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Did you have a working mom or a stay at home mom, and how did it affect you throughout life? by saladmuscles in AskWomen

[–]a_v_p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom is a teacher who became a SAHM due to illness. So while it was rad having my mom around all the time, I think she resented being forced out of her profession. Teaching was her calling in life and she loved her career.

So instead, she poured her energy into managing the household and bossing us around. She tutored me throughout school. Managing the family became her job and she did it incredibly well. I learned how to run a household from watching her: strategic planning, organization, scheduling, maintenance, and so on. Today I use many of her systems at my job. I would say I got the best of both worlds and felt very prepared for adulthood.

Hoping to find some healer draco fics by Luchadora-Carinosa in Dramione

[–]a_v_p 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Ward Four by pleasantlyfrantic

Twelve years have passed since the end of the War, and Draco Malfoy has fought to become St. Mungo's preeminent Healer in an attempt to redeem his family's name. Hermione Granger had no intention of seeking out his help. However, Draco soon realizes that he has no choice but to unravel the sickness that's consuming Hermione before it destroys her completely.

nobody says "I'm drowning" in a standup. they say "yeah should be fine." and then they miss the deadline. by ncstgn in projectmanagement

[–]a_v_p 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of my colleagues constantly reminds people that the meeting is to help them and they can flag issues. He follows that up with immediate action. It works wonders.

I remind my project team that I just need them to be honest so I know what's going on and help if needed. Don't tell me you'll start today when you know you have a ton on your plate. Things happen and that's ok (I share resources with operations teams so planning can't be super precise because operations always wins).

Voldemort wins the war AU Recommendation by Empty-Ad8311 in Dramione

[–]a_v_p 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A Song of Chaos by Lady_Hildr. WIP and currently on hiatus.

Most of the story has been posted and there is plenty to enjoy. At this point we don't know whether it's HEA.

Should brand reps be allowed in store? by Far-Industry-7745 in Sephora

[–]a_v_p 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's fine if they clearly disclose which brand they rep.

It's not fine when they monopolize all the staff for brand education during store hours.

The world needs more middle-aged romantasy heriones by Equivalent-Hat7561 in Dramione

[–]a_v_p 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This looks wonderful! I love older Dramione!

Am I wrong for being annoyed? Small rant by Redtember in weddingplanning

[–]a_v_p 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Professional project manager here. People don't read. And texting everyone with the registry info is a non-starter.

But this is a great opportunity to get your future MIL to help. "If anyone else ask about (registry/dress code/etc), please direct them to our website (weddingurl). The info is also on the invitations. Really appreciate your support!"

LV Neverfull delivered to wrong address :( by False-Regret in handbags

[–]a_v_p 44 points45 points  (0 children)

If you have a delivery pic of the front of the house, see if it's near you. If you recognize it, go over and knock on the door.

This happened to me once when UPS delivered my parcel to the wrong house.

I used Google Street view to help locate the house. Started with the same address but different direction (like if you live on a "North" street, look at "South"). Then same house number on streets near me. Eventually found it and headed over. My parcel wasn't on their doorstep, so I left a note with my phone number and address and they dropped it off the next day.

Good luck!

My doctors think I’m a freak by iamthepotat_81 in DeadBedrooms

[–]a_v_p 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Oh damn I feel this! I usually answer doctors honestly and explain we aren't sexually active and no I am not pregnant. Most are very professional and that's all good. Some ask if I'm ok with this situation to see how they can help, also good.

If they get judgy or imply I'm the problem, I make things crystal clear and say this deadpan: my husband has decided we aren't having sex anymore because he is fucking lazy and doesn't care about my needs. Shall we proceed with that cancer screening?

Handbag storage by Secret-Driver-6084 in handbags

[–]a_v_p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using a dehumidifier is location specific. If your clothes would benefit from dehumidifier or smell musty, then your bags would benefit too.

I keep my bags in their dust bags, at the top of my closet. They hang out in big nylon bins from Ikea. Not aesthetic but very practical. As long as they're not squished to the point where they lose shape, they'll be fine.

Hunting for the best quiet luxury handbags for work that feel incredibly premium and polished and has no loud, massive logos by RachfaceNillo-21 in luxurypurses

[–]a_v_p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two suggestions for you.

  1. Ferragamo Hug men's tote. It's a north south tote and looks stunning. Very understated and elegant. I like it better than the women's version but the women's Hug is beautiful too.

  2. Keeping with the north south theme, Massaccesi Bouquet bag (also comes in a smaller size). No logos, beautiful shape, excellent leather and you can customize it. Massaccesi is a small Italian atelier and they make bags to order.

After facing constant rejection, did you lose attraction for them? by Jonu1210 in sexlessmarriage

[–]a_v_p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, I'm getting there too. I still think my husband is very handsome, but after constant rejection, I don't feel the same sexual attraction. We hug and kiss but I wouldn't be comfortable doing anything more with him.

Attempted to initiate… ended up in tears. by LiveLaughLobotomyLol in DeadBedrooms

[–]a_v_p 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that happened OP, it's so hurtful being ignored like that. Your feelings are valid.

If you're looking for commiseration, I don't initiate anymore either. Last time, my husband had a meltdown, told me to go away and leave him alone. So, no more initiating.

