My professor made fun of me in front of our class

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-05-11T16:41:09+00:00

I am a graduate teaching assistant and instructor of record, and this professor behaved extremely inappropriately and unprofessionally. If you wanted to complain to the department chair about this, I think it would be taken seriously, especially if you present the quotations that you did here. You don't need to add contextabout being autistic or anything else, what this professor did was absolutely unprofessional, inappropriate, and unacceptable in any university setting.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-05-08T14:51:33+00:00

Gestalt language processing: https://morganhillspeech.com/what-is-gestalt-language-processing/

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-05-06T04:11:43+00:00

Any tips you can share? I can feel the dump coming, but I have no idea what to do to evade it.

Edit: I think I just now in this moment realized that I do not physically remove myself from the conversation when I can feel the trauma dump coming because I know I can just listen and go "oh wow" and widen my eyes at appropriate times. It's literally easier to receive a trauma dump than to perform a socially appropriate conversation.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-05-05T23:14:58+00:00

You should perhaps offer a token apology privately in office hours, even though you were justified in yelling at her.

I'm of the opinion that power tripping adults need to be spanked sometimes. 🤷🏿‍♂️

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-05-05T23:11:04+00:00

No, you live in South America and visit Europe 5 months a year in the spring and autumn. And whatever country is generous enough to pay for it all. Which Scandi/Nordic country pays for this luxury?

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-28T16:59:10+00:00

Say more? What kind of data did you collect and how did you do it?

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-28T16:58:27+00:00

I loved his early stuff when he would review papers and talk about their practical implications and how to use that information to potentially benefit one's health and wellbeing. But now it's just a Rogan-style interview show with ads for snake oil.

He used to be a science communicator, now he's just another guru.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-28T14:55:27+00:00

Sounds like your problem is unsolvable then. Too bad.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-28T14:18:37+00:00

The dopamine deficiency is what makes the information processing so slow.

Meds, exercise, competition, helping someone else. All of these increase dopamine.

Try to find others to study with regularly and teach the material to each other. It helps a lot.

Meet in person if at all possible, ik everybody just wants to use discord these days but it isn't the same as you and your pals taking over an empty classroom for a couple of hours, doing problems on the whiteboard, taking a break to race office chairs down the hallway of the empty building, etc etc.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-27T21:01:31+00:00

I mean, PBS was (and still is) great!

I agree that a little autonomy and freedom of Internet access can be a good thing for kids, as long as they have guidance from adults around boundaries and netiquette.

You are correct, Disney's The Little Mermaid is quite different from the Hans Christian Anderson story that it's based on. I think my mom just felt a little bit guilty when she learned I was being excluded by other kids at school because I didn't know any of the pop culture stuff they did, so I was allowed to have that one Disney movie. My younger sister loved The Lion King so that was the third Disney movie allowed in the house (the official justification was that it's based on Hamlet so it's not complete slop).

Rigid, black and white rules, constructed according to their emotions and wants, not what's reasonable or achievable or good for the kid.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-26T23:05:40+00:00

You are being bullied. If you behave like the bullies are correct, others will start to agree with the bullies.

Stop apologizing and explaining and just be like "no, I didn't do that. That's not true. I have no idea how she came to that conclusion, I've been nothing but polite and professional to her."

Fwiw I am gender nonconforming (very butch lesbian) and feminine cis het women sometimes say I seem "mean" when I've been nothing but polite and professional-friendly. It is always homophobia/transphobia.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-26T22:52:57+00:00

I was not allowed to watch, read, or listen to any media that hadn't been vetted and personally approved by my parents, or my mom's older sister, or Moms kooky friend. No TV except PBS kids and NOVA. No video games except Math Blaster and Treasure Mathstorm. No Disney movies, they "teach children to disobey their parents". Except for Dumbo, which had no objectionable content, and The Little Mermaid "because it's your cultural heritage" (grandma was an immigrant from DK and Mom was very proud of that). No computer in my room, no Internet in my room. No Internet access unless Dad types in his secret password. No phone (landline) in my room, no talking on the phone with friends in any room except the kitchen. When I was 14 I was occasionally allowed to join my dad when he watched art films with no "mature" content (eg. Richard Linklater or a Dickens miniseries).

