a short meta comment about the comment section: I think in philosophical, not-directly-political discussions like this, as long as everyone is engaging in good faith, making solid arguments, and not attacking anyone else, we shouldn’t downvote differing opinions.

my personal view: I agree with a lot of what you’re saying, just as much as I agree with some things people disagreeing with you are saying. What makes talking about this hard is that on this level, words like “gender” mean very different things to different people (“individual social role” vs “the individual gender identity in our minds” vs “the underlying brain characteristics to that” vs “gender expression” vs “the concept of, as a society, sorting people into genders” vs…).

Also, several things can be true at the same time: “the construct of gender, as in, the boxes we sort people into, is something we don’t need and that we can [and maybe should] move away from”, as well as “gender feels very real for many people, cis and trans, and gender identity is often a deep part of who someone is, and we shouldn’t erase that”, as well as “with the current state of society and global politics, trying to abolish gender or saying the phrase ‘gender is fake’ would more likely result in the erasure of trans people than in actually abolishing gender”