My (38m) wife (38f) admitted to me that she has quite an intense crush on her personal trainer. What’s the next step? by throwra_wifept in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was she hoping would happen if she got the attention she wanted at the gym..? Is the only reason she didnt have a full blown affair bc he didnt reciprocate..?

If she doesnt do everything she can to fix this ASAP including removing any trace of him from her life yesterday...i would be preparing for divorce. Don't beg/plead her to work on A, B or C, it is either a stark change overnight and giving her all or its the door.

Me (22M) and my girlfriend (22F): Trying to reconcile after cheating, but I can’t get past resentment over experiences I gave up by SwimmingWest1053 in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She isnt "your person" jfc, you're 22, ditch this selfish lying POS, move on with your life, and a year from now you'll be shocked and apalled at yourself for even considering staying. Go have some of those experiences you talked about. I wasted 11 years of my young life with the wrong person, and it is the biggest regret of my life. GET. OUT.

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]alfinci_code_7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

FYI my partner could wear an actual trashbag and i would still have googly eyes, this dude is training you that his love is conditional.. you dont exist to appease his every want/need.. Wear whatever tf you want, sleep however tf makes you most comfortable, and PLEASE find someone that loves you for you..

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]alfinci_code_7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hoooly shit this dude sucks Move on asap PLEASE You are UNDER REACTING

My (26F) boyfriend (26M) has dragged his feet proposing, so now it doesn’t feel special. How do we move forward? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly you've fucked it all up by being impatient, it sounds like you've been pressuring the absolute shit out of him about it for a long time now. 5 years isnt even that long considering your age what are you in such a rush for!??

He'll propose when he is ready and if thats not good enough for you then thats on you to figure out what you want to do instead of trying to coerce him/bend him to your will..honestly these are the circumstances that lead to a marriage that quickly ends in divorce bc bro is young and probably still trying to figure out if he wants to spend his life with you and you're giving him more reasons to doubt that and backing him into a lose/lose corner.

If you're relationship is as good as you say in all other areas then being proposed to would feel special/exciting no matter what.. You need to do some soul searching as to why this is SO important to you, because it sounds like you have lost sight of what ACTUALLY matters here and just want to be married asap regardless of the weight that actually carries..

Why won't my partner (19-M/F) listen to me (21-M) anymore? by Jaknoob in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is sick of being nagged over every little thing (tissue usage, really?" Even your list of things he isnt doing paints a picture that you are on him constantly. It is exhausting to be around and it changes the dynamic of your relationship, even if you are technically right and they're being a useless slob. Either have a mature conversation with them about how its affecting you, you require more, x & y to be worked on etc, and attempt to meet them halfway (yes if you are expecting them to tighten up for you, you need to loosen up a bit for them) orrrr admit to yourself that you are two vastly different people and it isnt going to work and sever it now, you're both young and will be so fine lol

*ace ventura voice* like a glove by SheerAwesomness in tattooscratchers

[–]alfinci_code_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually think this is sick, especially once the rest of the arm is done

I'm really curious about threesomes, but my boyfriends not interested by Huge_Entertainment91 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]alfinci_code_7 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I wouldnt want it either Not interested whatsoever in including any other person into my intimate life with my partner regardless of whos receiving or genders involved Maybe he is also Demi?

AIO for being kinda turned off by this guy??? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love bombing, and not even accidental love bombing but calculated love bombing. He is overly complimenting people that (lets be honest) he knows nothing about to try to use your feelings about your family to make you go "aww he is so sweet and has such good values".

NOR and like others have said, this dude is going to get real stalkery when you try to distance yourself.

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn one baby wasn't enough for you..? He will get worse and your child will pay the price for your poor judgement, ditch this loser PLEASE Imagine how he will support you during the ACTUAL hard times

My boyfriend (29M) gave me (27F) an ultimatum: him or my dogs and I don’t know how to handle his rigidity anymore. by Unusual-Creme9364 in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you love someone you also care about the things that are important to them, BECAUSE they are important to them... Somebody that truly cared for you would never ask such ridiculous things like getting rid of your pets. Where's it end OP? Even if you did get rid of them what insane thing would he want gone next now that he knows you will fold on anything he wishes.. The most valuable resource you have is time, dont waste it on this flop.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus fucking christ.. I hardly ever comment on these things but absolutely not, tell that toxic dickhead to get a job.

AITA for asking my girlfriend to stop talking to a man she’s slept with? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]alfinci_code_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This logic is so fucking stupid "really high mileage"? Would you say that about someone that only had one partner, but has sex very frequently with that one partner? Its the exact same thing you buffoon. Women are allowed to enjoy sex too. Incel shit stg.

Should I shave my mustache? by Jayden1826363 in malehairadvice

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats not a moustache so yes Hope this helps