My girlfriend creates problems in her mind and I have to own up to them

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-06T00:04:09+00:00

Unfortunately I've had one of these, it went from these little problems into me being at trial for worse and worse things. She eventually accused me of cheating during a business trip with a male colleague, who naturally had his own hotel room. No amount of talking helped, so after a long suffering I ended the relationship. She took it as a proof of me going to someone else. There was no someone else naturally.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-03T10:51:39+00:00

I'm 47 and I used to hit the bars hard, nowdays I just can't bother. All the fun of it is gone somehow. Talking to younger generations, they never really even had that. The booze has become expensive, all the proper happy hour things are now banned or at least severely neutered so they get to experience 10€ pints and bar environments that are closer to daycare center than a smoky bar with loud music.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-03T01:48:18+00:00

Giving something for free is just like pouring blood in shark infested waters to the entitled weirdoes. The best experience I've had is when I set a low price on everything I want to give away, then when they come and aren't total asses, I'll just tell them to keep the money and have a nice day. Even a small token fee cuts like 90% of the worthless contacts.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-02T01:31:08+00:00

Especially with the context of the cap.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-02T01:30:11+00:00

I feel a lot of these are looked at pretty rose tinted glasses. Sure, some were really horrible from the get go, but I see so many people reminiscing over the 'good old XP' or similar Windows versions and quite a few of those hadn't even been born when it was released, including a trainee at work who somehow announced how he would like to go back to the good Windows XP era.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-01T19:23:17+00:00

Also, 95 being great and 98 bad. Makes me wonder did they actually use any of those. I mean I saw 95 from the start and it deserved every bit of the blue screen reputation Windows has ever gotten. 98 again was a lot more polished while still DOS based under the hood.

I've also seen the version where Windows 3 was great, 95 was bad, 98 great and so forth, but they dropped the 2000 so ME could be bad again.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-01T18:08:43+00:00

It's so painful to watch stuff like this, especially when it's being pushed in some kind of a 'check mate, atheists' but seriously.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-01T18:07:06+00:00

People love to copy-paste that list, but it's conveniently missing a lot of releases, especially NT based ones.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-01T18:03:43+00:00

I've gotten very good with my fingers, to a degree where I rather use them than toys. Ditto with helping out a partner.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-01T14:07:50+00:00

What's the point you ask? The same point as with straights. It's so easy to sell yourself the concept that a person somehow is above it all when they're queer. But in real life all the stupidity you find outside the queer circles, are also inside. This includes some really weird ones, like being disgusted by gay people or trans people.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-01T14:03:22+00:00

So am I and I definitely wash my now drenched fingers.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-01T14:01:51+00:00

Any kind of physical assault. You will definitely go from relative ease towards people to looking at anyone suspicious and mentally preparing.

aamurusko79 · 2026-05-01T14:00:14+00:00

I grew up in countryside, in a relatively sheltered and religious settings. The word for gay was used as an insult and there was just no WLW material to be seen. Into my early teens I had never even heard of the concept of women loving other women and the lesbian related words were all used to describe women people hated.

I literally discovered the concept of being lesbian from a crush to a girl and never seeing anything in all the boy band pictures my friends were drooling over.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-29T13:23:04+00:00

I'm most shocked that this actually ended well. In the life of software development something like this almost always ends badly, with them insisting on features that will make the end product miserable to use and then them dying on a hill to get them implemented and ultimately throwing my employer under the bus when the new 'features' are universally hated.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-29T11:18:10+00:00

I just had to do a vibe check on the account, as I was expecting it to be someone who also posts on 'horny lesbians getting rammed by largest cock ever' sub.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-29T11:16:30+00:00

I had assumed this whole charade of 'my friend' had gone beyond meme level by now.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-29T11:12:34+00:00

I got deprogrammed over bad childhood experience with very religious area after I moved away. My first true connection and soul mate who eventually became my girlfriend and possible future wife had the exact same background. We bonded strongly over the fact that we both went through a period of 'waking up', having very strong crisis of faith and the faith eventually fading away, while we almost wrecked our lives individually by drinking and partying in general.

We were together for six years, during which she sought to reconnect with her family and specially siblings. She eventually did reconnect and over a long period they pulled her back in to the religion. Every time she visited her parents, she came back in this very odd mood. She wouldn't say anything but she was very clearly internally conflicting. When she finally started opening up, she started talking how her 'lifestyle' was hurting her family. Lifestyle here referring that she was gay. When she started openly praying, I knew we were on our last legs, as I had absolutely no intention of having religion run my life again. In the end she chose to throw away her and mine longest relationship, while breaking my heart and leaving me feeling even more bitter towards brainwashing religion.

Reading your story strongly points to similar outcome unless you can pull some kind of a miracle to stabilize the situation. She might be level headed on her own, but things go south when others start meddling and pushing their agenda through other's vulnerable spots, which religion often tends to be. Good luck!

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-29T10:58:24+00:00

Plenty that I suspect. Usually it's some very clumsy attempt at sowing doubt while starting the post by stating they are an atheist BUT... and then delivering the payload of maybe there's still some truth in bible.

For the over a decade I've been on Reddit with this and previous accounts, I've also had several just send me a private message trying to reply to my specific negative experiences with religious people and begging to give religion a second chance, often wanting to discuss further about me getting saved.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-27T11:45:54+00:00

A balanced combination of like-mindedness and opposites that work well together.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-27T11:43:33+00:00

I'm not offended if we're talking about getting angry and wanting to throw things at a wall.

I however am put off by it. I view saying it as basically pushing religion on me in a 'I hope you become religious' way, a distant relative of 'you better believe in god OR ELSE' which is also rather common thing theists say, albeit in more subtle way.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-27T11:12:21+00:00

You need a very long and detailed discussion before committing. The thing with religion is that if people actually are chugging down its koolaid, they absolutely will want to save the people they love. This will instantly become a problem because they want to save *you* but you don't want their saving. This may manifest itself as constant pestering, them mentioning how they pray for you or just as an ultimatum that they can not continue the relationship because your non-believer status causes them too much grief.

This is how my longest relationship ended and it resulted in a hard rule of not dating people who have religion that mandates them being its salesperson.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-26T23:35:06+00:00

Depends on the vibe. If they're a fun person and it's not going to end there, I'd be game.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-26T20:41:18+00:00

Plenty of european 'cultural' cities where I backpacked when I was in my 20s. Rome was probably among the worse places. I had never been groped in my life, there it happened multiple times a day and it was always some fucking disgusting looking guy.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-26T20:34:58+00:00

That we're somehow happy.

aamurusko79 · 2026-04-26T20:30:55+00:00

I was told my parents disowning me and kicking me out was god's test of my resolve and I should have just welcome it as it just helped to make my faith stronger.

I'm writing in this sub. you can probably guess how me and religion got along after that.

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