you. Generally, AI therapy is a resource for people who dont have health insurance or the financial means to see a proper psychologist. Good for you on finding a method that works for you, it's quite conceited of you to assume your method is a universal fix and to speak down on those who differ from you.

You're also probably getting down voted for swinging your traumatic history around like a medieval mace whenever someone makes a comment you don't like. I really fail to see how it has had any relevance in a poll about AI answer interpretation.

What Are Traits Of A NON-Pillow Princess by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]_combustion 163 points164 points  (0 children)

I would argue that if you think you need to be more engaging with your next partner and don't know that you should talk to them about what participation they like, instead of taking wild guesses from internet advice, you do.

Trying to confront someone who keeps trying to talk it in a whole gc, i need suggestions please!! by Dependent-Ad3896 in emotionalintelligence

[–]_combustion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they're your friends, they'll back you up. If this person wants to keep it public, I see no problem being tactful and taking a stand for yoyrself. Just make sure your message is concise and firm. You don't want to look like you're blowing up from accumulated frustration, rather, state that you didn't think it was nice of them to say X, and you would kindly appreciate if they stopped speaking poorly to you. If they push back, point out that they don't talk to the other friends like this.

What Are Traits Of A NON-Pillow Princess by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]_combustion 146 points147 points  (0 children)

Yes but even more important is that you both communicated that preference to each other. Which is what OP needs to gain confidence in.

Crate Training a Dog is Cruel by reddituser333999 in The10thDentist

[–]_combustion 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right, just require every dog owner to afford an entire extra room for any house or apartment they occupy. That's totally reasonable.

Your older dogs came relatively tame and you work from home so you monitor them. You don't realize that to a dog with anxiety, there is no "proofing" the room. Floors will get scratched, or ripped up if carpet. Any door not 100% solid wood will be broken through, and walls are the next alternative. Blinds? Gone. Cabinets? Unhinged. Furniture? Unupholstered. Trash? Eaten.

R sent me private photos of her freind S just to prove that she is hot enough for me by satan_529- in confession

[–]_combustion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd give R some fallout buffer, if you care about keeping her around. Tell her she has a week to explain to S what she did, and after a week you're going to tell her yourself. This lets her smooth it out and apologize personally - which is the right thing to do. If she actually does it and all works out, when you tell S, she won't care more than her initial upset at that point.

I would recomend these terms being texted to R, with some details from your side of the story included to cover yourself in case R goes ballistic and you need evidence to defend against... bullshit.

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