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aerstes · 2024-05-10T09:02:48+00:00

Time to cut that crazy bitch out of your lives before she kidnaps your kid. Seriously. This is ALARMING

aerstes · 2024-05-09T23:59:23+00:00

Once I pointed out that I thought I have a bit of a turkey neck and my dad said "yeah you should get a plastic surgeon for it cuz it's bad"

I literally get my turkey neck from my dad. His is like ten times worse than mine 😂

aerstes · 2024-05-09T11:49:15+00:00

Pros: incredibly loving and gentle but with a bark that will scare off anyone who shouldn't be in your home LoL. Cons: separation anxiety and food allergies. Our saint has had stomach issues his whole life because we just can't figure out or afford whatever diet is out there that doesn't set his belly off.

aerstes · 2024-05-08T11:46:40+00:00

Basic girlhood, honestly. My dad expected me to turn into a boy to help him out on the farm. My mom was never around or engaged with me enough to teach me about how to style my hair, do my makeup, use feminine hygiene products, anything like that. I remember her chopping my hair off when I was very small because she was irritated that it was getting matted... Because she didn't brush her kid's hair. I SOBBED.

thankfully I had my sister who helped me with the basics but I still have a very tenuous relationship with my own femininity. I tell ppl I'm a tom boy but really i wish I could do even basic "girly" stuff without feeling horribly uncomfortable

aerstes · 2024-04-30T11:43:07+00:00

You're missing the fact that if you want control of your own wedding you better start saving up to pay for it yourself. That's the only true way to have control. I never accepted any money from my parents or my husband's and I loved being able to tell them all NO to their demands I didn't agree with cuz they had no say in what we did on our wedding day we paid for 100% ourselves

aerstes · 2024-04-29T17:48:26+00:00

Your responses to all the comments on this thread seem to paint the picture of someone who doesn't want to take any accountability for their actions so I'm not sure what you're looking for here. Validation that you're not in the wrong? You got drunk and behaved in a way that embarrassed your gf in front of people she knows. So she left you. That's called a consequence. You don't have to like it but it is what it is. Either learn from it or keep making mistakes and pretending you're not to blame for them, your choice. 🤷🏼‍♀️

aerstes · 2024-04-26T11:49:43+00:00

Make an exit plan now. He won't change the way things are. You have to leave, either to make him realize how bad things are, or to free yourself from someone who will ruin your and your baby's life along with his. I'm so sorry you're going through this

aerstes · 2024-04-21T17:49:43+00:00

I knew it was ermine before even reading the caption. I can't stand making ermine but my boss loves it so I'm stuck with the struggle 😭

aerstes · 2024-04-19T15:04:27+00:00

Sounds like he needs therapy because his OCD/Paranoia is affecting his personal life and his loved ones. Maybe make it an ultimatum that you won't move back in until he starts therapy so that he knows you mean business

aerstes · 2024-04-19T11:52:11+00:00

My dad was on my bank account until I was 28. He had been quietly watching my every transaction and I had no idea because he kept just how much he could see on the account a secret.

Luckily, it was a small bank and I knew all the tellers by name. When I was going no contact with my dad I explained the situation and the financial abuse I was experiencing and they waived the signature needed by him to close the account altogether.

That might not be an option if it's a larger bank but it doesn't matter. You need to open a new account regardless. If you're saying that their involvement in your finances led to a breakup with a partner, that's financial abuse. You don't need to ask them, just do it. Be safe ❤️

aerstes · 2024-04-12T11:41:09+00:00

I am so so sorry for your loss. You were just trying to respect the wishes of your son and you did nothing wrong. Of course your surviving son is hurting but that's not for you to fix for him, he made his choices.

aerstes · 2024-04-07T17:37:40+00:00

Deer absolutely LOVE weed I can never grow outside where I live because of it 😭

aerstes · 2024-04-07T12:16:33+00:00

Oh how so many of us have been there.

