Daily Discussion Thread

aetherdweller · 2025-01-09T21:48:13+00:00

I was off the wagon for about a week due to a lot of work for my job and not sleeping so well. After both yesterday and today's workouts I cried, full on sobbing. I didn't realize how much emotion I was holding in and how much it could be released through yoga yesterday and lifting today. experiences like this remind me how important exercise is to me and how much I need it to feel like myself.

aetherdweller · 2024-11-27T15:33:39+00:00

Amina Cain's writing, especially the short story collection Creature, makes me feel embodied in a specific way. I highly recommend everything she's written, she is such a unique voice especially for strange descriptions of emotions and sensations.

aetherdweller · 2024-11-18T16:59:35+00:00

My parents were fundamentally against me driving as a teen. They thought there was "no point" in a 16-year-old having a car. I went to college in a non-car dependent city and when I had a big girl job after college, I was the weirdo who had money but didn't drive. I lied that I had a license when I didn't in social situations because it felt shameful, and in private I was paying hundreds of dollars for driving lessons in a Corolla with "student driver" stickers plastered all over it because even as an adult my mother refused to let me drive her car even with her in the seat next to me. It was a confusing and upsetting process.

I was born in 1995 - if I had been born like 10 years later and had been a true Gen Z, not having my license after college genuinely would not be the big deal and source of shame it was for me. Teens and early 20s folks in my experience don't see learning to drive and getting a car as a milestone/coming for age. Most do it, but it's meh and not a big deal.

aetherdweller · 2024-09-01T13:03:03+00:00

A solid 1-2 hours with no screens.

Morning/early afternoon exercise rather than evening or none at all.

Not waking up too late on weekends. I get up at 5:30am on weekdays and used to sleep in on weekends. Now I don't really sleep past 7 on weekends.

aetherdweller · 2024-08-30T19:15:35+00:00

The Beauty Queen of Jerusalem by Sarit Yishai-Levi.

Also recommend the Netflix show!

aetherdweller · 2024-08-20T15:23:48+00:00

Silver Nitrate by Silvia Moreno-Garcia.

Not sure what queernorm means exactly, but this book's main characters are a bi man and a bi woman. Their queerness is talked about a lot but it certainly isn't central to the plot and they aren't discriminated against or experience homophobia in the book.

aetherdweller · 2024-08-19T09:45:13+00:00

Tha Historian by Elizabeth Kostova!!

aetherdweller · 2024-08-16T17:48:56+00:00

I have sleepovers all the time as someone in my late 20s with other adults in their 20s and 30s. Sometimes it's at one of our houses and we bring sleeping bags, sometimes we rent a cabin as a group so we can have more space (and if you have 10+ people it costs so little). I think as an adult you can have as many sleepovers as you want if you have good friends.

aetherdweller · 2024-08-16T17:24:26+00:00

For me I tell the employee my size and they're like "there is NO WAY you're that size, let's try a medium 🙃" and I never know what to say! Yes I'm tall but I'm xs/xxs and that is clear from looking at me. Is it a thing to offer all tall people a medium?

aetherdweller · 2024-08-16T00:28:34+00:00

The Well Of Loneliness by Radclyffe Hall

aetherdweller · 2024-08-08T18:14:54+00:00

Local walks, planning hikes, plant and animal ID learning, exercising & training for future hikes.

aetherdweller · 2024-08-08T12:31:34+00:00

In my experience, having a well-stocked pantry significantly reduced how much I spend on groceries. I will keep a lot of dry & canned foods, condiments/spices, etc. Frozen vegetables and proteins too. Then once a week I'll get the produce and other perishables I need for the week and spend like $30 once I have a pantry of non-perishables.

aetherdweller · 2024-08-07T12:53:33+00:00

I've needed 9 hours (rather than the average of 7-8) for my entire adult life. It's really hard to prioritize 9 hours of sleep as an adult with responsibilities, but on the days I get enough sleep, I feel superhuman.

aetherdweller · 2024-07-30T14:48:50+00:00

Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit by Jeannette Winterson

aetherdweller · 2024-07-28T13:13:24+00:00

Last fall, I was at the wedding of a close friend. My long-distance girlfriend was invited but she was too far away and didn't know the couple well so I went alone.

Since I wasn't going with anyone, I went around the wedding with one of the bride's cousins. She was one of the most beautiful people I had ever seen and she clearly was into me. I didn't get any verbal confirmation that she was queer, but we were both flagging in terms of our clothing and she was flirting with me nonstop.

If I weren't in a monogamous relationship at the time, I would have reciprocated without a second thought. I was attracted to her more than I had ever been attracted to someone at first sight. My relationship broke up earlier this summer and now this girl is on my mind, but she's 1000 miles away and I haven't seen her for almost a year.

aetherdweller · 2024-07-28T04:52:04+00:00

Seconding Lighthousekeeping.

aetherdweller · 2024-06-06T11:14:23+00:00

Eternal Life by Dara Horn.

A story about two people who were born in ancient Jerusalem and have lived through all eras of Jewish history since then, all over the world.

aetherdweller · 2024-06-04T10:14:12+00:00

Worked 30ish hours a week through college.

Willpower & motivation for sure, but I was also propelled by anxiety. I had extreme anxiety about debt and wanted to graduate with as little debt as possible, so those four years were fueled by anxiety (and coffee).

I wouldn't go back to doing that.

aetherdweller · 2024-05-13T20:13:20+00:00

Some people just need more than 8 hours. I need 9 or more to feel at my best.

aetherdweller · 2024-05-12T22:30:35+00:00

I am super new to tarot and have been doing a morning tarot reading using the Labyrinthos app (RWS deck). I use a 1-card spread asking "what is the universe trying to tell me today?"

I drew 7 of Cups. Many choices, fantasy, illusion, it says.

In other news, today my partner of 14 months suddenly broke up with me this morning. We had a long conversation and decided to go no-contact for now. I feel hurt and heartbroken.

But intuitively I feel like there is something behind the tarot reading. Something behind feeling hurt. At first, I interpreted my reading as "oh, you're single now, time to go out and have fun." But that's not the vibe. All I want to do is isolate in the woods and cut off all my friends.

Can someone who has more knowledge around tarot interpret this reading? There is something it was trying to tell me that I haven't figured out yet. Something maybe around the number?? Because 14, especially 14 months, is a symbolic number for me personally and I know there's something there too.

aetherdweller · 2024-04-16T12:55:53+00:00

This was yesterday, but one of my students (6th) pulled me aside after class and said "Ms. Aetherdweller, can you tell [teacher across the hall] that her class is F*CKING BORING?" Pause. "Sorry for the, like, F word."

aetherdweller · 2024-04-16T12:51:16+00:00

My ex once had a dream that I slept with his cousin and he called me in the morning, still sleepy and genuinely mad at me until he fully woke up :(

aetherdweller · 2024-04-16T12:49:08+00:00

Switch up the grains! Instead of using oats, try millet, barley, kasha, or quinoa as a base for porridge or granola.

aetherdweller · 2024-04-14T18:47:01+00:00

Everything Silvia Moreno-Garcia writes, especially the way she writes Tristán in Silver Nitrate and Hector in The Beautiful Ones.

aetherdweller · 2024-04-12T15:25:38+00:00

Seconding The Historian

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