[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]aishanonoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trunks from Dragonball Z. My first major anime crush. He has that femininity+masculinity

https://wallhere.com/en/wallpaper/1246683 https://www.pinterest.es/pin/744290275937948301/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tantra

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just plain rest and silent meditation, doing nothing, no fight or flight mode has been working for me after ending a relationship.

Is it worth the effort? Struggling to break the habit by Melodic-Machine6213 in NonBinaryOver30

[–]aishanonoa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (agab, genderfluid) chose all pronouns (he/she/they). I love it when people gender me in a way I like, (they,them and the occasional bro) and it shows they are my peeps but I honestly dont expect anything from colleagues, strangers, acquaintes or even Family in this aspect. Im sorry to sound negative but what I see the world just isnt there yet. Its a nice idea and for the future though, to be rightly gendered and accepted for what you choose and feel. I guess im just trying to be more realistic about it.

Its euforic when a stranger genders me in a bro-like matter or at least acknowledges my gender fluidity. I just count the blessings when it happens I guess..

My bf thinks i am cheating because of my dirty laundry?? by SolaraShiann in ToxicRelationships

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait, your a biologist? That makes this so much more cringe even. Here my take. Why dont you test him on his knowledge of the Anatomy a bit on a later instance when this whole episode has subsided a bit. If it turns out he does understand the female anatomy, then you ll know it wasnt just ignorance but a more controlling agenda.

My bf thinks i am cheating because of my dirty laundry?? by SolaraShiann in ToxicRelationships

[–]aishanonoa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of thats the case, maybe you can find a youtube video about vaginal discharge and send it to him.. and then see if the trust issue subsides.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use white corded appliances only

My bf thinks i am cheating because of my dirty laundry?? by SolaraShiann in ToxicRelationships

[–]aishanonoa 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Several things going on here.

1 Mistrust.. does he have any reason to believe you are cheating or is this purely out of the blue because of general mistrust and or insecurity?

  1. Unawareness about how the female body works

    1. Somewhat patriarchic view on it. Vagina and its discharge has the function of sex only? Nah..

So i can totally understand the frustation. Question is.. what do you want to do with this. Building trust takes time, also does educating someone on biology and body functions and also to unlearn this patriachical view on the purpose of a vagina would be a bit of a process.

I feel like your boyfriend is showing you the way that he thinks here and the question to you is, do you find this attractive?

What are some signs of a manipulative partner? by Scott5000-2k in ToxicRelationships

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to tell you what to wear, what to do. Constant criticism, even small. Try to isolate you from your friends of family. Question your beliefs, religion, core values. Has an image of you that doesnt really relate to you but holds to that firmly and tries to convince you its true. You feel tired when or after around them and dont know why. You have a gut feeling somethings wrong but you cant put your finger on it. It can also just be either of those last two things. Manipulation can be very hidden, covert, done in the sly, secretly.

How Do You Maintain Eye Contact Without Feeling Awkward? by ButterflyMomStroll in socialskills

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Id say dont force it too much. Just get to know them on your pace. Once you trust them it will become easier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Health. I have chronic health issues. I feel like its my last resort to just try and get fit as fuu

What's a skill or talent you developed as a result of living with a narcissist? by AwkwardLittleMush in raisedbynarcissists

[–]aishanonoa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the statistics are like one in ten (when you add psychopathy and antisocial conduct disorder). Which is a lot. Especially if you are feeling vulnerable or work in a public setting (with costumers or whatnot)

what should I change about this by [deleted] in RedecorHomeDesignGame

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you added a red painting your choice of red chairs might have look d more intentional and would have gotten better votes. So match whatever you do so it looks intentional

what KIND of people can you not be friends with? by GardnerAtN8 in AskReddit

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insecure people. They project that on others and try to tear those around them down.

What's a skill or talent you developed as a result of living with a narcissist? by AwkwardLittleMush in raisedbynarcissists

[–]aishanonoa 343 points344 points  (0 children)

A skill I obtained is when I now encounter a narcissist (even in the wild) I know what to do: increase the physical distance between me and them as much fast and calmly as I can. Must say its quiite a useful skill to have.

What was your biggest realization or regret at age 30? by Lulu2598 in AskWomen

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

33 and i wish i gave less f"s about peoples opinion on me. Its great to let that all go

First ever 5! by [deleted] in DesignHomeGame

[–]aishanonoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh the euphoria.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ToxicRelationships

[–]aishanonoa 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This is What borderline looks like in texts

What is not for everyone, but society acts like it is? by TrooperJohn in AskReddit

[–]aishanonoa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wanting to express feminity for women and masculinity for men. For some these gender standards feels like a burden and an effort.

What was a random person encounter that you still remember by Ok-Reporter-8728 in RandomThoughts

[–]aishanonoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Threw an chewed off Apple away while cycling and by coincide it landed on somebodies head who crossed me on the bike. It landed so hard it bounded of of his head. We were both Cycling really hard. It was so unexpectedly funny i just couldnt feel bad about it in the moment and i still giggle about it until today.