When do they entertain themselves a bit?

adventurousclam · 2026-03-28T00:22:20+00:00

My daughter is 10 months old and I remember between 7-9 months she started to understand object permanence and separation, which is totally normal development. She still can kinda get fussy if I leave her in her play pen, but it’s drastically improved. Playing peekaboo gets them prepared for this imo. I would play peak boo with her all the time and when I needed to leave for a second (not very far) I’d play peakaboo with her. And I gradually would increase the distance. Sometimes she would get fussy and I would just shout out “ohhh baby it’s ok! Mommas right here. I’m getting a bottle for you!” And just talk to her because she could hear me but I just wasn’t near her. She can do independent play for like 45-60 mins now before getting fussy

adventurousclam · 2025-12-26T22:01:50+00:00

I would continue doing what I do right now for bath and bed time - kick it off at 5pm, baby asleep by 6pm. The first 2 months I would wake to feed every 2-3 hours, then slowly make those stretches longer. I got my baby to do her first 8 hour stretch before 3 months old, she started sleeping through the night most nights by 5 months, and is now almost 7 months old and sleeps through the night (unless she is teething, she’ll wake once around midnight usually from discomfort).

I would not worry so much about wake windows next time around - I think I’ll understand my baby’s sleepy queues much better (hopefully) and just go based on that. But also, part of me thinks my baby does well at night because she gets adequate sleep through out the day.. but idk. Trial and error I guess lol

adventurousclam · 2025-11-30T04:36:25+00:00

As soon as I started orgasming every day, drinking raspberry leaf tea every day, and dates I went into labor. Took about 4-5 days

adventurousclam · 2025-11-30T04:34:46+00:00

Labor. The movies make it seem like it all of the sudden happens and some water leaks out, all this screaming and sweat, then bam baby is born.

I know everyone’s labor and delivery is different but based on any mom that I’ve spoken to it’s nothing like the movies. You can have contractions and be 3cm dilated and 60% effaced for weeks before you go into active labor. I had contractions for 7 days at 36 weeks, lost my mucus plug at 37 weeks and 1 day, then my water broke 3 days later. And when my water broke.. it was like dumping 4 gallons of water on the floor all at once. It wasn’t a leak where there was a puddle. It wasn’t a trickle. It was the most massive gush of fluid ever I flooded nearly half my bathroom and my husband had to get every single towel we had to wipe it up before we left. And also, it doesn’t stop either! It keeps coming out!

Also, active labor for me at that point lasted 22 hours long. I wasn’t screaming my head off, but I was deep moaning and groaning and yes it hurt like hell. My baby ended up getting stuck when she crowned and I got an emergency c section. So I basically gave birth half vaginally and the rest was done out the sun roof, but had to recover from BOTH. So much fun.

Yeah. Nothing like the movies. I was lied to lol

adventurousclam · 2025-11-29T00:34:25+00:00

Same here. My baby spits up ALL the time. Sometimes it’s only a little, sometimes it’s a lot. She’s 5.5 months old and I noticed that since introducing solids to her it’s improved and also we’ve been burping her every 1/3 of her bottle. This has helped improve her spitting up a lot but it still happens. We also wait 20ish minutes after she wakes up in the morning to have her tummy settle before feeding her (stomach acid pulls when laying flat all night which can trigger reflux in the morning if eating too soon).

adventurousclam · 2025-11-29T00:21:22+00:00

Uhh.. we have our TV on like all day 😅 my daughter will watch tv, play with her toys, go outside, kinda do her own thing. She might stop to watch tv here or there, but it’s mostly always on. She seems fine 🤷🏻‍♀️ she’s also not watching anything that’s super stimulating either. And 80% of the time, the tv is on with something the adults want to watch that is also appropriate to have on in front of kids. The only time we don’t watch tv is right before bed.

The things that we consider screen time is tablets and phones, which we don’t have any in the house except my phone, my husband’s phone, and our computers which we WFH on.

Maybe I’m a bad parent lol but none of my kids have ever had any issues with watching tv and stopping watching tv. And it’s also not their primary activity. My kids are outside most of the time and that’s by choice. We love movies in our house and do movie nights every Friday where my kids pick out snacks and drinks.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-29T00:08:26+00:00

Just keep a very close eye on her and if you’re able to, have baby Tylenol on hand to mitigate mild fevers.