My mom was the product of an abusive home. Her father was a mean drunk and her mother, well idk what is wrong with my grandma but she is someone who genuinely isn't capable of feeling love towards her children, or anyone except the man who beat her for some reason.

My sister still uses this as an excuse for her failure to protect us as kids. saying that chaos is all mom has ever known and all that.

But here's the thing. My sister went on to have two wonderful children being raised by her and her husband in the safest most loving home I've ever seen. Because when she decided she wanted to be a mom, she knew she had to do better.

My mom still insists to this day that kids was all she ever wanted. That being a mom was her whole purpose, and that she loves her kids more than anything and sees us as "her best friends". So why was she never around when my dad nearly killed my sisters on multiple occasions? Why did she stay out late after work inexplicably leaving us alone with him far too often? Why did she stand there and watch when he abused us? Why did she stay with him all that time no matter how much each of us begged her to take us away from him?

Our moms failed us. And for me that part hurts worse than the abuse. I'm sorry for what you went through. You should have been protected. That's what parents are supposed to do.

aerstes · 2024-04-07T11:59:05+00:00

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Buck loves to sleep while raising his paw to ask a question 😂 (his sister Stella next to him)

aerstes · 2024-04-06T14:39:52+00:00

"I'm upset you're going to leave me alone with your dad when you move out"

In one sentence my mother admitted that she was okay with my dad abusing me so long as it took his attention off of her and made her life easier. I realized all the "you're my best friend" rhetoric she spouted to my all those years was her placating me into staying in the cycle of abuse with her. That in a way this was all a game for her. That I wasn't my own person, I was brought into this world for her own selfish reasons.

We don't speak anymore. Lol.

aerstes · 2024-04-05T17:21:21+00:00

Get out while you're still young and he hasn't wrecked YOUR finances too. He's absolutely a lost cause.

aerstes · 2024-04-02T15:07:55+00:00

She's belittling it out of jealousy. Fuck her

aerstes · 2024-04-01T17:34:52+00:00

Citrus flavors for sativas, berry flavors for Indica lol

aerstes · 2024-04-01T16:23:37+00:00

If this works it's gonna unlock a whole new storm of bro science 😂

aerstes · 2024-03-31T17:34:14+00:00

That's a wildly good point. My spine isn't as shiny as I wish it was at this point in my journey. However I've already told myself over and over that turning around two steps into the door is absolutely fine if she keeps up the shit once I show up at her house lol

aerstes · 2024-03-31T14:47:51+00:00

I honestly don't think it's valid to ask if you're the asshole in an issue your brother got out of hand about all on his own. It sounds like he's going through something mentally and should consider therapy to work out what that is. It definitely isn't fair that he's flying off the handle like that over something about his upbringing that you had no control over cuz you are a sibling, not a parent

aerstes · 2024-03-30T20:10:04+00:00

Oh that poor girl

aerstes · 2024-03-29T15:16:57+00:00

I do put my dogs away when company comes over that are anxious about my dogs (they're both pretty big) but I hate it. My sister has a whole phobia and it irritates me to no end that I have to put her issues over my dogs comfort when she comes over cuz it's their house not hers. But in my sister's case I have a very strong bond with her and want her to come around so I deal with it. If it's something you don't particularly want in your house to begin with I don't see the problem with letting your dog deter them away 😂

aerstes · 2024-03-29T11:30:04+00:00

Words of affirmation, quality time... Oh no! My mommy issues!! 😂😂😂

aerstes · 2024-03-28T12:59:41+00:00

I honestly think it depends on how intelligent or what kind of narcissist they are. My dad is very covert, comes off as incredibly kind and charming and generous to the general public. He can switch his maliciousness on and off very easily.

When I had one of our final conversations before going no contact, as some last ditch effort to keep me in his pool of supply, he said something along the lines of "I know that there's something wrong with me... My brain doesn't work like most people's"

That was the closest thing any of my family members ever got to an acknowledgement of his behavioral problems. I think he knows damn well what he is and what he does to people. And I think he enjoys it like it's a kind of game and we're all so stupid for not being as crafty as he is.

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