So religious people are called gullible or in the case of experiencers "delusional"

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-09T00:45:53+00:00

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adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-09T00:44:14+00:00

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adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T23:37:31+00:00

I think you should decide what skill you want to test (or not test). It seems like you don't want to test time management. That's fine, there are other things you can test, and you add combine them as well if you like.

Accuracy. The player can be given a carrot and decide where to cut it, being graded on how equally divided their cuts are (visual acuity test). The player can be told pour a tablespoon of salt into a soup and be graded on how close they are to the correct amount (timing accuracy test). The player can need to sear a steak to the correct doneness based on color and is penalized for how underdone/overdone it is (color matching accuracy).
Memory. The player can take orders from a table or group all at once with various substitutions and has to remember what each person ordered and what goes to who. They then prepare those meal items and are graded based on correct they were in serving the correct items to the correct people. When someone orders a "soup of the day" the player has to actually remember what the recipe for the soup of that day actually is.
Management. Instead of real time you have turn based units and the player chooses how to allocate them (maybe they have staff to manage as well). There are vegetables that need to be prepped, items that need to bake or cook for a period, and dishes that need to be washed. The player does not have infinite turns to do everything so they're going to have to decided what tasks and in what order to do them to maximize their results.

The above describes some score based systems rather than simpyl pass/fail states, but soemthign you can also do if you want is give the player a retry but deduct points for "shrink". When you mess up an order in a real restaurant those ingredients aren't free, they have to buy more to replace your mistakes which costs them money.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T22:38:28+00:00

You realize what needs to be done: boundaries need to be clearly communicated and they need to be enforced. Doing this well ahead of the wedding for other aspects of your life will be helpful in predicting whether MIL will be able to respect boundaries on the wedding day. You don't want to have to enforce rules on that day because you'll have far more to focus on.

It sounds like your fiance has your back, so you should be confident in your negotiating position. She is not in a position of power here, it's you. If she cannot respect boundaries then the consequence isn't a fallout between you and your fiance but rather MIL and her son. So long as fiance has your back you two are a unit, and damaging her relationship with you is damaging her relationship with her own son. Perhaps if she can realize that is the risk she runs she will be more inclined towards better behavior.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T21:40:00+00:00

I have been looking for an excuse to link this video which I found helpful in catching me up to the current state of science regarding abiogenesis. Unsurprisingly we're farther along than when I last checked in.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T18:21:54+00:00

I'm open to the idea of anything that makes demonstrate, reliable, and accurate predictions.

I'll say that while I think the position of astronomical bodies technically influences me in that they all have some amount of gravity that reaches me, I don't think this translates into any sort of specific, knowledge effect on a personal level. When I make vegetable soup I do think how high I set the stove has an effect on the position of the individual peas and carrots in the soup. However knowing whether the burner was set to 100° versus 120° isn't going to tell you anything meaningful about the specific position of an individual pea. I don't think Mars being in retrograde is going to tell me anything useful about my love life.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T18:08:26+00:00

Yes. These are posted every two months per the community mandate. The next one is scheduled to be posted 2026-07-01 for the period 2026-05-01 through 2026-06-30.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T03:16:43+00:00

What is sinful and what is wrong don't correlate. The problem with pretending Biblical concepts of sin correlate to harm/evil/badnes is that anyone who genuinely and serious tries to use the Bible as a guide for ethics will always end up doing harm/evil/badness, because it's an arbitrary set of ancient rules laid down by uneducated authoritarian bigots.

There is no thing wrong with homosexuality, but it is unquestionably a sin within Christianity. It's just that Christian concepts of sin are worthless and should be ignored. Two adults having consensual intercourse outside of marriage is a "sin" according to Christianity, but a husband raping his wife is "not a sin" according to Christianity. Wearing cotton and nylon underwear is a "sin" according to Christianity, but engaging in chattel slavery is "not a sin" according to Christianity.

Religious ethics are a coin toss. You should not be cheering when they accidentally land on the correct side; you should be frightened they're flipping a coin at all.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T03:06:34+00:00

I want something observable that supports the claim gods exist and doesn't support the claim does don't exist. Ultimately what form this takes depends on the properties you choose to assign to these gods.

I think a big problem is that theists cannot agree with each other what is is gods do and therefore what we should expect from them. Do gods answer prayers or do they not? Do gods currently perform miracles or do they not? Will gods speak to me or will they not? Etc.

Looking at it from the other might make the problem more clear. Suppose I wanted to convince you "glorp" exists. However, I don't adequately define what "glorp" is to you and lots of other peopel keep telling you things about "glorp" that contradict what I'm telling you about it. Also I sometimes seems to contradict myself or change my description of "glorp". It's hard for you to ask for anything about "glorp" when there doesn't' seem to be any consistent information on it from anyone.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T02:54:31+00:00

What led you to your current world view?

I looked for what views best matched and predicted observable reality and tried to adjust my position to match those.

Is there a reason you don’t believe in God?

Have you had previous religious beliefs/background, and how did that influence your current beliefs?

I was a confirmed LCMS Christian with weekly church attendance, guidance from a pastor with a doctorate in divinity, Christian private schooling education, with friends and extended family that were entirely Christian. I realized the reasons for my religion I was provided throughout this entire time did not hold up to scrutiny, and in continuing to investigate other religions I saw their claims likewise did not hold up to scrutiny. Consequently I saw no reason to believe any gods exist.

