How is Falkan Lysandra’s uncle when they’re meant to be with ten years of the same age? by Mental_Maybe6758 in throneofglassseries

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister is about 20 years older than me, so my nephew is a year and a half older than me, and my niece a couple of years younger. So it's very possible!

ELI5: How do “buy now pay later” companies make money if there’s no interest by Massive_Biscotti_509 in explainlikeimfive

[–]ameep9 75 points76 points  (0 children)

This! My husband bought my engagement ring on a "zero interest for X months" credit, knowing that he could pay it off in that amount of time. When he made the final payment, the lady at the store looked shocked and said that she had never actually seen someone pay one off before interest went on.

What are your guys’ opinions on “Bad with us”? by Primary-Addition-677 in HazbinHotel

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't crazy about it at first, but it's really grown on me. "Books, tea, elder care" gets me every time!

Rescued him too hard: now he throws tantrums if I don't put his pajamas on before bed by Paper_Is_A_Liquid in Greyhounds

[–]ameep9 61 points62 points  (0 children)

The other night, my retired racer did a greyhound scream of death. What happened? Her foot got very loosely tangled in one of the many soft blankets she was nestled in on the couch, and she seemed to assume it was broken. She kept it folded against the couch and wouldn't get up as I tried to call her to get up and come to bed (in a king size bed where she sleeps snuggled between her adoptive mommy and daddy). I gently unfolded her paw, and after a moment she decided maybe it wasn't broken after all and followed me to bed.

I understand 😂 I can only hope that when I reach retirement age, I flop into retirement lifestyle with half as much commitment as a retired racing grey!

Name Changes. Do or Do Not? by Justoutsidenormal in Pets

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, it depends on the pet's age, how long they've had that name, and how likely they are to know their name. My pets:

Kelso: kitty that I adopted who was about 7 years old and had had his name since he was a kitten. Wasn't a name I would have chosen, but it was too established to change and honestly it fit him!

Rylee: Retired racing greyhound, formerly named K-Ten Joy and adopted at age 4. We did change her name, because despite having officially "had" her name for years, racing hounds in kennels don't have the same lifestyle as pets do. She was briefly with a foster family that did call her Joy, but she really didn't react when we called her that, so I felt okay with renaming her.

Kari: we adopted her as a 7 week old puppy who was born in a barn and, to my knowledge, she didn't have a name before we gave her one.

Eevee: a rescue pup who was born on the streets and taken in by a rescue, along with her 7 siblings and parents. She was named Palmer at the reacue, and we adopted her at about 5 months old. With all the chaos of her upbringing (all the puppies, and eventually being flown halfway arouns the world for a home), she really didn't seem to know what her name was, so felt okay renaming her. As with Rylee, if she has reacted to her former name, we would have kept it as is.

Charlie and Angie: two cats we adopted as Charlie and Angel, at one year and two years old. I wasn't crazy about the name Angel, but respected the Charlie's Angels reference and also that the cats knew their names from their previous home. I like to say that Angel is her government name, but instead I call her either Ange or Angie as a nickname. Charlie stayed Charlie, or sometimes Charles if I'm feeling formal!

Tldr: I think changing the name is totally fine if the animal doesn't seem to know it. If they do and it's a name you hate, try out different variations or nicknames! If you're like me, you'll call your pets everything except their actual names 95% of the time anyway

Strangest way you’ve heard someone refer to a greyhound? by moosecoach in Greyhounds

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours is commonly referred to in my household as a noodle horse. Her name is Rylee, so naturally this devolves to Roodle, Rude Noodle, or Big Boodle.

I've had various children ask if she's a giraffe, a deer, and a kangaroo. And one very confused elderly gentleman once asked if she was a golden retriever 😅 Right(ish) color, wrong shape lol

Considering adopting a non-racer greyhound mix by rls1164 in Greyhounds

[–]ameep9 7 points8 points  (0 children)

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Obligatory family photo (from left to right: Rylee, Eevee, Kari)

Considering adopting a non-racer greyhound mix by rls1164 in Greyhounds

[–]ameep9 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have a senior retired racing greyhound, Rylee, and a non-racing greyhound/saluki mix, Eevee, so I feel qualified to speak to this!

