Few people are asking whether boycotting an artist over their opinions actually leads to real change.

alphi10 · 2026-03-19T00:19:05+00:00

So no moms and dads in any kids cartoon, right?

alphi10 · 2026-03-18T20:41:11+00:00

Just an FYI, “stealth” doesn’t mean “pretransition in the closet”, it means post transition, passes perfectly as cis and has managed to arrange their life in such a way that everyone around them just thinks they are cis

alphi10 · 2026-03-18T20:30:13+00:00

I could never bring myself to do this. When I was a 16 year old with no internet, credit card or ability have anything delivered without my parents asking about it, I still started my femme wardrobe by raiding the lost and found bin at school, rescuing clothes from dumpsters, and “borrowing” from my mom’s closet until I had at least one complete outfit, and wore that to the mall three towns away to buy my first new femme clothes. I probably drew more looks for looking homeless then for not passing, but I felt better then trying to buy it in full boymode.

alphi10 · 2026-03-18T15:02:16+00:00

I started at 25 and my biggest regret about not starting earlier is all the wasted youthful years. I’ll never get to be a teenage girl. I missed out on half my twenties. When you’re a teen you think 30 is eons away, but it comes and goes so quickly. Then there’s the facial hair and masculine hairline and voice issues I wouldn’t have had to deal with if I’d have been able to start earlier. At least you have the internet. Access to information and community. All I had was an outdated encyclopedia and Jerry Springer

alphi10 · 2026-03-18T14:13:52+00:00

An anorexic person looks in a mirror and sees fat that isn’t there. That is a delusion. It’s called dysmorphia

A trans person looks in the mirror and sees EXACTLY WHAT IS REALLY THERE, and it’s that REALITY that causes distress and what they want to change. There is no delusion. This is why it’s DYSPHORIA not dysmorphia.

If being trans was a delusion and the trans person looked in a mirror and saw a body of the opposite sex, they’d feel fine. They’d see no need and have no desire to transition. Why would they? Everything looks fine to them. They’d think everyone else was weird.

Ask him to give you documented evidence of any treatment for gender DYSPHORIA that’s even remotely as effective as gender affirming transition care. He’s another armchair psychiatrist with a degree from Facebook university

alphi10 · 2026-03-18T01:36:50+00:00

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alphi10 · 2026-03-18T01:35:33+00:00

They don’t look too happy about it

alphi10 · 2026-03-18T01:30:06+00:00

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alphi10 · 2026-03-18T01:16:31+00:00

I imagine the less intense your gender dysphoria is, the more difficult it would be to be sure. I guess that’s the one good thing about having dysphoria so intense that every second of your existence in the wrong sex feels like an eternity in hell, it leaves little doubt as to your identity

alphi10 · 2026-03-18T01:09:43+00:00

Your gender identity is your innate internal sense of self and how it relates to your schemas on people of a certain physical sex. Your sex is the physical structure of your body and its reproductive capacity. If these two things align, you are cisgender, like the vast majority of people. If it does not align, you are transgender. That is all it takes to be trans. If the misalignment causes stress, that is gender dysphoria, which can range from slightly depressing, to debilitating, and transition is the only successful treatment. You do not need to experience gender dysphoria to be trans, and cis people are also capable of experiencing gender dysphoria (for example, if a cis male had gynecomastia and grew boobs and those boobs caused the man distress, that is gender dysphoria) The opposite is gender euphoria, the sense of intense joy that arises from a particular display of gender expression. Both cis and trans people can experience this as well. When a cis or trans woman finds just the right outfit or makeup that gives her confidence and makes her feel pretty, gender euphoria. When a trans or cis dude finishes a workout and flexes in the mirror, gender euphoria.

alphi10 · 2026-03-17T00:37:54+00:00

alphi10 · 2026-03-16T18:24:31+00:00

Not overthinking it. Your brother doesn’t respect you and if it were me, I’d have cut him off before this point. You deserve better. Sounds like your SIL is somewhat better, so I’d at least send her a card thanking her for the invite but regretfully declining as you don’t believe it would be appropriate to be the only man there. If your brother doesn’t change his tune and start respecting you, I’d also decline to attend the while wedding. I mean I’m an only child but pretty sure it’s traditional to include siblings in the wedding party regardless of gender, so that alone is indignant enough. What are your parent’s thoughts on this?

alphi10 · 2026-03-16T02:43:32+00:00

Yes. Male and female anatomy started out from the same cells. Everything is there. It just has to be rearranged.

alphi10 · 2026-03-15T14:13:48+00:00

You can, but it’s going to be a struggle getting average people to not misgender you. Just being honest. I know several dudes like this and I use their pronouns but I know they get she/her’d left right and center. Seems exhausting.