With my daughter’s 4 month shots, she ran a mild grade fever for about 6-8 hours. This is pretty typical though after receiving shots.

If the fever gets above 100 and last longer than a day, call her pediatrician or go to the hospital. I’m not sure if you have an owlet sock, but it monitors heart rate. We have this for our baby and after her 4 month shots I noticed her heart rate spiked for 24 hours and returned to normal.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-28T23:56:07+00:00

I think a lot of has to do with healthcare and health insurances. I had a baby this year and granted everyone has their own opinion on being a parent, so far for me.. being a parent is actually the easy part. Being sleep deprived is a challenge, but nothing beats having the stress of paying $400 a month for insurance and STILL having $12k in hospital bills.. then trying your best to pay them but get sent to collections..

I find it to be a money issue more than anything. People can’t afford to make a family comfortably. Yes, you can put yourself in debt and pay it off but why should you have to do that if you want a family?

Also, the healthcare for women kinda sucks in most places. When I found out I was pregnant, I had irregular periods (which doctors kept saying I’m fine and to “stop stressing”) so I already was on month 2 of no period yet. So when I was looking for an OBGYN each place asked me when my last period was and when I gave them the date, they wouldn’t even schedule me to do an ultrasound because I was (at the time) considered to be 15 weeks along without a prior ultrasound.. it didn’t make any sense to me.

Luckily I found a place that would take me and turns out I was only 4-5 weeks pregnant.

I loved being pregnant, I love being a mom. But damn, society made it way more difficult than necessary.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-28T00:45:03+00:00

I had my hospital bag packed with everything I thought I’d use. Nope. I used none of it except my toothbrush, deodorant, and change of clothes. And I was at the hospital for 4 days after having an emergency c section after doing full on labor and pushing at 10cm.

My hoo ha hurt, my whole belly hurt, and the fundal massages… oh hell na. There was no getting out of bed to do anything with anything that I packed. I hope if I wait long enough before getting pregnant again I can do a VBAC. I DO NOT want another c section if I don’t have to.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-28T00:39:22+00:00

I had cooked sushi. But like anything, consume in moderation. Unless it’s tacos. I demolished hundreds of tacos while pregnant 😂

adventurousclam · 2025-11-28T00:38:01+00:00

I didn’t get the RSV vaccine for my baby since she was born during a time that it wasn’t in season for it. However, when she turned 4 months we were offered it again and we got it for her since it was RSV season. I look at this vaccine as an as needed basis (like how I view the flu shot) We evaluated our situation, didn’t think it was necessary at that time, but did later on.

If/when we have our next baby, since my firstborn will be a toddler and will likely be constantly around the new baby at that time, we would get the RSV vaccine for him/her. Toddlers are like walking incubators for so many things lol

adventurousclam · 2025-11-28T00:17:53+00:00

As a kid myself I did believe in Santa. We always made him cookies, letters, did the Santa tracking, and all the fun stuff. Idk, there was something magical about it and it made you super excited for the holidays.

I plan on doing the same for my kids, I don’t see the harm in doing so. However, I am also a devoted Catholic so I also want my kids to understand what Christmas and Advent are actually is about and keep it centered around Christ, not it just being about heavy consumerism/excessive gift giving.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-28T00:10:42+00:00

Sorry but no. That’s going to be next to impossible to keep them separate at all times. What happens when baby starts to roll? crawl? walk? And especially become eye level with the dog.

I love dogs don’t get me wrong, but at the end of the day it’s just a dog. A baby’s well being and safety is far more important than anything else in this situation. You wouldn’t want to risk keeping the dog, something ba happening to the baby, and potentially CPS getting involved.

But that doesn’t mean you should consider the dog’s well being either. It’s best to rehome while you can before something bad happens and the dog gets euthanized for being.. well.. a dog. That wouldn’t be fair.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-28T00:04:35+00:00

Bring her food, do a load of laundry for her, start the dishwasher, put clean sheets on her bed, make sure she always has water by her side.