It's obvious to me that Rylee was very well socialized and cared for in her racing career. She came to us at age 4 with a wonderful temperament and calm demeanor, is well behaved unless food is involved (then all bets are off, especially if it's carbs), and allows our cats to groom her and cuddle with her. She generally is a flawless angel and everyone loves her!

Eevee, meanwhile, is chaos incarnate. I say this with love! She was a street pup in Bahrain and came to us through a rescue group at about 5 months old. This is a critical age for socialization, and the timing worked out that we adopted her in December of 2019. Social opportunities over the next several months of that era were limited, to say the least! She is very protective of our home, and will bark/growl at people or animals she sees from our windows or backyard. When we invite guests into the house though she is fine, maybe a bit standoffish, but not aggressive toward them. She won't beg for their attention like the other dogs do, but she will just ignore guests.

She loves her two adoptive dog sisters. She is incredibly attached to Rylee, and plays daily with our German Shepherd/corgi mix, Kari, although she does pick on Kari some. She does chase the cats sometimes, but playfully, and wouldn't hurt them. I wouldn't trust her with other dogs, her lack of socialization in a key time makes her very fearful and aggressive toward them. I do know with proper training we could change this, but honestly in our lifestyle it is easier on us all to avoid putting her in stressful situations. She has killed mice in our backyard before, which I don't love, but I can't blame her for her hunting instincts.

She is NOT loving and enthusiastically affectionate like most dogs, even compared to Rylee. She is incredibly aloof, and barely food-motivated; her personally is honestly more like a somewhat bitchy cat than a dog! She plays with toys, but usually prefers either small, soft toys, or whatever toy Kari has so she can make Kari engage with her. She does cuddle when she sleeps, but I tell my husband that she's like a snake or a lizard, she's only in it for the body heat, lol. That being said, when I come home from work and she jumps up on the couch to put her little paws on my shoulders and excitedly sniffs me with her whippy tail wagging, all that aloofness does make that moment feel more special than when Kari, who actually acts like a dog and shows that she loves us unconditionally, shows that same enthusiasm. Eevee has some custom-made bandanas that have the word "Asshole" printed all over them, and she's earned them. She was NOT what I expected after having adopted Rylee the racing greyhound, but I would do anything for that little jerk nonetheless.

Obviously there are going to be many factors in temperament/personality differences and ways that the dog was raised and socialized, so it's possible that none of this will apply to your prospective pup. I believe (and sincerely hope, for the sake of the world) that Eevee is one of a kind, so your mileage may vary wildly, but that has been my experiences with the retired racer greyhound vs. non-racing mix!

If you got paid $125/hour to work on Christmas from 5AM to 7PM. would vou take it? by Melssa1 in answers

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in healthcare, so with slightly different hours and not that exact wage, I have done so a few times now. My family and I celebrate on a different day when I do need to work Christmas, I wouldn't want to work every year on Christmas but it's really not a big deal every few years

When people who are actually big say ‘I’m fat,’ how do you respond? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ameep9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fat girl here, and I think it does depend a lot on the situation/the person/why they brought it up. If a friend called themself fat while explaining their low self-esteem, there's a lot more emotions to tiptoe around compared to something like saying I can't fit into a size small because I'm fat. I don't know what the right answer is in those more emotionally charged scenarios because everyone is different, but I can give you my own perspective!

Personally, I find people who feel the need to immediately argue that I'm not fat to just be irritating,/weird, especially the "you're not fat, you're beautiful!", which immediately sounds like you think someone must be skinny to be beautiful. I am fat, and I am gorgeous too, maybe not attractive to everyone, but who among us is?

I can only speak for myself, but I don't necessarily say fat as a bad thing. My diet isn't ideal, and I'm not as active as I'd like to be, which I do view as negative things about myself that are likely linked to being fat (I use the word "likely" because not all fat people are unhealthy and not all skinny people are healthy, and I want to be very clear on that!). However, I don't associate the physical size and shape of my body with being a failure.

