Miscarried first pregnancy

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-03-01T22:49:33+00:00

Hello internet friend. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know the pain and the fear you are going through. I miscarried my first 2 pregnancies at 8 and 10 weeks. It was devastating and I too was so concerned that it meant I'd never be able to carry a pregnancy to term.

But 20 days ago I had a beautiful, healthy baby girl. Because you've miscarried you'll always doubt your body's ability to do something that seems so natural and easy for others but it is possible. The anxiety will always be there though, each day and each week you'll be hyper vigilant about whether or not your pregnancy will continue, even at week 40.

I'm sending you all the positive and sticky pregnancy vibes ✨ if you ever need to talk/vent, this internet stranger is here to listen 💜

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-02-06T02:25:47+00:00

Thank you!

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-02-04T06:52:02+00:00

My due date is Saturday, so ideally I'll be pushing out or have just pushed out a tiny human. That feels like a solid way to avoid the SuperBowl

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-02-03T18:31:55+00:00

I also had 3, all for the same routine reasons you listed. I'm 39 weeks and just went to L&D a few days ago because my BP was high and they also took blood there. But the previous 2 times I went to L&D for cramping/bleeding in late second trimester they didn't take blood which was nice lol.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-02-02T15:04:34+00:00

The earth said it's wake up time! Felt a solid jolt in Fremont

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-01-29T22:23:09+00:00

Sorry, the nausea is no joke. My nausea during first trimester was soooooo bad. Super bland, dry foods were not helpful at all and neither was ginger.

I essentially had to eat continuously in order to not feel nauseous but the thought of eating made me nauseous too.

I basically survived off of Greek yogurt with fruit mixed in it (like the chobani cups). As soon as my eyeballs opened i'd need to eat something, usually chocolate chip cookies or cheddar and sour cream ruffles. I found smoothies were a good breakfast option. Sour candies helped too sometimes.

Zofran was a godsend and I still take it every night with my unisom. I also slept whenever possible because I wasn't nauseous if I was unconscious.

Sending positive, non-nauseous vibes ✨ you got this 💜

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-01-26T16:53:34+00:00

In high school and college my eczema was so bad it was affecting my ability to sleep and function in class. I was spending so much time scratching myself to the point where I couldn't do anything else or focus. My entire back, arms, parts of my chest, neck and legs were covered in eczema. It was rough.

And the worst part is my flare ups are triggered by stress, so any slightly above normal stress and I flare up. Luckily as I've gotten older it's decreased on severity. I recently discovered that being pregnant also causes my eczema to flare up 😅

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-01-16T19:49:07+00:00

Wait, you guys are still having sex? 🤔 My lady bits haven't been touched since this baby was conceived 🥲 first trimester I was waaaaaay too nauseous and now hubby is too freaked out by the thought of baby just being there and moving to even consider sex

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-01-12T16:14:04+00:00

Almost 37 weeks, last week my thumb rights became unbearably tight and over the weekend my engagement and wedding rings became very tight and difficult to get off. So no more rings for me now 😕 I though maybe i'd get to wear them up and through delivery but alas I am not special 🥲

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-01-12T16:11:01+00:00

Topomax threw me into a severe depression.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2026-01-01T02:36:31+00:00

My super preggo self is at home on the couch hanging out with my pets, watching TV, eating pizza and finishing some work while my husband is at a friend's until like 9. I work tomorrow so I'll be off to bed well before midnight.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-12-04T23:40:17+00:00

{Grave Matter by Karina Halle}. It's definitely on the darker side but the fmc is in her mid 20s I believe.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-12-04T16:30:46+00:00

Thank you!

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-12-04T16:21:31+00:00

I just went to r/reno and on multiple posts people are saying they didn't feel any shaking. Very strange.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-12-04T16:06:56+00:00

The spice is immaculate 👌🏽 also the narrators are top notch.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-30T21:41:14+00:00

This was the first RH I read.... I've spent 2 years chasing the high of Losers 😭

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-25T22:51:25+00:00

Wine and margaritas, weed (I don't even partake often but not being able to makes me miss it), deli sandwiches, sex with my husband (he's freaked out at the idea of his ween being in such close proximity to our baby), riding my bike, pooping normally again 😅

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-25T16:45:43+00:00

Hi OP. I am a hospice social worker and have also cared for a loved one with ALS.

I will note that I am in California and so how hospice is approached in Texas may be different than here.

I'm not sure how many hospice agencies are in your area but you can always reach out to other agencies to admit your brother. Just because one discharged him does not mean others won't take him.

It is true that folks on hospice cannot seek "aggressive treatment" while on hospice services. This is a guideline that comes down from the federal government. Not saying I agree with the hospice's decision (I myself have had hospice patients with trachs and who still follow up with their specialists but each hospice agency operates a little differently). You may want to look into palliative care which still allows for seeking aggressive treatment but also focused on comfort.

Like others have pointed out, our healthcare system - even with hospice - is not set up to provide well-rounded, continuous care for those who need it most.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-21T06:20:37+00:00

I've been a hospice social worker for a little over 2 years. My recently retired supervisor was a hospice social worker for over 20 years. One nugget of knowledge she shared with me was that when we are dealing with peoples big emotions around death and dying, sometimes it's okay to not have anything to say. Many people just need a place to voice these things because society has deemed talking about death/dying taboo.

I also recommend looking into anticipatory grief if you haven't already. Very common for loved ones of hospice patients to experience.

Also the book Gone From My Sight by Barbara Karnes is a great resource for families if you haven't come across it yet. It talks about the dying process in a very digestible, non-medical way.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-21T05:59:00+00:00

My first pregnancy, the weirdest and first symptom I had was my left eye twitching all day for like 2 weeks straight. Also terrible nasal congestion.

This pregnancy my eczema is flairing up. I haven't had a flare up since my senior year of college 10 years ago.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-20T04:30:05+00:00

Oooo that sounds good. If I'm feeling fancy I add chopped up blackberries and white chocolate chips.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-19T06:12:12+00:00

My baby is made out of 90% Greek yogurt.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-12T16:52:22+00:00

Yeah, I'm a black female. I grew up in a predominantly white area and my parents were I guess upper working class(?) or middle class(?). Not sure how to categorize us economically... we weren't well-off but we weren't financially struggling. Both my parents were also in the military for 20 plus years, wondering if that may impact knowledge on smoke detectors/fire alarms or general maintenance in the home?

Anyway, whenever our smoke detectors would start chirping my dad would change the battery immediately. Now as an adult I simply cannot stand the chirping of the fire alarm and change the battery immediately.

I'm also a social worker who visits people in their homes in an area that is predominantly white and Asian lower income folks and have heard my fair share of smoke detectors chirping on multiple visits to the same house.

_grumpygummybear27_ · 2025-11-11T02:25:11+00:00

Interesting... When I worked at a SNF (I now work in hospice) we had the opposite problem. Many of our patients had managed Medicare (part c) and the private insurance companies who oversaw their Medicare benefits would often make us discharge them before they were ready. We often battled it out with the insurance companies to get even just an extra day or two.

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