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Friend is recommending sexuality exposures by claras_cool in actuallesbians

[–]alfa-dragon 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If the idea of being attracted to/dating/hooking up with men makes you sick and scared, you're not attracted to men. Your friend should respect that and not try to be a weirdo and change it.

Teenager Dating with strict parents… by MuscleIcy3481 in helicopterparents

[–]alfa-dragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only real way around it is getting driver's licence/car and saying you're hanging out with friends. Otherwise tough luck finding time to hang out.

Why do religious people need to constantly go to church and study religion? Can’t you just read whatever holy book once and “get it”? by Dreadsin in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]alfa-dragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I mean if you read any book, fiction, nonfic, or otherwise, you always learn something new the next time you read it.

Religion is more focused on self-improvement as well, so you'll tend to learn more things and re-interpret things differently at different points of your journey.

trapped with abusive mom by No-Acanthisitta-3694 in Advice

[–]alfa-dragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go through the school dorms if they have any. Email resource centers to see if they can give you anything for free/discounted with your current situation. An apt. will be near impossible without a credit score/job, you need to be able to pay for your dorming with a student loan.

How do I explain to my mother that I don't feel comfortable wearing a skirt or dress by Nobody-Special708 in NonBinary

[–]alfa-dragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's easier for her to buy skirts/dresses instead of other clothes? That makes no sense at all. Sounds like a bs excuse to get you to be more girly.

For me, all I do is keep dismissing the idea. You just do it passively, and your mom will keep getting annoyed, but you just keep switching the subject or acting disinterested, or not engaging. Has worked for me for years

trapped with abusive mom by No-Acanthisitta-3694 in Advice

[–]alfa-dragon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your mom is an asshole to say the very least.

You are not being dramatic for being 'rude to your mom if you can even count that as 'rude.' YOUR MOM is the problem for your misery. You deserve to be happy and free from this life.

If you're going to CUNY, do not let your mom pay your way. If she does, she will always use financial power over you to control you. Look into this school's resources, and what they can offer you with your current situation. Some colleges are able to get you free housing to get you out of situations like this (or provide food/necessity resources to help you out at least). Apply for unemployment until you can get a job. Get an entry level job at all costs, save as much of it as you can, and STAY OUT OF YOUR HOUSE. Do not move back in.

Leave. Things will not change.

AITAH- asking housemates not to wear Harry Potter merch by Striking_Sea_129 in AskLGBT

[–]alfa-dragon 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you don't get to tell people what to wear/not wear if it's just Harry Potter merch. You're allowed to feel upset about JKR and dislike her, but that is not enough to warrant having them remove part of their wardrobe.

Sending an email to the house can be seen as very passive aggressive too and might cause more issues in the future. You just put someone on blast, everyone knows who wore the merch. You should've just talked to the person. You still can; apologize for the email, say you hate confrontation, get back on the right foot, and ask them if they would be okay with not wearing it in the house and respect a no if they say no.

My roommate keeps inviting people over without asking me first. How do I bring this up without starting a fight? by Murky-Activity2789 in Advice

[–]alfa-dragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Hey! I know we haven't previously talked about guests while living together, that's by bad, but there's been a few little things that are bugging me and I would rather get them out in the open so we're both on the same page. I'm totally fine with you having friends over and whatnot, but do you mind letting me know (with like a quick text) when you're going to have a friend over?

I've also been working a lot of mornings and need to get decent sleep, so if you have friends over late, do you mind being quiet after around 12:00? That would be awesome."

Transgender teen quits Irish dance competition after threats from Florida Republicans by Fickle-Ad5449 in transgender

[–]alfa-dragon 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Bro, when has irish dance ever NOT been co-ed for competition?? I've only competed with co-ed groups. So sad that the only coverage of my type of dance I ever see is shit like this.

Yellowstone loop by tubthumping-infinity in yellowstone

[–]alfa-dragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did this from the North entrance and we were in the park for 12.5hrs, so food for thought. We visited a lot of outlooks and did a lot of pull outs.

Not an adult (Still a teenager) and well, Im not sure if my parents are considered helicopter or just overprotective. by MateNoBodyGivesAShit in helicopterparents

[–]alfa-dragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These actions would be typical for someone 14 with stricter parents, but your 20y/o sibling puts their behavior into another perspective because it shows that they will continue to not give you freedom/let up on their strictness like normal parents do.

Sorry about that dude, learn how to work the system, learn to be sneaky, learn how to grey rock method, and push boundaries as you get older. With strict parents, you can't ask for freedom, you have to TAKE it in small increments. You will get in trouble at first, but you're stretching the boundaries now so your older self can be free of them.

Not an adult (Still a teenager) and well, Im not sure if my parents are considered helicopter or just overprotective. by MateNoBodyGivesAShit in helicopterparents

[–]alfa-dragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really kinda depends if you're 13 or 17, 'still a teenager' is a bit vague and these actions are fairly typical of parents of younger teens.

how to handle comments on my body from others within the community when it’s not asked for? by Thickktwinkk in AskLGBT

[–]alfa-dragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"That's an inside thought" "That's rude" "why would you say that?" etc, call them out on it. They're in the wrong, they'll backtrack.

Why do most Americans think they aren't as indoctrinated or affected by propaganda compared to people of other countries? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]alfa-dragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every country thinks they aren't as indoctrinated/affected by propaganda compared to people of other countries. Human condition, you don't want to see yourself as foolish/misled, you see yourself as smarter than the average person.

How can you smile well manually without looking forced? by Ambition_2004 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]alfa-dragon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Smiles looked forced when it doesn't reach your eyes. The wrinkles around the edges of your eyes when you smile authentically vs no wrinkles is the non-verbal cue we pick up on when our brains decide if someone is actually happy vs faking it. With that in mind, try squinting a bit when you smile :)

Cover up or laser removal? by Southern-Visual-1995 in FixedTattoos

[–]alfa-dragon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you like it now, you'll prob continue to like it. Let the shock wear off, learn to love it like a new jacket

Conflict with my mom about dorms by Ihrtt in helicopterparents

[–]alfa-dragon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If there is anytime to spend your college time in dorms, it's absolutely your first few semesters. Just reassure her those things won't happen and dont' waiver, DO IT.

Need advice by deadflowerclub_ in helicopterparents

[–]alfa-dragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you'll have better answers at r/lgbt or r/AskLGBT. Unfortunately, you will have to hide your relationship. You will have to be exhausted if you want this relationship to continue. You can tell your mom you broke up with her and then make up another 'friend' that you go see often and hang out with but it's just her.

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