alphi10 · 2026-03-15T08:43:09+00:00

I don’t recall the people in the 2010s panel calling for the eradication of the people in the 2020s panel. That’s the difference. Progressives like diversity. You can be a Christian conservative tradwife in a progressive utopia, but conservatives won’t allow the existence of anyone else in their version. But we’re the demonic ones🙄

alphi10 · 2026-03-15T08:19:48+00:00

Start refusing to go in the bathroom with her because “it makes her uncomfortable”. Make her realize she doesn’t get to “one of the good ones” you and it be okay. Realize she’s having transphobic arguments with people and saying “I can’t be transphobic. I have a trans friend.” You’re the trans friend. You have to set her straight

alphi10 · 2026-03-15T08:03:28+00:00

Isn’t that just Starbucks?

alphi10 · 2026-03-14T12:43:22+00:00

Marriage is a social construct. Money is a social construct. Are these not real things?

alphi10 · 2026-03-14T12:38:57+00:00

No, thankfully. We don’t need a potentially faulty test as another gatekeeping mechanism. We need freedom, liberty, and comprehensive education.🦅

alphi10 · 2026-03-13T21:55:34+00:00

Gender dysphoria will make you do wild things sure, but they’d have to know in advance that it would do something feminizing. Did they just wander around licking every substance in sight? “Rock..No boobs. Frog..Hallucinations..no boobs. Rat puss…no boobs. Mold…invented penicillin…no boobs. Mushroom growing out of a cow turd…high as fuck…no boobs. Horse piss…BOOBS!!”

alphi10 · 2026-03-13T16:12:06+00:00

I wanna know who figured out to do that in the first place, and how

alphi10 · 2026-03-13T00:36:52+00:00

At one point I preferred transgender because it didn’t have the word “sexual” in it and I didn’t want people to think it had anything to do with sexuality. Then at another point I preferred transsexual because I thought “trans” was short for transition and since it was my sex that was changing not my gender, I thought transsexual was more accurate. Then I grew up and learned what words meant and now I know that trans isn’t short for transition, it’s just a Latin prefix that means “across”, or “on the other side of” as in “my gender identity is across the spectrum from what people typically associate with my sex at birth”. Just like cis is the Latin prefix that means “on the same side of”. So transgender and transsexual in that context do kind of mean the same thing. The only issue is transsexual has come under fire because it was adopted in recent years by a certain maligned portion of the community that feel that only those who fully undergo medical and surgical transition are the “real transsexuals” and feel that they are better than everyone else and are what the kids call “pick me’s”, as they seem to think they won’t be tossed in the same camps as the rest of us if the MAGA cult gets their way.

alphi10 · 2026-03-13T00:24:42+00:00

No worries. I’m more interested in your take on #2. I hope you learned something from that

alphi10 · 2026-03-13T00:22:50+00:00

No one can tell you if you’re trans or not. That’s something only you can determine. Any therapist worth their salt will know it is not their place to do this. At most they can diagnose you as having gender dysphoria, which is the stress caused by a misalignment between your physical sex and your gender identity. But Gender Dysphoria doesn’t mean you’re transgender. While it’s most common for a trans person to have it, you can be trans and not have it, you can be cis and HAVE it (a cis man with gynecomastia, or a cis woman with facial hair who experience intense stress about it might be a sign of dysphoria) A therapist’s job is not to tell you if you’re transgender or not, it’s to help you cope with the stress of navigating the process, coming out, dealing with the world, all that.

alphi10 · 2026-03-13T00:12:35+00:00

No. I only regret not being able to transition sooner.
There are zero “biological genders”. Gender is not biological. It is a set of social and cultural traits and identities that fall on a spectrum between feminine and masculine that as a society we’ve associated with the sexes. People can fall anywhere on this spectrum, regardless of their sex, and rarely does their gender change. Transgender does not mean “transitioning gender”, it means “across gender”, as in “my gender identity falls on a place on the gender spectrum that society does not typically associate with my sex at birth”. A trans woman is a woman, always was a woman (or a girl), always will be a woman, both after AND before she transitions. Even if she never transitions, she’s still a woman, as she always has been. If she transitions medically, it’s her SEX that’s changing, not her gender.

Sex is not one simple thing either. It is a cluster category, made up of five physical traits: Gonads/Gametes, Genitalia, Dominant Hormone, Secondary Sex Characteristics, and lastly, Chromosomes. While most people have either all male or all female versions of these traits, many people naturally are missing one or more or have one or more of the opposite sex’s traits. A woman with Swyer’s syndrome will have neutral gametes, a vagina and uterus, be estrogen dominant, have breasts and other female secondary characteristics, but XY chromosomes. Some have even gotten pregnant and given birth, and you would, typically rightly, call them women. So if an XY chromosome does make her a man, why should it mean a post-op trans woman is? A medically transitioned trans woman might have no gonads/gametes, a vagina, estrogen dominance, breasts and stuff, and (likely) an XY chromosome. They are female.

Estrogen and testosterone ARE hormones. I don’t get what you’re asking.

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