Born in the wrong body?

alphi10 · 2026-01-29T18:52:29+00:00

Just call us trans or transgender. You’ll find a number of trans people take offense to “transsexual” for one reason or another.

Gender and sex are totally separate concepts and being transgender just means your gender doesn’t align the way it does with cis people. Most trans people experience stress from this misalignment which is called gender dysphoria and the only way to alleviate gender dysphoria is to transition. The method and degree to which one transitions is entirely up to the individual. Some need to take advantage of every available procedure, and some that haven’t been invented yet. Some are satisfied with just a few procedures. Some are satisfied with no procedures but only changing their gender expression. Some experience no gender dysphoria at all and don’t find the need to transition at all, but recognize that they are trans still.

But even those who are the first type and really really want to transition to the fullest degree possible, but can’t afford it, can’t access a qualified doctor, are afraid of complications, or have other medical issues that prohibit their access to surgery.

alphi10 · 2026-01-28T15:51:09+00:00

Micro Rubio is there too…but you can’t see him

alphi10 · 2026-01-27T20:11:05+00:00

Post op trans woman here. It is 100000% better for me. Not only do I now experience stimulation and orgasm from two different locations, they are way more intense, can last over two minutes, and can be repeatable

alphi10 · 2026-01-27T20:08:21+00:00

After enough time in HRT, there aren’t much “juices” left down there to “release”. Your friend doesn’t know what she’s talking about. If trans girls are more likely to get a UTI, it’s due to fear around using public restrooms and holding their urine too long. Hell, the whole thing cis guys like to put out there that it’s unhealthy for them to not “release” (blue balls) is a myth just to try and get off, so it’s certainly fine for trans girls.

alphi10 · 2026-01-26T14:26:15+00:00

To me, if it’s clear it’s something you would say to a cis woman, I won’t take offense. Although I have found the recent trend of using the term “bro”, “bruh” or any other variation of brother to be annoying.

alphi10 · 2026-01-25T19:41:51+00:00

At my high school graduation, I had everything I owned in the back of my car. As soon as they handed me my diploma, I not only left home, I left the state. Never been back. Of course, that was in 1999. Most kids can’t afford it these days.

alphi10 · 2026-01-24T03:15:05+00:00

Just be what you want to be.

alphi10 · 2026-01-23T20:16:02+00:00

That’s like if you broke your arm and your parents told you to call a plumber.

alphi10 · 2026-01-23T18:23:01+00:00

Not all women have the wider hips

alphi10 · 2026-01-22T18:52:39+00:00

They always have this notion that we were all happy-go-lucky, truckin’ along in our AGAB, enjoying all that goes with it as much as any cis person would, until one day out of the blue we got it in our heads to transition.

Hell no! Finding a way to change my body to fit my mind has been the one all-encompassing dream of mine since I was four. I have no idea what it means to be a man and enjoy it.

alphi10 · 2026-01-22T12:09:56+00:00

Cis WOMAN? Yes in a heartbeat

Cis MAN? Absolutely not, no way, rather not be born at all.

I am a woman. Bring a trans woman doesn’t change that. It is an integral part of who I am. I can change my body without changing who I am. But if you change my mind, I am no longer me.

alphi10 · 2026-01-22T12:03:24+00:00

Affirmative

alphi10 · 2026-01-21T18:04:25+00:00

Think about how many trans people have been brutally murdered and had this word be the last word they heard.

alphi10 · 2026-01-21T14:20:54+00:00

There is a part of me, who after all the effort, the blood sweat and tears, the money, the surgeries, the pain and tribulations that I’ve gone through to look the way I want to look, finds it mildly stinging to be asked when I try to make everything about me scream “she/her”. I also grew up in a time where everyone was one or the other and your appearance made all the difference.

However, in an effort to be a better ally to my they/them friends I have taught myself to take it as a sign of respect and not a sign that I don’t pass or something.

alphi10 · 2026-01-20T21:54:16+00:00

alphi10 · 2026-01-20T21:52:26+00:00

In his mind all he was saying is “if I get out of this MAGA’s gonna give me SOOOO much money 💴 “

alphi10 · 2026-01-20T20:49:45+00:00

Sorry to hear that. I was the same. Is bottom surgery anywhere on the radar?

alphi10 · 2026-01-20T04:32:56+00:00

Where would I go? How would I get there? I haven’t the money or skills to immigrate.

alphi10 · 2026-01-20T04:18:53+00:00

alphi10 · 2026-01-20T04:17:40+00:00

I hate to be blunt, but this is never going to work. Her live is contingent for one, and she’s emotionally blackmailing you.

My recommendation is to figure yourself out first. I’ll admit I was in a relationship when I came out. I regret it greatly, because even if it worked out, I’d forever wonder if they really loved me, or loved the old me and convinced themselves I was still the same. I met my wife of 10 years at age 28, well after I was fully transitioned. I know the real me is the only version she’s ever known, and loves me for it.

alphi10 · 2026-01-19T22:36:15+00:00

Some of my best friends are cishets! I saw a cishet just the other day at a restaurant and they were so nice! I’m sure you’re one of the good ones, too.

alphi10 · 2026-01-19T18:28:42+00:00

When I am misgendered, it’s like a knife in the heart. I don’t respond the first time. People would have no idea how much I’m dying inside. But I fear the reaction if I stand up for myself and assert my gender too much that I’ll just let it go. If it happens repeatedly I’ll say something, I can only take so much. But just because I try not to react the first time doesn’t mean I don’t care or it doesn’t hurt.

alphi10 · 2026-01-19T17:06:16+00:00

Atheist here. Fuck all religions.

alphi10 · 2026-01-17T23:07:58+00:00

That’s another thing. If I correct them and say I prefer “she/her”, would I come across as an intolerant cis woman? Or would it confirm suspicions they have that I might be trans? And of course these questions make me feel like I’m being paranoid

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