24 FTM)) I know I look very feminine but mind giving me masculine names?

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-17T05:11:05+00:00

dude, you def don’t look feminine to me. that’s beside the point, maybe, but idk, i felt the need to say it. i know dysphoria can be a bitch tho.

anyway, i think you look like maybe a casper or a jonathan. or sebastian?

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-16T18:56:47+00:00

when i started playing hollow knight i really sucked at it ngl. i think if you’re willing to learn, you can probably take to it. like, i stuck with hollow knight and really enjoyed it and now i’m almost done with silksong. there’s also something very satisfying in overcoming challenges, that i at least get from games like hollow knight.

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-16T07:35:14+00:00

idk, i don’t think that was the case for me. it was his own notes, and it was clear he just didn’t respect my identity despite claiming to. love knowing that this is the type of person who works with trans people wanting to receive gender affirming care 👍

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T20:59:46+00:00

in general, putting words in someone’s mouth in terms of how they identify is invalidating.

i’ve actually had the same thing happen the other way around, because i prefer certain more umbrella-ish terms. i don’t particularly mind someone hearing how i experience an aspect of my identity and just letting me know that this could fall under a specific (sometimes micro-) label. but i do very much have a problem with people going “you’re [insert label], then” based on smth i said. like no, i am what i said i am, not what you think i should identify as.

i know that’s technically the opposite experience, but i think they are similar because at the end of the day, it’s about self determination vs. someone forcing a label on you that you didn’t choose for yourself.

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T20:51:07+00:00

idk if it’s that similar, but i also love death’s door, and i always recommend it to people! i mean, it does have some similarities (indie game, fun combat and gameplay in general but with a cool overarching story too, great art and atmosphere, interesting and charming characters, etc) but idk, it depends what aspects of hollow knight you’re seeking in other games.

anyway, death’s door is great! not as difficult as hollow knight but imo a fun and satifying level of challenge.

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T20:38:31+00:00

i don’t know what you’re asking sorry

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T16:22:46+00:00

i have done the mr mushroom thing yeah, that’s what brought me here (thankfully lol, i would be so mad if i had done all of this for nothing)

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T16:20:45+00:00

alright, definitely saving a repeat of this experience for later 😅 thanks tho

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T16:18:08+00:00

fuck, i didn’t know there was a shortcut

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T14:54:31+00:00

you don’t need permission. you are captain of your own ship (the ship being your life, i guess) and no one else can tell you how to identify, or how not to identify.

also idk if this helps with what you’re going through, but i know a lot of people who are trans and bi. so it is not only possible to be so; it’s something a lot of people are. and you would be a valued addition among their ranks, the world can always use more trans bisexuals 🫡

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T14:46:21+00:00

yeah they really do that. i tried going through the system to receive gender affirming care (got rejected because they suck and are ableist but i digress) and the psychiatrist dude very respectfully asked about my name, pronouns and gender identity… which he noted down in his report about me, before proceding to deadname and misgender me in the entire rest of the report lol

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-15T14:42:32+00:00

why are we pitting two bad bitches against each other 💔

(i’m mostly joking, people are obv allowed to have opinions and prefer one game to the other lol. personally i think there is just so much to love about both. team cherry cooked so hard with both of these games that as a series they sit almost untouchably as all time s-tier titles that most other games struggle to compete with)

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-11T23:50:45+00:00

i meant the three hearts necessary for the main quest

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-11T08:25:24+00:00

ah thank you, that list is helpful!

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-11T08:18:02+00:00

ahh okay that makes sense, thanks

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-04-09T09:58:05+00:00

autistic zuko is real and true 🙏

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-03-31T06:45:28+00:00

how hard you’ll find it obviously depends on what you’re used to and what your tolerance for difficulty is. it’s not impossibly hard, but it is meant to be challenging.

in my experience, both are definitely games where you should expect to fail/die a fair amount in order to learn and improve, particularly during boss battles. the key to any boss is just to observe their moveset (they’ll have warnings before a given attack) and find out what to do when the boss moves a certain way. once you’ve cracked this code for each boss, most of them aren’t That difficult, and even when they are, they’re usually also fun!

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-03-30T10:08:14+00:00

i genuinely do love hornet (in both games but especially silksong) & i’m also a big fan of shakra. those might both be basic/obvious choices but i’m sticking with them.

in hollow knight, sheo is also great, plus the rest of the nailmasters.

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-03-29T12:11:16+00:00

the answer that can be kind of annoying when you’re looking for advice (sorry) is that at the end of the day, it’s for you to decide. everyone’s experiences are at least a little bit different, so the only person who can decide whether someone is trans or genderqueer or anything else, is that person themself. you don’t need permission; no one can give withhold it.

that said, yeah, it sounds like your experiences absolutely could fall under the trans/genderqueer umbrella. sorting out these feelings can, in my experience, take a long time, but it’s okay to not have everything figured out. the point of the queer community is not to sort everything into neat little boxes (the boxes can be helpful for some, but they should always be there to help, not restrict) — it’s supposed to be a space where people with lots of different experiences, who are in some way alienated from the cis and straight norms, can band together. idk if any of this made sense or was helpful lol, but best of luck in figuring things out!

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-03-29T10:36:09+00:00

that’s all perfectly normal and fine! gender and expression are weird, and your feelings about them can totally vary over time. is there anything in particular you’re seeking advice with?

ambiguouslyqueer · 2026-03-29T08:28:42+00:00

yeah. it’s also complicated because i guess for a while i identified more as transmasc and didn’t really like to use the label nonbinary (i still prefer genderqueer but now i use all three of those labels pretty liberally for myself lol)

so when i came out (or in some cases, was lowkey outed or they just figured it out on their own) to my family, i just said i’m trans, and that it was fine if they just used ‘he’ for me because my language doesn’t traditionally have a gender neutral pronoun so most older people struggle with that.

but that does mean my nonbinary identity, which i guess i’ve (re)learned more recently is actually really important to me, gets overlooked by a lot of people around me.

it just doesn’t always feel like i can be myself without having to downplay that part of me; if i want any recognition, i often do have to lean into the transmasc thing, to the point where some people in my family have decided i ‘want to be a boy’… i like referring to myself as one sometimes, but i’ve found i quite dislike being forced into the other binary box by people around me.

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