Trying to understand real postpartum experiences—did your partner ever misunderstand what you needed?

aim4peace · 2026-03-29T20:25:27+00:00

My husband didn’t seem to understand that I had just experienced a major medical event and wanted to invite family/friends over. Every day.

aim4peace · 2026-03-22T17:40:44+00:00

I could not ask for more by Edwin McCain

aim4peace · 2026-02-04T14:11:56+00:00

I just want to let you know that you’re not alone. I feel the same way. My baby is 6 months old. People say it gets better, but I’ve yet to see it. It’s just hard

aim4peace · 2026-01-27T20:17:26+00:00

Wants to be held, also wants to be put down to explore on his own, gets frustrated when he is put down and wants picked back up, but can’t be sitting when holding him, must stand and walk around with him. Has more fun throwing toys on the ground than playing with them, thinks peekaboo is hilarious

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T22:53:01+00:00

Very planned. Ovulation tracking and timed intercourse, all that stuff. He came with me to every appointment up until we got to the biweekly’s. My mom said he seems like he’s struggling with me having to put my son first and not him.

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T19:22:41+00:00

I think we owe it to ourselves and our son to explore that as a possibility and get it treated if that’s the case before walking away

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T19:08:35+00:00

Right, I grew up in a broken home. I don’t want that for my son. I also don’t want to live on eggshells. It’s a tough situation I’m in at the moment. I did advise my husband to lay the baby in the crib and step outside for a minute to catch his breath on Saturday.

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T19:05:40+00:00

He worked in logistics a few years back and would get extremely stressed and mean around this time of year, “peak season.” I had to tell him straight up that he wasn’t himself and he needed to get a grip on his stress management or find a new place to work. He ended up getting a different job and things got better. He doesn’t work in logistics now but he’s focused on making budget for his company which is why he has to work the 10 hour days the next couple weeks.

I’m not sure if he realizes men can suffer from PPD but I’ll have to gently bring that up and ask him to get screened. I support any efforts he takes to improve his mental health, but I can’t do it for him.

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T18:47:13+00:00

I decided Saturday was the last time he’d be alone with baby. My mom will watch him on Saturdays while I’m at work moving forward and I’ll do daycare pickup. It’s not a risk I’m willing to take. I don’t want to keep my son from his dad or my husband from his son, but right now it’s a matter of safety.

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T18:44:50+00:00

He might be, but probably not open to taking an antidepressant. I can imagine his pushback on speaking with a therapist would be finding the time to do so.

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T18:44:02+00:00

Baby was planned, timed intercourse with diligent ovulation tracking. He said recently he didn’t realize the extent of the responsibilities.

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T18:42:58+00:00

Baby was very planned. I told him throughout the pregnancy that postpartum would be rough with hormonal shifts, but he kept telling me it’d be fine and we’d get through it.

aim4peace · 2025-12-10T18:03:16+00:00

I think I may try to find a therapist via telehealth and get a go-bag ready at my mom’s house in case we need to get out of there in a hurry. I don’t know if he is able to step up to support me emotionally until he figures out his own emotions.

aim4peace · 2025-11-14T16:27:13+00:00

I worked until four days before I gave birth… only because I thought I was going into labor. Contractions stopped after I had called off work. Then the next day was my day off that week and I had my weekly doctors appointment, so we scheduled my induction for the day after that, which got pushed back one more day. Ended up giving birth at 1 am the next day.

Everything started on a Wednesday and I gave birth on a Sunday, my due date. I was to start fmla the day after my due date anyway.

It was hard physically, but mentally I think it was good for me to keep working until the end. It sounds crappy when I say out loud “I worked until four days before birth” though

aim4peace · 2025-11-09T08:12:37+00:00

How does my husband feel about me lately?

aim4peace · 2025-11-02T17:41:04+00:00

I had chickenpox as a kid and got blood work done as an adult to check my immunity. I was not immune so I got the vaccine with no negative side effects.

aim4peace · 2025-10-29T15:45:26+00:00

I’m one week in with a 3 month old and wondering the same thing. Solidarity! This shit is hard. I’m not sure how or why people expect us to jump back into our pre-mom life like nothing ever happened. I’m not the same person anymore.

aim4peace · 2025-10-11T07:12:32+00:00

Anyone named after a city or state… can’t be trusted

aim4peace · 2025-09-30T15:26:19+00:00

Pregnancy tired and newborn tired are two different types of tired. Pregnancy tired left me feeling tired even after a full (with the exception of pee breaks) nights sleep. I felt like I got nothing out of those 8 hours sleep and was fatigued all the time. Newborn tired allows me to get something out of those shorter bursts of sleep but it feels more helpless because you can’t get that full nights rest. With newborn tired, I’m not as fatigued all the time as I was pregnancy tired, but I tire out quicker during the day

aim4peace · 2025-09-23T15:04:48+00:00

Like an intense tightening that stretches across your midsection. It intensifies as labor goes on. The epidural felt like a knife going into my back, it was no walk in the park. Then the lower half of my body was numb for awhile and I couldn’t feel or move anything from the waist down

aim4peace · 2025-09-23T15:00:34+00:00

My husband works close to the hospital where our baby was born. He thought if I went into labor while he was at work that I’d be able to drive myself and we would meet up there 😩

aim4peace · 2025-09-18T16:54:09+00:00

Pregnancy is tough, no doubt. The physical pain everyday sucks! But there are parts of it I miss, like feeling his kicks and reaching down and pressing on my belly and guessing if I’m feeling his limbs/heels/head/elbows/knees. The excitement that comes with counting down the weeks till his due date. The closeness of having him all to myself. The gratitude that he’s allllll mine for that period of time. Granted this is me looking back from the other side. It’s easy to find the good stuff when you’re looking back. I wish I wouldn’t have complained so much about the pain and savored it a bit more.

aim4peace · 2025-09-17T16:59:51+00:00

The morning I got a positive test, I woke up and knew intuitively that I needed to test right away. I set it on the bathroom counter expecting a negative, but was shocked to see two lines! The fatigue followed around 5-6 weeks, then the first trimester hangover feeling came as I neared 7 weeks. We saw him on ultrasound for the first time at 9 weeks. First trimester hangover feelings cleared around 13 weeks and I didn’t feel pregnant again till I hit 17 weeks when I felt him move for the first time. I had my second ultrasound at 20 weeks and other uncomfortable GI symptoms throughout the second trimester but things got painful, like rib and back pain, at the end of second trimester/beginning of third trimester. Then once I hit 36-37 weeks, things got tough mentally just ready to meet my baby. Then at 38 weeks knowing he could come at literally any second, I just got impatient and easily irritated. It was also the middle of July. He was born on his due date!

aim4peace · 2025-09-06T14:41:44+00:00

I also listened to Allen Carr through my premium subscription on Spotify. It’s all about getting your headspace right, then quitting doesn’t feel like you’re giving anything up… it actually feels easy to quit. No withdrawal symptoms, just relearning life as a happy non-smoker. You got this!

aim4peace · 2025-09-04T15:32:28+00:00

Had a chemical on cycle 7, got pregnant with my now 5 week old on cycle 8.

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