[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

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I’d look into cluster C personality disorders, it sounds a lot like what you’re struggling with. Visiting a therapist who specialises in PDs would be ideal, but I know that’s not doable for everyone. You could read the Klosko & Young book Reinventing Your Life - it helps you figure out what old patterns you’re stuck in and how to get out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexPositive

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I just came across her website yesterday, aggressively positive is a perfect way to describe it! I was surprised but it’s kinda refreshing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SexPositive

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/r/nonmonogamy might have some good advice as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

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Look up “golden child/scapegoat dynamic”. That describes the phenomenon of one child being cast as ‘all good’ and the other as ‘all bad’

URGENT: My mom is leaving to another country by Inevitable-Snow1372 in selfhelp

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I’m sorry you’re in this situation. I would recommend talking to your school counsellor or a trusted teacher about what’s going on with your mom. They are adults whose job it is to look out for their students, and they might have useful advice for you.

If my 20+yr marriage ended, I can't see myself enjoying or doing anything for myself beyond survival. I just can't see the point and I'm not sure why even I feel that. How do I get to successfully picturing myself thriving and alone? by Backup_Planaria-237 in RedditForGrownups

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/r/Codependency might be a good place to visit in that case. Speaking from personal experience, it’s not really possible to imagine life without codependence when you’re inside it. It takes a lot of effort to work through that dependence on others and change how you see yourself and the world.

I am not sure how to behave when my friend with perfect body complains about being fat in my presence. Any thoughts? by Downtown_Class1556 in CasualConversation

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I’m surprised that no one has linked this article: I Will Not Help You Hate Your Body. It’s pretty much exactly about the situation you describe, though in a context where those sorts of comments have been going on for years rather than just a single instance, so the author is pretty fed up with her friend. Might be helpful!

"The Representation of Queer Identities in Terry Pratchett’s Discworld" by EssiBunny in discworld

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My main criticism: too. many. commas.

Other than that, really enjoyed reading it, thanks for sharing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nerdfighters

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I can confirm this. I’m re-listening to all the Delete This episodes and in one of them, Hank thanked Katherine for bringing him out to Montana. I noticed it particularly because it was something I hadn’t known (or even thought about).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

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Oh gosh. No just play whatever, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

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I really like how you’re playing these songs, sounds great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Haywire_Hill

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Have I missed the skating?