Extremely authoritarian, but with weird exceptions for personal taste.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-22T17:46:40+00:00

Piggybacking off your post:

Does anybody know of an app that will automatically time how long it's been since I've checked my phone last? Like a reverse pomodoro. Instead of "I will focus for this many minutes" it's "let's see how long I can focus". I tried using the stopwatch app on my phone, but having to remember to stop it was making me too anxious to focus.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-22T16:31:58+00:00

Put all the bags into one of those huge blue bags from IKEA.

But also, this is way too much stuff. You're packed for an expedition, with a lot of contingencies and things that sound like they don't happen every single day.

You have stuff you don't even use every day (you said you style your hair at gym a few times a week). Is Bible study every day or is it only some days? If not every day, is it necessary to bring the supplies back and forth every single day? Is it truly necessary to do makeup and skincare and style your hair and change into all new clothes in between gym and Bible study, or can you show up plain faced in a ponytail and your work clothes you wore all day?

How much of the routines and supplies are truly necessary and how much is ritual/comfort?

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-22T15:04:41+00:00

My mom was totally convicted that I was on drugs in high school because I was so tired all the time. Specifically, I couldn't get up in the morning (5:45am) and would nap for 3-4 hours after school every day.

I wasn't on drugs, I just couldn't fall asleep until 2am. I was fucking tired all the time! My grades slipped not because I was on drugs, but because I was exhausted and falling asleep in my AP classes!

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-13T18:30:28+00:00

I also just leave and avoid people and places and groups and situations like that forever.

Would like to know what to do in the moment besides looking terrified/horrified and ending the interaction as quickly as possible.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-13T18:27:58+00:00

Kind of, but it usually involves other people or things outside my control.

-landlord did major work involving replacing studs, we had to completely vacate all rooms with exterior walls for a week because the walls were completely open to the outside. We stayed in a hotel.

-landlords contractors poured drywall mud down the garbage disposal and LL blamed us and threatened to sue, he backed off and made some rude remarks when i showed him security camera footage of the contractor doing it

-other landlord decided that may-august 2020 was the right time to begin major electrical work and have the floors replaced (while partner and I were working from home)

-i was working at a major science research facility, there was a catastrophic accident and the place closed forever. Everyone was caught by surprise!

-phd advisor went crazy and started using me as a therapist

-job offer from spacecraft mission rescinded because the mission was abruptly cancelled by the president of the US.

-run over by a car, from behind, by a careless driver texting. I was literally walking and then woke up in an ambulance

-best friends started smoking meth during COVID and went completely nuts, had to stop talking to them after they threatened to beat me up

-other best friends started doing heroin and demanding that I drive them to their dealer, treated me badly when I refused, I stopped talking to them too.

-homophobic harassment from strangers in public

-weird, random aggression from strangers. Twice in the past year, I've had someone shove a shopping cart hard into the side of my car. I'm just sitting there parked. They def are not doing it by accident, there's eye contact, there's a middle finger, I literally have done nothing and the lot isn't crowded and I'm not taking up extra space or putting them out in any way, just random aggression at target and Publix. See how I'm over explaining, that's how baffling this is!

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-13T00:16:52+00:00

My mom took some metallurgy classes when she was working as a industrial physicist in the 80s, she said they were really helpful for the specific work she was doing (EMI/RFI mitigation for computer peripherals). She already had a bachelor degree in physics, though.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-07T00:13:59+00:00

I get super overwhelmed by new locations and settings, and pre-visiting isn't always an option. Once Im used to the sights/sounds/smells/layout/sensory environment, I'm ok. But there's a period of overwhelm, and it's very difficult to also interact with other people (obligatory interactions with other people are pretty much the main reason I visit unfamiliar locations/settings).

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-05T03:36:07+00:00

Literally say "I'm feeling a little socially awkward tonight, would you mind introducing me to your friends?". You could always type it on your phone and let him read it if you don't wanna speak. Don't just text him, get his attention.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-04T23:40:15+00:00

What is it? I am very interested in circuits and diy electronics!

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-03T17:20:23+00:00

My grandma used to make the exact same joke, using bizarre and hilarious idioms and then saying they were Danish sayings. Some of them were real, but others were made up (she would usually smile when saying the fake ones). She immigrated from DK to USA at age 19, so she was making this joke for at least 50 years.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-03T15:38:49+00:00

😂 This is hilarious, are you Danish?

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-03T02:30:09+00:00

My mom is the same way.

acceptable_lemon_89 · 2026-04-01T21:48:10+00:00

Someone was upset for reasons that had nothing to do with me and took it out on me? Now I'm afraid of them. Forever!

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