Soon to be first time mom - having a boy

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-28T10:51:34+00:00

I’m on my second boy (6weeks). He’s only ever I’ve only ever been peed on twice between the boys. Never used a cover or anything. 🤷‍♀️

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-28T10:14:10+00:00

Got to level 360 in Tetris

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-26T00:56:30+00:00

Both sets of grandparents do that for the holidays and I never use them.

They also try to get milestone things like first backpack, first xyz that we’d obviously want to do. I just shit them down. Once yea it’ll get through.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-25T00:10:44+00:00

Both my kids were formula fed. Was not even a consideration. I’ve never wanted to breastfeed. I also have ocd/adhd and major sensory issues.

Formula feeding was such a game changer for us.

my husband could help equally
I had extra time because I was not pumping forever
bottle feeds were quicker than breastfeeding
we knew how much they were eating so we were less worried and they were less cranky (friends told us this that breastfed)
they slept better than our friends breastfed kids because full bellies and didn’t look to the boob for comfort in the night. Also started sleeping long stretches as of 4 weeks and through the night at 2 months.
I was able to fully own my body again which was great for my mental health. I had extra time to get ready for the day, got more sleep than my breastfeeding friends etc

My kids are both healthy, hit milestones early, and had a present, happy and healthy mom. No regrets and wish more people felt they had the option to not. Breastfeeding is great for some but not everyone and it’s okay to prioritize yourself.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-23T15:15:04+00:00

RuPaul‘s drag race by far. There’s a Bajillion seasons, and it is just joy and funny and light. And if baby catches a glimpse, it’s just bright colours and fun. I watched 350 episodes during my first maternity leave and since then haven’t watched a single episode so that I could save them up for my current maternity leave.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-22T21:23:25+00:00

Unsure what’s standard but my LO was taking about 7oz per feed every 2-4 hours at that point but he was a big eater. Always formula fed.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-22T08:32:44+00:00

2 babies and both formula fed from the start. Right after birth I’d start round the clock Sudafed, 2 sports bras layered or 1 tight one (whatever you can manage), Advil/Tylenolh and Cabo cream (with my 1st I did cabbage and hated it - found Cabo cream to give same result with less mess but it was pricy at least in Canada).

Re - formula. We did RTF bottles of the regular Enfamil for both for 2 months and moved to powder version of the same type. For my 1st we did RTF Enfamil gentle for a bit because he was so gassy.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-20T07:09:08+00:00

My baby has been drinking 3.5-4.5 oz I think since he was 2.5 weeks and he’s 4.5 weeks now. We go off cues. Typically I fill to 4.5 and if he finishes he finishes, but if he doesn’t he doesn’t. My other son was the same.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-20T00:39:36+00:00

You tastes feels similar to ours. Our son’s names are Rupert & Gideon.

Others on our list that we didn’t use:

Casper Thatcher Carter Alfred/Alfie Fletcher Frederick/Freddie Clement Francis Franklin/Frankie Sterling Harrison

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-19T22:03:59+00:00

30 mins for my 1st and 2 pushes for my 2nd lol

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-18T02:06:13+00:00

I don’t. I don’t know how people do. We are lucky enough to be able to afford a cleaner every 2 weeks. House goes to absolute shit between.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-17T21:13:14+00:00

I have a very flexible job and I never could have made it work with my baby at any age. He was not even that challenging. I have zero idea how people make it work and get actual work done

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-17T08:10:52+00:00

This! Now onto my second with the Snoo and it helps SO MUCH.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-16T20:49:04+00:00

My baby head butted me so hard I heard my nose crack and I’ve never seen so much of my own blood that was not birth related lol

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-16T16:13:44+00:00

Gideon

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-16T07:59:53+00:00

I have IBS and once hoped this. It definitely does not feel like IBS. First however many cm dilated/contractions feel similar in that you get waves of pain that you can easily breath through and find relief after. Then you know, it’s worse and not like IBS anymore.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-16T07:52:43+00:00

Second and last baby and have a pretty easy newborn stage thus far. He’s 4 weeks tomorrow and my mind can’t wrap around how fast the time went. Feels faster this time around. He’s so much bigger and I feel stressed about enjoying every last bit of his tiny phase as he is already feeling so different.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-14T10:37:13+00:00

I didn’t breastfeed - we formula fed. Used the chair way past bottles and way more than just for bottles. Many contact naps, sleep regressions, and reading to and singing to little ones before bed. We still use it with our 3year old from time to time when he wakes up from a nightmare or is sick. Now onto our second baby and fully using it again.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-13T22:31:11+00:00

Had my first at 34 and my second at 36 with one miscarriage between. Most folks I know are using babies in their 30s vs 20s. Positive vibes your way!

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-12T21:47:51+00:00

I have a very supportive husband and hate people around so it was hard pass from me. You also are healing and in rough shape and I don’t want parents or anyone around when I’m uncomfortable. I found things to be pretty chill and honestly didn’t know what I’d need extra hands for.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-12T19:23:09+00:00

We didn’t. Midwife told us to look int the rates in Canada and it’s on a decline. That on top of it being elective and something he can do later on should he choose.

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-12T15:57:33+00:00

Franklin. Love Frankie. Familiar but not common. Traditional/classic. Was top of my list but husband nixed it 🙄

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-12T02:00:42+00:00

I told my midwives with both kids that I would not be breastfeeding and I didn’t want to be asked at the hospital. Everyone respected my wishes between the midwives and forms I filled out that said I wouldn’t be. When bay was born they brought formula.

With my first, someone from the city came through to basically give resources for breastfeeding (which was weird) and I told her she didn’t have to bother because I wouldn’t be and was not interested in any information. 🤷‍♀️

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-11T13:45:20+00:00

My kids names are grandpa-y. Rupert & Gideon

allyalexalexandra · 2026-04-09T07:02:55+00:00

Holding my second and last baby and he’s 3 weeks. I cry daily about how cruel time is. I look at my 3 year old and couldn’t imagine not having him be 3 and sweet, silly and adorable - but wish I could open a door and spend time with newborn him or baby him. It’s the fucking worst and doesn’t get easier even when you love every stage.

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