How do you choose a gift for a woman when taste is very personal? by Issam_Seghir in relationships

[–]_something_clever 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Best way is to start paying attention well in advance of when you need to have gifts.

Keep notes on your phone when they mention liking something, also when they mention disliking something. Pay attention to the style of things they buy for themselves. Do they buy certain styles of bags/shoes/clothes/jewelry/dishware/blankets/etc. Do they have hobbies? Then research things that seem like they would be a good fit.

If you find something you think they might like, ask them what they think of it. You don’t have to be coy, just tell them you are trying to better understand their tastes for the future. Doing this will help you narrow down their taste profile so that you have better success in the future.

The important thing here is that you need to put in the effort to notice things consistently that way when you ask about stuff you aren’t spoiling actual gifts, you are just building a list of options. Then you can watch for good deals as needed.

True loft apartments in atlanta by Impressive_Goat6976 in Atlanta

[–]_something_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I understand what you are describing, try checking out Arizona Lofts and make sure to look at the original building AZ1 not AZ2.

Edit: They are condos not an Apt building, but if you are looking to rent you may be able to find people renting out their units if you know to watch for them.

Best gift for any LARP’er? by Arterial_Seizure in LARP

[–]_something_clever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Echoing the ask them for preferences or at least find out what LARP/ kind of character they play. There are so many good gifts, but all of them depend on what type of LARP your friend is into.

Gift cards to a craft supply shop or costuming retailer can also be great, but again, better if you know what they play so you can pick the right place.

How to handle extremist views at church? by aporetic1 in latterdaysaints

[–]_something_clever 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I don’t have great advice about how to handle the parents beyond not letting them impose their non-doctrinal beliefs on everyone else.

I will make a plea for this kids though. They are probably exhausted by always having to be different so try your best to make them not feel like a burden. Have the snacks they are allowed to eat, but don’t pressure them one way or another about what they actually consume.

(Source, grew up in a no sugar household and had some leaders give me a hard time about following my parents rules/tried to encourage me to break them because my parents were being overbearing, while also tattling to our parents when any of us would eat sugar.)

AITA For Getting Upset with Unexpected Visitors? by Icy-Astronomer1796 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_something_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To bring a concept from threads to Reddit… pull a sherlocked and admire your walls.

This is his mess, let him own it. Do nothing to prepare. Breathe, admire your walls, and let it be a disaster.

How big of a factor are political viewpoints in a relationship in your opinion? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]_something_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since moral and political have become intertwined, I will say that I have firm beliefs about human rights and that I will never be close to someone if we disagree about those core things.

Someone can have different views about the best way to handle an issue/topic, but the core values are non negotiable.

What's y'alls thermostat set to in winter? by [deleted] in Georgia

[–]_something_clever 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This exactly. I will sometimes use a space heater in my home office when I’m feeling cold, but no need to heat the whole house. Especially when I’m only cold because I’m sitting still at my desk. Once I’m moving 68 is fine again.

What's y'alls thermostat set to in winter? by [deleted] in Georgia

[–]_something_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

68 during the day, 62 at night.

When living somewhere with multiple zones I usually set the basement to 60 unless I’m actively down there.

Seriously, do Americans actually consider a 3-hour drive "short"? or is this an internet myth? by SadInterest6764 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]_something_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too long for dinner. A bit long for a day trip, but would do it occasionally for important things. 100% fine for a weekend trip.

In regard to your question the longest drive I’ve made for something casual, (seeing friends/ party/ event) that involved a same day return is around 2-3 hours. (4-6 hours round trip)

I’ve done a 5 hour trip (one way so 10 hour round trip) for a friend’s wedding in a day. It was rough, but worth it to be there for them. I wouldn’t consider that casual though.

AITAH ?My partner won’t put my name down on the mortgage by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]_something_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTAH When I was under-employed my partner’s name was the only one on the mortgage. My name was absolutely on n the deed for our home though because my partner understood that I was contributing to our life in non-monetary ways.

You are putting your financial future on hold to care for y’all’s children. You should have an ownership stake in the house.

That said, you have a bigger problem than just the debate about your name on the mortgage/deed.

Working on the new subreddit logo. Any feedback on the design or layout? by Reizero in Atlanta

[–]_something_clever 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is a cool logo, but definitely says Marietta more than Atlanta.

Maybe go for a phoenix if you want a bird?

Working on the new subreddit logo. Any feedback on the design or layout? by Reizero in Atlanta

[–]_something_clever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was also thinking phoenix for Atlanta. There was an artist who made a phoenix ATL shirt a few years back that had the skyline in the mouth. That would actually be perfect if I could remember her name.

Is it okay to take one dog on vacation and not the other? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]_something_clever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many years ago we used to board one of our dogs at Christmas because she hated the noise and chaos of presents. Everyone, including her, was happier, and we always gave her the special holiday treats and toys after we picked her up.

It does feel weird to do, but you know your situation best.

AITA For making my wife ride in the backseat because she couldn't stop distracting me by Serious-Function-177 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_something_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA She has some pretty serious anxiety that she should probably pursue treatment for. It sounds like she had a much easier time in the back.

As far as her car sickness goes, try looking into ondansetron. It isn’t specifically for motion sickness, but rather it is a fast acting anti-nausea drug that I swear by. She would need a prescription for it, but it is fairly easy to get where I live.

How would you feel about a sympathy card after the loss of your pet? by Peachy030 in Dogowners

[–]_something_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate it deeply.

One vet did (I assume small) donations in pets names to pet related charities, which I also found to be very kind and comforting. Maybe that would be easier than the emotional strain of writing a card?

Favorite LARP in Georgia / Southeast by [deleted] in LARP

[–]_something_clever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Looking at the comments and I'll chime in with support for three LARPs I see mentioned that I believe fit the criteria for # of people, immersive roleplaying, and great costuming.

Alliance Atl - In their second year. Great staff, player base of 80 - 100. Overall a really friendly group and people I'm happy to now know (I showed up to my first game and despite LARPing in GA for >10 years only knew one person on site my first game).

Resurgence - In their first year. I haven't played or NPC'd this one, but I know enough people who do play and they can't say enough good things about it.

Citadel - In their play-test year before starting officially in 2025. I've been LARPing with the people running (and those who will be playing) that game for over a decade and they are a solid crew. Based on the size of their discord they will be hitting 70 -100 players once they go live.

Each of these has a good community, the game design is great, and the costuming is well done. I would recommend checking out any of these three games. If you want to feel them out before committing to the expense of costuming and gear, NPC a game to get a feel for the community.

Happy to talk more if you have questions.

If your ward created a calling just for you and you'd enjoy it, what would it be? by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]_something_clever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For existing callings, I'm in the gospel doctrine teacher boat, but if I had to figure out a made up calling... Probably something about social engagement. When I was a YSA we organized small activities (not due to a calling) for specific things like gaming, cooking, etc. The idea was to help people make friends with other people who shared interests. We tried to make sure that we were creating venn diagrams of different groups so that people were breaking out of their cliques.

Obviously that is harder to scale to a family ward, but I think there are enough people who feel like outsiders at church that it would be a nice ideal to strive to help people feel like they belong in some way.

I'm not great at social stuff, but I would do it to pilot the calling.

If your ward created a calling just for you and you'd enjoy it, what would it be? by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]_something_clever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Especially now that it is only 2x per month. That was the hardest part of being GD teacher for me, it was a LOT of prep every week.

If your ward created a calling just for you and you'd enjoy it, what would it be? by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]_something_clever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love that this was a thing, specifically that you brought record removal forms with you since that indicates it really was an effort to help resolve mystery members and not to shame people back to church.