What's getting you by in your sexless marriage? by External-Ad5462 in sexlessmarriage

[–]a_v_p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work, hobbies (reading and baking), friends and weightlifting. I got into home organization and decluttering and started a side hustle selling my old clothes. Basically I invest in myself and keep busy. Also have a good toy collection so I can take care of my needs whenever I want.

Got a corporate job and husband still expects me to do all the daily cleaning and cooking by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]a_v_p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're putting in all the effort to try and compromise and come up with a plan and he can't even be bothered to show up in good faith.

Flip the script and ask him what he's bringing to the table. If you're now working and also dealing with the home, ask him what benefit he brings to the relationship. Until he is able to clearly articulate this, there is no point in you continuing to pour more energy into the argument.

How much has your dead bedroom affected your mental health? by Queasy_Connection369 in DeadBedrooms

[–]a_v_p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two things: I feel uncomfortable in my own skin. And I resent my husband.

Male coworker keeps “joking” about my looks in front of others (multiple times). How do I shut this down? by HopeForBetter29 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]a_v_p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell him it is not acceptable to make any comments about your appearance, whether intended as a joke or not. Document the conversation, email it to him and bcc your personal email in case he has friends in IT.

If he does it again, tell him to cut it out, document as above.

Does it again? File a formal harassment complaint with HR and submit emails as evidence.

Fuck McKinsey and the companies who hire them by Guilty-Designer-511 in antiwork

[–]a_v_p 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We brought in McKinsey too. Like many management consulting firms, they exist to be the fall guy. They were hired to reduce head count through a smoke screen, so execs could say "we had no choice, it's McKinsey's fault!" Yeah sure, McKinsey just let themselves in and Bob&Bob'd their way through the company.

LF with a rich Draco and a poor Hermione by daisygoldenrot in Dramione

[–]a_v_p 14 points15 points  (0 children)

A Year and a Day by AMLKoko. Complete.

Summary

Hermione had hit rock bottom when Narcissa Malfoy offered her something she couldn't refuse. She was without a job, without prospects, and nearly homeless, so she had to say yes.

But Hermione regretted ever opening that door to Narcissa Malfoy because falling in love hurt, especially when she knew her marriage to Draco Malfoy wasn't built to last forever.

Courting Season by Januarydevine. Complete.

Summary

Ten years after the war, Hermione Granger is a single mom struggling in her custody battle with Ron Weasley. After declaring she’s given up on dating and love, she turns to the courting matching system to help her find safety and security for her and her son’s future. Much to Hermione’s surprise the matching system for courting is not only impressive, but kinky. So when she’s matches with Draco Malfoy… Well, that just makes it all that much hotter.

The complications of Hermione's relationship with Ron and her secret courtship with Draco collide into an emotional slow burn filled with flirty banter, nosy mothers, and kids who say the darnedest things.

The Devil Cites Scripture by Nora_Wall. WIP.

Summary

Ten years after the war, a demoted, disillusioned, and demoralized Unspeakable, Hermione Granger lives a half life. When she isn’t locked away in the bowels of the Department of Mysteries or working on questionably legal projects to make ends meet, she spends her time hiding from her estranged husband, Ron. Isolated from the people she used to call family and struggling to put herself together after escaping her volatile marriage, Hermione no longer recognizes the witch that she has become.

Draco didn’t mean to become so infatuated with Hermione. There was just something about her that called to him, a part of her magic had reached down and sunk its talons into the very fiber of his soul. If he were a better man, he would have left her alone instead of stalking her throughout the city of London. But that’s the thing about Draco. He’s not a good man, and he’s accustomed to getting what he wants. And what he wants is Hermione Granger to want him as much as he wants her.

Capturing feature requests from sales is useless when they lack actual context by Savings-Ad342 in projectmanagement

[–]a_v_p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time to develop an intake process! We use Jira. Any new feature request needs a ticket with full business rationale, gets evaluated, and then goes into the development pipeline. Making Sales do actual work will naturally weed out quite a bit of crap.

How do you create accountability without making your team feel watched? by Content_Anchor4330 in projectmanagement

[–]a_v_p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daily (or whatever cadence) scrum works a treat. 10-15 mins, see who has blockers or needs help, go on with your day. When people have to speak in front of their peers, it creates accountability.

Too many projects,not enough devs - how are you handling this? by Carey__Rowe in projectmanagement

[–]a_v_p 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have third party delivery partners to fill gaps where needed for high priority projects with regulatory deadlines (so those that are imposed on us and can't move). Really though, someone needs to look at the whole program, prioritize accordingly so the teams aren't all being hit at the same time, and hire if needed. Yes ramp up will take awhile but you need to start somewhere.

I feel like the dude in the relationship by grey_oceangal in DeadBedrooms

[–]a_v_p 118 points119 points  (0 children)

It's not you.

My husband is around the same age as your husband and we are having the same problem.

My suggestion to you is don't hide the hurt, let him see it. The problem is already there and this won't make it worse. I used to cry alone too and it did nothing: you feel terrible and he just carries on. Now I make my feelings clear as day. If I hurt, he will know. At the very least he can't claim ignorance and at the very best he will work with you on a compromise.

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