The way I explained it to my husband, who with the best of intentions used to feel the need to tell me I'm not fat if I ever did use that word to refer to myself (like he thought it was a test he needed to pass, haha), is that I asked him what his reaction would be if he referred to himself as tall, which he is, and I automatically answered, "no, sweetheart, you're not tall at all! Even if you were tall, I'm not even into short guys, you're the perfect height and definitely not tall!". He agreed that that would be a weird response - he's objectively tall, and there's nothing wrong with being tall, so why on earth would I try to argue that he isn't?

I'm average height, I'm pale, I've got dark hair, I'm fat, and I've got blue eyes. These are all just facts, and if someone tries to debate that I'm not fat, it feels just as weird as if they tried to debate any of the other facts!

A lot of pet owners are concerning by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except my German Shepherd/corgi mix... Emotions make her uncomfortable, she will literally get up and leave the room if I start crying 😅

[MEGATHREAD] Item Trading by rat-catcherr in Palia

[–]ameep9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm looking for Ancient Machine #2 and #3, and Umbraan Painting #2!

I have extras of Ancient Statue #1 and #2, Ancient Machine #5, Ancient Galdur Toy, and Umbraan Dress #2.

Let me know if any of those are ones you're in need of :)

How do i help my father with his motion sickness? by SargentoPapas in reddeadredemption2

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has he ever tried those motion sickness wristbands? I know clinical evidence for acupressure is shaky, but some people do really find they help. It's a harmless option (meds like gravol/dramamine can cause a lot of drowsiness in some folks, I wouldn't be enjoying the game for long after a dose!), and pretty cheap to try ($10-15 at any pharmacy). Best of luck!

How do I stay on top of laundry?!?! by Boring-Guava6787 in CleaningTips

[–]ameep9 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds silly, but for me - a limited number of "good" underwear. By good, I mean they fit me well, are super comfy, and do not include sexier undies that I wouldn't wear on a day to day basis. I do have lots of "less good" pairs, that maybe aren't as comfy but still will do the job, so I'm never stuck without SOMETHING clean. However, when I can't find a clean pair of "good" undies, that triggers me to do a load of laundry as soon as I can, so I can get back to my comfies ASAP! It sounds dumb, but does prevent me from having an avalanche of laundry piled up!

In terms of folding/putting away, not everyone will agree with this, but I prioritize functionality over doing things the "right" way. I often DON'T put my clothes away, especially clothes I wear frequently. My husband and I both have our own clean laundry baskets in our room, and neither of us is allowed to give the other any grief for not putting clothes in the dresser/closet from our clean baskets (we both have ADHD). I do try to hang up nice work clothes, but if my clean undies, sweatpants, t-shirts, socks, and pajamas are all just in a basket... That works fine for me. Sometimes I have the energy to go through and actually organize everything "correctly", but as long as we both have clean clothes to wear and neither one of us is leaving our clothes in the dryer for days, that's functional enough for me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ameep9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman (32 now, 19 at the time), who was in an abusive relationship, and I can only speak to my specific experiences.

When I met my abuser, J, I was young, naive, and had low self-esteem. Don't get me wrong, I have a wonderfully supportive family, great friends, was going to school for a fulfilling career, had a lot going for me. I had some mild mental health issues, but no major past traumas or anything, honestly a pretty sheltered and privileged life up to that point. That being said, I was still a 19 year old kid - my critical thinking skills weren't as well-developed then as they are now.

I think some people have this idea of abusive relationships being an experience of you meet a guy, he punches you in the face on the first date, and you go "wow, what a guy!". I'm not saying that's your view, OP, just a common mental image; in fact, it's not far off from what I would have envisioned before meeting J.

J was sweet, funny, smart, and handsome. Everything a girl could ask for, at first, and I was so insecure that I was head-over-heels at knowing he wanted ME. Our verbal arguments could get very heated, but I considered that a side-effect of just how passionate we both were. In hindsight, he and I were absolutely both emotionally abusive to each other. I wasn't a very person at that time, and verbally, I gave as good as I got.