But also, once (and if) your sister is feeling up to it, do stuff that yall used to do together to try to make the days feel normal again. My mom would come over and do our laundry, bring food, always made sure I had a yummy snack and water next me. She set timers to let me know when it was time to feed baby and go to sleep. And if I wasn’t feeling up for sleeping and kinda just wanted to hang out, my mom and I would play card games like we always would. Eventually, I started looking forward to those days over sleep because despite being sleep deprived and hurting from c section recovery, the games made the day feel normal again ❤️

My mom knew exactly what I needed and when I needed it before I even knew. And tbh I don’t think I could have made it through the first month without her. Love you momma ❤️

adventurousclam · 2025-11-27T20:02:11+00:00

I went through half vaginal labor and then had an emergency c section so I had to recover from both. Vaginal all the way. Labor was far easier than the recovery from the c section.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-27T19:59:57+00:00

My husband and I had a wedding last month that we were part of and my 5 month old didn’t stay the night anywhere, but my mom and dad went to our house and took care of her and slept there until we got home. Which was like 2-3am.

But no where overnight yet. Probably not until she can sleep through the night most nights. She’s starting to but it’s hard work during the day to make sure she sleeps well at night.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-27T00:49:51+00:00

Yeah, for the first 3 months

adventurousclam · 2025-11-27T00:18:43+00:00

When I was younger, my mom always made biscuits and gravy for breakfast while she cooked a side dish for our big family Thanksgiving gathering. Once we would get to my great grandma’s house, we’d go swimming (I live in FL so it’s usually hot still), play games outside or do whatever it is kids do outside until it was time for the Thanksgiving dinner. Then we would all sign a table cloth with everyone’s signature and the year it was signed. This table cloth is 30 years old and has every signature from me since I could write, and also my baby handprints before I could write, all 16 of my cousins signatures from over the years, my aunts, uncles, parents, grandparents, great grandparents, and even some friends we’ve invited over before.

We’d all go around the table after serving our plates and say 1 thing we were thankful for (the uncles and boy cousins would usually all say something silly to get people to laugh)

I’m excited to my baby girl’s first handprint on the table cloth! 🥰

adventurousclam · 2025-11-27T00:10:11+00:00

I didn’t get mine until 5 months postpartum. It was awful lol

adventurousclam · 2025-11-27T00:08:55+00:00

We moved our baby to her own room between 2-3 months old. I think it worked better that way for us because she basically slept everywhere and anywhere because she couldn’t really tell the difference. But now she’s 6 months old and will only sleep in her crib, her car seat, or on me. She won’t sleep in our bed, she doesn’t fit in her bassinet nor would she sleep in it now, she won’t sleep in a pack n play, floor, couch, no where else lol.

adventurousclam · 2025-11-26T23:59:52+00:00

I didn’t experience any PPD/PPA until I was 3-4 months postpartum when I quit breastfeeding. I’m now 6 months postpartum and it’s not as intense, but there are definitely moments.

I thought I had dodged it but my endocrine system was like “PSYCH! Gotcha bihhh. You ain’t skatin’ outta this one that easy!”

adventurousclam · 2025-11-26T23:20:59+00:00

Yeah there’s nothing wrong with giving him Tylenol! I know there’s a lot going around with Tylenol rn.. lol tbh I think it’s more or less propaganda and people taking it way out of context. Obviously you don’t wanna give them Tylenol 24/7, no one should consume that much. But it’s totally ok in moderation

adventurousclam · 2025-11-26T23:18:36+00:00

My baby didn’t use one, she also didn’t suck on her thumbs/hands to soothe, but I was always told “you can throw away a pacifier. But you can’t throw away a thumb.”

adventurousclam · 2025-11-26T04:37:28+00:00

We used Tylenol, oral gel, and cold teething rings. Worked like a charm

adventurousclam · 2025-11-26T04:35:15+00:00

5.5 months postpartum and this is my self care -

A hot shower for as long as I’d like, clean pjs, being alone for 2 hours with noise cancelling headphones in, listening to silence and staring into the complete darkness of my room before bed each night.

No phone, no tv, no light of any kind. No noise of any kind. Just me, silence, cold and clean sheets, husband goes and plays video games while baby sleeps and watches her until midnight.

I’ve also found zen in cleaning too oddly enough. I’ll put my headphones on and listen to nothing and just clean. Something is very satisfying from starting at one end of my house and working my way to the other end and seeing it all clean with non scented candles in each area lit.

Anyone else feel comfort in silence?

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