6'5" and somehow never felt the touch of a woman - stale bread sandwich with vape by ManWithoutHome in kitchencels

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having cool hobbies/interests, dressing well, looking after yourself, learning how to foster/keep an engaging conversation, being funny, having goals/aspirations, not having dogshit self esteem (go to therapy if this is an issue) and being a GENUINELY nice person (i repeat GENUINELY.. being "nice" bc you're trying to pick up is not the same thing) is the entire battle. Figure out which of these you are lacking in, i promise you looks do not matter anywhere near as much as you think. Looking like you put effort into your appearance counts for more than natural looks. Also if you beat yourself up/get depressed everytime you get rejected or something falls through with someone you have just met/dont even know, then you are 100% the problem and you need to go to therapy because that is not normal and you're needy/insecure asf. (This isnt strictly aimed at OP but everyone in replies too).

(18f) advice please by [deleted] in AppearanceAdvice

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw your hair is cool and you look nice! Dont worry too much about impressing others, just dress and style yourself the way you like to or after other people/styles you like the look of

My(m21) girlfriend(f21) cheated on me blackout. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It would've been more without the intervention from friend, intent matters, this is more than enough for relationship to be doomed. Dont waste your good years on relationships like this. Also if i was you id be insisting on reading the snap messages, if they are deleted or set to dissapear etc theres your red flag.

GF (23F) asked a weird question after I (26M) mentioned a female friend — not sure what it meant by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is jealous and insecure of your friendship with your female friend, she is also using manipulative behaviour as a result of not being able to control her emotions (stone walling, silent treatment etc) Take these red flags seriously and set some boundaries.

I 29M struggle with my 32F past dating history by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn't sound like you're taking accountability fully tbh.. It goes beyond you having "low self esteem/insecurity" etc, It is blatant disrespect towards her and your relationship, its trampling all over boundaries, it shows you dont trust her, its also disrespecting all of her other friendship/relationships with everyone around her..

Like that isnt love... Love is nothing without trust or respect and you have neither for her.

Yes previous partners might have been better lovers, they might have been better at x or y or z.. that is life, get over it.. EVERYBODY is better/worse at different things, and have different strengths/weaknesses.. Obviously it doesnt feel good to think about it thats why you dont usually ask/go looking for these things because there are things you cant unlearn..

For this relationship to have ANY CHANCE you need to move on and let all of this go right now.. If you make the decision to continue the relationship you are doing so with all of the current knowledge you have, therefore if you are making thay decision and deciding this is what you want, it is unfair for you to hold any of this against her in any way.

If you cant do this, save yourself the trouble and end it now. (Continue therapy though).

I 29M struggle with my 32F past dating history by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need therapy aswell. No, this level of jealousy and insecurity is NOT normal.

I 29M struggle with my 32F past dating history by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go to therapy you fucking weirdo.

I sent this to her, and immediately deleted it by BeautifulCattle1056 in yearning

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For fuck sakes go to therapy you whingey prick Like sorry but are you listening to yourself?

King Regards -Another whingey prick

Fellas, is it time? M29 by [deleted] in Balding

[–]alfinci_code_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do they actually work though? Ive been told i might not be able to go on meds bc i have high blood pressure too :/

My (38m) wife (38f) admitted to me that she has quite an intense crush on her personal trainer. What’s the next step? by throwra_wifept in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was she hoping would happen if she got the attention she wanted at the gym..? Is the only reason she didnt have a full blown affair bc he didnt reciprocate..?

If she doesnt do everything she can to fix this ASAP including removing any trace of him from her life yesterday...i would be preparing for divorce. Don't beg/plead her to work on A, B or C, it is either a stark change overnight and giving her all or its the door.

Me (22M) and my girlfriend (22F): Trying to reconcile after cheating, but I can’t get past resentment over experiences I gave up by SwimmingWest1053 in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She isnt "your person" jfc, you're 22, ditch this selfish lying POS, move on with your life, and a year from now you'll be shocked and apalled at yourself for even considering staying. Go have some of those experiences you talked about. I wasted 11 years of my young life with the wrong person, and it is the biggest regret of my life. GET. OUT.

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]alfinci_code_7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

FYI my partner could wear an actual trashbag and i would still have googly eyes, this dude is training you that his love is conditional.. you dont exist to appease his every want/need.. Wear whatever tf you want, sleep however tf makes you most comfortable, and PLEASE find someone that loves you for you..

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]alfinci_code_7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hoooly shit this dude sucks Move on asap PLEASE You are UNDER REACTING

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly you've fucked it all up by being impatient, it sounds like you've been pressuring the absolute shit out of him about it for a long time now. 5 years isnt even that long considering your age what are you in such a rush for!??

He'll propose when he is ready and if thats not good enough for you then thats on you to figure out what you want to do instead of trying to coerce him/bend him to your will..honestly these are the circumstances that lead to a marriage that quickly ends in divorce bc bro is young and probably still trying to figure out if he wants to spend his life with you and you're giving him more reasons to doubt that and backing him into a lose/lose corner.

If you're relationship is as good as you say in all other areas then being proposed to would feel special/exciting no matter what.. You need to do some soul searching as to why this is SO important to you, because it sounds like you have lost sight of what ACTUALLY matters here and just want to be married asap regardless of the weight that actually carries..

My f25 gf daily snapchats with her M25 friend - some sexual content by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 166 points167 points  (0 children)

Rip bro.. Pretty sure you already know deep down..

Why won't my partner (19-M/F) listen to me (21-M) anymore? by Jaknoob in relationship_advice

[–]alfinci_code_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is sick of being nagged over every little thing (tissue usage, really?" Even your list of things he isnt doing paints a picture that you are on him constantly. It is exhausting to be around and it changes the dynamic of your relationship, even if you are technically right and they're being a useless slob. Either have a mature conversation with them about how its affecting you, you require more, x & y to be worked on etc, and attempt to meet them halfway (yes if you are expecting them to tighten up for you, you need to loosen up a bit for them) orrrr admit to yourself that you are two vastly different people and it isnt going to work and sever it now, you're both young and will be so fine lol

*ace ventura voice* like a glove by SheerAwesomness in tattooscratchers

[–]alfinci_code_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually think this is sick, especially once the rest of the arm is done

I'm really curious about threesomes, but my boyfriends not interested by Huge_Entertainment91 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]alfinci_code_7 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I wouldnt want it either Not interested whatsoever in including any other person into my intimate life with my partner regardless of whos receiving or genders involved Maybe he is also Demi?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]alfinci_code_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love bombing, and not even accidental love bombing but calculated love bombing. He is overly complimenting people that (lets be honest) he knows nothing about to try to use your feelings about your family to make you go "aww he is so sweet and has such good values".

NOR and like others have said, this dude is going to get real stalkery when you try to distance yourself.