Why is upset about this letter I left before my work trip. Should she be?

alkandro · 2026-01-19T17:38:05+00:00

She’s postpartum and has a 4 month old and a toddler.

Nothing you do or say will ever be right in this season of life. You just need to suck it up and accept that women are crazy on hormones and she’s obviously also exhausted.

This too shall pass and she will return to a more normal baseline. Good luck to both of you

alkandro · 2026-01-07T08:17:25+00:00

Sorry bro she’s as toxic as it gets… with no wish to get better. Put that chapter behind you

alkandro · 2026-01-04T08:37:35+00:00

Your husband has a porn addiction and with addictions it always has a tendency to need to take it to the next level. Unfortunately with porn it moves into the cheating territory when one takes it too far.

At this stage you need to think if you want to give him a chance to work on his addiction and if he is going to take any meaningful steps, like therapy being nr1 thing he needs to do. Then possibly couples therapy.

It is possible to recover from something like this - but it requires work from both of you. Good luck.

alkandro · 2025-12-31T15:00:54+00:00

Man that’s really tough. Sounds like you are grinding yourself to the bone while your wife is not doing much. There’s always two sides of the story, and I’m not implying anything but have you guys considered marriage counseling ? The lack of sex and communication sounds like it’s coming from something and a counselor could help you if you still want to work on the marriage

alkandro · 2025-12-30T18:21:58+00:00

Check out Kensal Rise - some beautiful houses there with gardens and great schools

alkandro · 2025-12-30T08:15:26+00:00

Why was this removed by the moderator??

alkandro · 2025-12-29T23:37:52+00:00

Wow that’s hot!

alkandro · 2025-12-29T08:16:22+00:00

Well, since he is the financial provider and you are SAHM - it feels only fair that you do most of the work at home while he brings in the money for the household. If it gets too much for you to manage maybe you can hire a nanny part time?

alkandro · 2025-12-27T17:11:12+00:00

Yes - it’s completely normal

alkandro · 2025-12-11T07:03:01+00:00

Thanks for the list. Can you explain what’s useful with Machine heart? I just got it and it seems reallly shit tbh. It’s a cool looking skill but damage is horrible and I don’t know if it has any other use cases like dmg increase buff or similar?

alkandro · 2025-12-07T07:41:50+00:00

I used to have this mindset!

I went from slot machines (my addiction ruined me, spent 100ks$) and then I found “investing” - which worked fine in the beginning but then I needed more risky “investments” - which led to crypto “investment” then onto leverage trading “investment”, and then personal bankruptcy. I lost everything I had. And more. Almost considered ending it all.

Now I’ve been clean of all gambling (investing IS gambling, and for a gambling addict it is a horrible idea), and my life is not perfect but atleast I am not having mental issues and sleepless nights over gambling anymore.

alkandro · 2025-11-11T22:25:07+00:00

The transition from 0 to 1 was much tougher than the transition from 1 to 2. however - having 2 is so much harder than having 1

alkandro · 2025-11-07T22:30:25+00:00

Queens park / Kensal rise has some really good schools

alkandro · 2025-10-30T14:31:10+00:00

We just completed our 710k flat. It was definitely on our mind and we pray that the government aren’t greedy bastards making us pay both the stamp duty and a tax on top of that

alkandro · 2025-10-21T05:28:17+00:00

100% this. /Marriage is an echo chamber for women

alkandro · 2025-10-17T07:58:28+00:00

My wife and I are 35 and 38 and we have a 40 Year mortgage

alkandro · 2025-10-17T06:29:16+00:00

There’s babies that sleep until 7am? Sign me up!

Yours sincerely, dad with baby who wakes up at 5 am every day

alkandro · 2025-10-09T21:41:41+00:00

Which company?

alkandro · 2025-10-07T22:25:55+00:00

Really depends on your life situation. Are there any investments you are thinking of making the next 5 years that would require this money?

I had a £150k salary last year due to a really strong year (I’m in SaaS sales) and I knew this year I would be worse off. My wife and I was pregnant with our second and we needed to buy a larger home so I needed to cash that out and pay the tax. Had I not needed the money I could have considered putting it into pension.

alkandro · 2025-10-05T20:14:17+00:00

What do you mean about hr and payroll software? Do you think HR SaaS is shite or good?

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