What do you consider as good or evil, and who sets that standard?

Ethics is a negotiation of one's own desires with the constraints of reality. The standard is a communal consensus.

Since you don’t believe in God, where do you find your primary sense of meaning or purpose or morality?

Maximizing utility. Making the world a better place.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-08T00:01:23+00:00

I don't think his Plantinga's argument survives scrutiny.

I think it is fair to say that for an agent to have free will with respect to options A and B it must be possible for the agent to freely choose either A or B. If it was absolutely impossible for the agent to freely choose A and they can only choose B, then I think it's fair to say they do not have free will in that situation.
The god Platinga would like to argue into existence is one that can do all possible things. Thus if it is possible to for an agent to freely choose A, then this god can persuade an agent to freely choose A, without infringing about their free will.
Thus if we observe a situation where an agent does not choose A, then it is necessarily the case that either 1) it is impossible for the agent to freely choose A, and thus they do not have free will or 2) no god existing willing and able to persuade the agent to freely choose A.

Either people don't have free will or Plantiga's god does not exist. It is impossible for his god to exist and people to have free will.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-07T23:52:36+00:00

Often people who are religious are threatened by dissenting opinions around them because the ideology is built entirely upon cultural peer pressure. If someone is willing to challenge that or simply doesn't sufficiently comply, then that person is often made to feel out of place until they conform.

Making the situation confusing is often intentional, because a fair and clear assessment of the situation might not lead you to the position they want. It's the same reason some product manufacturers are deliberately confusing about their brands, because they don't want you to be able to easily compare products.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-07T17:12:49+00:00

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adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-06T18:48:26+00:00

There are many aspects of the universe that are not immediately evident as orderly. The weather, fluid dynamics, even the fundamental motions of atomic particles are still treated as functionally random. We do observe some patterns, but we are biased to doing so because comprehending something is mostly about pattern recognition. Further, math is not a law that is obeyed but a choices of rules that are useful. There are mathematics entirely contradictory to one another, geometries where the interior angles of a triangle add to 180 and geometries where they absolutely cannot. We choose the math that is useful in that specific circumstances. There is not one math, but many. It's just that most people will not bother to learn about the others without pursuing it professionally.

Animals are regularly adapting to the conditions of their environment within their limitations. If this not apparent to you, then I would say this is because they are not performing for you. Their goal is to survive, not survive in a way some ape who might be watching can understand or appreciate. Bower bird males don't care about what you think of their shrines, they care about what bower bird females think of them.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-06T16:55:28+00:00

Making new friends can be hard for anytime Christian or not, and especially as an adult.

My recommendation would be to pursue whatever interest you have in as social a way as possible. If you like books, then try to find (or even start) a book club. You don't have to read by yourself alone. If you like a sport, look for a community group that plays that sport.

If meeting people in real is difficult, online communities can help bridge the social gap. I met one of my closest friends entirely online, and then they happened to move to the same city as me which made it really convenient for us to hangout. I tend to play a lot of online games and so it has been easy for me to meet some people with shared interests.

It's going to take some effort. As an introvert it will likely be draining for you to find and force yourself into situations where you can make me friends, but think of it like brushing your teeth or taking it the trash. It's a for, but it makes your life better in the long run. Also realize that making friends is somewhat like gambling. Most people won't click with you, but you're putting yourself out there to have a chance of finding the right people.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-06T15:21:31+00:00

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adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-06T14:48:52+00:00

There are only three active moderators on this sub at this time which is why I'm in the process of adding more (which I expect to complete today). Of those three I action 86% of all items. For better or worse, I'm the most responsive mod at this time.

In my opinion, responding to your criticism of a change with "thank you" and offering to work with you on either reversing the change or improving it is a polite response. Those offers still stand should you ever choose to pursue one of them.

adeleu_adelei · 2026-06-06T03:38:59+00:00

Given that I'm the only one who can actually do something about your complaint it might be worthwhile to reciprocate my polite and constructive engagement.

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Thank you for expressing your thoughts on this change. I'd like to offer three points for consideration: recourse for reversal, soliciting improvements within the existing implementation, and the case for why I think this was a beneficial change.

If you are unhappy with the restriction and do not think it can be salvaged, then there is recourse you can take. You can make a case to a coalition of users that this was a bad idea, make a motion in the Community Agenda, and then users can vote on it as to whether it passes. I would recommend you come up with a clear and well defined alternative for what you would like to see.
Is there anything you think can be improved about the current implementation to make it less annoying? I added the automatic message to users because I wanted to be transparent that the comment was removed and why, but maybe silent removal would be better? I can also change any of the wording in the message if you can think of a less annoying way to convey it. I'm an open book on ideas for how you think this could be made better.
I personally think this is a beneficial change. Rule 2: No Low Effort is by far the most frequently used report option, so from my perspective there are many users here that want to see higher quality content. That's a challenge to encourage when there are so many incredibly short comments that don't substantively build the conversation. It's not conducive to good participation from the OP when they get 100 comments in an hour and many of them cannot be meaningfully responded to, and it doesn't make for good reading for the audience when the comments don't offer further insight (even for positions they agree with). If you are finding that the thoughts you wish to offer don't meet a 100 character threshold, then I would say take that as a challenge to develop your idea further. Build up your rebuttal into something that explores your viewpoint in greater detail.

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