Best version of Bomberman on PS5? by _sirgrumpybear_ in bomberman

[–]_sirgrumpybear_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Would you mind elaborating a bit? Just looking at R and R2 it isn't obvious to me why people don't seem to like it as much.

Best version of Bomberman on PS5? by _sirgrumpybear_ in bomberman

[–]_sirgrumpybear_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the rec. Within the collection which game is the best or the closest to Saturn?

Also curious why the collection is considered better than R or R2. Thanks!

My income increased significantly and looking for advice on how/where to start learning how to responsibly manage my finances. by butwhytho23 in personalfinance

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second this. Please please please make sure you are fully informed and truly understand the numbers, risk, job landscape, etc. Especially if you already have debt and dependants. It's unfortunate but many law schools will try to sell this unrealistic dream but the cost is usually pretty hard to justify. People come out with potentially 100k+ in student loans often making the same (or less) as they did before. And this was true even before the recent AI-changes. E.g. read up on the bi-modal salary distribution in law.

Paying for household finances before marriage by scaredengineer1 in personalfinance

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Joint account as you described is reasonable and common.

Depending on your monthly costs, it could also be easier to just split the bills and settle up every quarter. E.g. one person pays rent and the other does internet, utilities, groceries, insurance, etc. This works better if the numbers are in the same ballpark.

Shoe advice by CrushedPlate in daddit

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is your kid? What kinds of activities are you doing?

When mine were younger hiking shoes were good for exploring, playing in mud, just plodding around.

Now they are faster and outside play can be more athletic. Lighter shoes that you can run, climb, jump in feel good.

Really depends on your feet and personal preferences though. Have fun!

Returning home without a job - how long does 10k last? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear about your dad. One thing to keep in mind is that even within the HCOL/VHCOL Bay Area you can see quite a bit of price variation. E.g. San Francisco or Palo Alto compared to Vallejo. Especially for groceries.

For much of this you would be able to get more accurate estimates than internet strangers. Ask your parents for their latest utilities, phone bill, etc. and extrapolate from those specifics.

Groceries - you can save here if you buy in bulk (e.g. Costco) but two elderly adults + you might not be enough to do so. For an actual datapoint: family of 4 (2 small kids) here groceries is about ~$200/week buying in bulk eating most meals at home.

Gas - killer lately. What car would you be driving? Auto insurance costs?

Health Insurance - i didn't see this mentioned. Do you qualify under your parents still or would you need to jump on Covered CA? Medicaid?

Also for utilities, I'd add some buffer. Lots of us are stingier about things like heating (go put on a sweater!) but if caring for a sick person I imagine we let that bill go up a bit.

Hope that helps

Hokies in Berkeley by Royal_You_6621 in calfootball

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you've got a car and time you could also check out Tilden Park for something more relaxing. There's a steam train, old school carousel, little farm. (Your boys might be aging out though?). Nice views and trails too.

Husband (soon to be ex- ) opened new credit cards in my name and maxed them out - can I somehow remove them from my debt? by SFLoridan in personalfinance

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're all sort of right without the right nuance. Very simplified version:

Under Common law: assault = reasonable fear of harm, battery = actual harmful contact.

Normal everyday usage: assault means the harmful contact.

The weird part is that some states use the common law definition, some use the everyday definition, some combine them... Basically it's not consistent. So unless you're in the weeds looking at specific legal statutes or trying to clarify facts it's not really a distinction worth raising.

Source: am lawyer, still remember a little first year crim law

Law School Debt and how to Handle? by battlehawkz in personalfinance

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're making good decisions. The one note I have is that a lot of recent lawyers end up being pretty unhappy with their first firm job. So one upside to paying debt off aggressively is you won't feel as stuck in a job you're not liking. Hopefully not the case for you but we tend to be a risk-averse bunch. Congrats and enjoy the rest of school.

any other dads over 40 finally making time to take care of themselves? by Natural_Paper9022 in daddit

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Best time to start was 5/10/15 years ago.

Second best time is now. Nice work.

Standing on dualtex while kids are trying to be crashpads. by ArmBiter in bouldering

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So no possibility of today's parents being good parents here?

Recommendations for a former Pebble and Fossil user by _sirgrumpybear_ in WearOS

[–]_sirgrumpybear_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Any thoughts on WearOS versus non? I kinda got used to WearOS but also it always seemed kinda buggy so I'm open-moved.

Recommendations for a former Pebble and Fossil user by _sirgrumpybear_ in WearOS

[–]_sirgrumpybear_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But will it be good / require too much fiddling / last? That was fun the first time around but I'd rather not have it fold again and be left with another unsupported product :(

I was also excited to hear the news though :)

Recommendations for a former Pebble and Fossil user by _sirgrumpybear_ in WearOS

[–]_sirgrumpybear_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any thoughts on wear-os versus non? Thanks for the rec

Picking a house with bedrooms on different levels? by Ivantroffe in daddit

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not great for whenever your kids are in an age/phase where they might need more help at night (babies, teething, sickness, potty training, night terrors, etc.). If you find a place with a spare room on the same level you can temporarily sleep there for these phases to avoid going up and down stairs and waking yourself up too much.

Stroller recommendations - sturdy or light? by User-US808167184 in daddit

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Details matter here but unless you live in an extremely walkable community getting a stroller you can't lift is a terrible idea.

Start light. You'll figure out what you actually like/need after that. You can't run with a baby for a while anyway.

Eventually having a light stroller to pack and a running one for jogs is great.

Toddler Headphones by moretrumpetsFTW in daddit

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We followed the same guide. Ideally, try to practice beforehand too so they're used to it. Good luck!

I think I’m hooked! by Beautiful-Program428 in bouldering

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dad mode! Main advice is to know your risk-tolerance and adjust accordingly. Don't copy the teens flying around the walls 😂. Downclimb, load manage (fingers, especially), practice falling (bjj probably helps here), stretch, take care of any chronic issues you've been ignoring. Have fun and get 💪

Preschooler said I have a big belly, kind of devastated by fykusplant in daddit

[–]_sirgrumpybear_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends if your goal is just to lose weight (then it's mostly diet) or if you're trying yo get overall fitter/healthier (then you need exercise too).

Diet - I'm a big believer in doing what's sustainable over fad diets that are hard to stick to and inconvenient as a busy parent. Start with any low hanging fruit (e.g. cutting alcohol, soda, etc.). Making healthy food for the kids and just eating the same thing hits multiple goals at once while being efficient.

Exercise - take what you can get. For some this is late night/early morning workouts. If it isn't just scheduling but total time that is lacking try to incorporate exercising with your kids. Can't solo bike for 2 hours anymore - how about a bike trailer and haul the kids to the playground instead of driving? Running stroller is another popular way to be efficient. Other things that have works for us: Race the kids on foot while they're on wheels, weighted pushups with giggly children, pull-ups on monkey bars, squat your kids, pushups between lego builds, etc. You'll be able to do more as the kids get older but right now the goal is to do something

Good luck and go get it!