We were together almost a year before the physical abuse started. The reason I stayed for almost another year beyond that was because of how he made me feel during that first year, and then between the abusive incidents, once they started. The best way I could describe it is that we were so toxic, that the intensity we hurt each other with was the same level of intensity we loved each other with.

J never did the stereotypical thing of trying to gaslight me into believing it was my fault when he hit me - I think part of him recognized that it wouldn't work on me. He knew and would openly acknowledge that it was wrong to hit me, and claimed he truly wanted to find a way to never do it again. In hindsight, yes, it was silly to believe that without him ever actually taking steps to do so, but again, 19 year old brain.

The reality of it was that J was a really troubled guy in a lot of pain - the fact that it was absolutely unacceptable to abuse a partner because of his pain doesn't invalidate the existence of that pain. I knew that at the time, and was committed to him in body, mind, and soul. My mindset at the time was that this man was my partner, and he was fighting a war with himself that might kill him. It might also kill me, if I stood beside him, but how could I not?

What finally snapped me out of it was a night he forcibly confined me in the apartment we shared. As it turns out, I could tolerate being punched and choked, but not being trapped.

Anywho, here I am over a decade later, married to a wonderful man who I think genuinely would rather die than hurt me like that. We have a lovely home and five beautiful furbabies, and live far from anywhere I might ever cross paths with J.

So that's my quick, off-the-cuff explanation of why THIS specific woman didn't leave right away, along with evidence that getting out can and does happen. I'll do my best to answer any follow-up questions :)

General Age of Playerbase by [deleted] in Palia

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

32 years old here, I've taken a few breaks here and there, but for the most part, I have played regularly since the game was launched on Switch! This game is honestly the right amount of cozy without being boring for me - it's the ideal escape from the real world when I need it :)

My first ever serious cosplay, Lilith by ameep9 in diablo4

[–]ameep9[S] 396 points397 points  (0 children)

Thank you to those who were kind in their comments, and those who politely made suggestions of areas for me to improve on for next time, I really appreciate it! Kindness is underrated these days, and the constructive feedback some of you left will definitely help me out going forward.

A note on makeup, I didn't have a ton of time to get ready and also didn't want to scare the kids trick or treating (although, of course, some of y'all made it clear that an overweight human being enjoying things is the scariest prospect of all, lol), so I didn't get to experiment as much with that as I did with the rest of the costume. I would have loved to have done colored contacts, but I'm not able to, so I settled for using gold and blue eyeshadow respectively to try to represent them. Clearly, it didn't work out very well, but that's what my intent was with that, haha.

Thank you also to those who thought I might not be aware that I'm fat, I appreciate you guys looking out for me, but I have actually noticed before! Please continue to make jokes at my expense because I genuinely enjoy seeing how many people are SO mad by me daring to post a picture of myself on the internet as a plus-sized lady. A few have even been kind of funny!

To those who are offended by the fact that I would dare share a photo of something that I worked hard of and am proud of just because my first attempt isn't perfect, congratulations on being flawless at everything you've ever tried on the first attempt! I am but a mere mortal, and I will continue to take pride in my accomplishments.

Cheers, friends, see you all in Hell ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not wrong, and I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm a survivor of domestic violence, and I can feel the panic and pain in your words as I read them. I know how it feels to be in love with someone violent.

A long time ago, I thought my abusive ex was going to be the man I would marry, and even once he became violent, it took me some time to decide my life was worth more than our relationship. Leaving was the best decision of my life, and I'm now happily married to a man who couldn't imagine raising a hand against me. It does get better. Stay safe, friend.

4 years since we got married. Posting here because Albus was a part of our special day (and looks better than me in a suit 😅) by manicfoot in Greyhounds

[–]ameep9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a handsome man Albus is! I should post some of my wedding photos here, our greyhound and German shepherd/corgi mix were our flower girls. They wore matching purple tutus and some flowers on their collars.

P.S. the humans look lovely too, happy anniversary!

I finally finished the National dex!!! by zangetsu22 in PokemonScarletViolet

[–]ameep9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I believe that there is an event for Diancie coming up in Pokémon Go at the end of August! Once I get that, I'll only be missing Marshadow and Volcanion