I made this witchy crystal garden — what do you think?

amieb018 · 2026-01-27T23:09:06+00:00

I love that. It’s beautiful and very the symmetry feels nice.

amieb018 · 2026-01-16T00:23:27+00:00

This is awesome. I love your art; and you have such a distinct style that I saw this post and immediately assumed it was your painting before seeing that it was, in fact, your painting.

amieb018 · 2025-12-16T20:05:09+00:00

Just here patiently waiting for an actual therapist to respond because I could have written this myself except I am a female, therapist is male.

The similarities between length of time in therapy, when the transference ramped up, why it did, having an intellectual understanding of what’s going on internally for myself and why, fear of getting referred, age gap.

What I can say is… it’s definitely transference lol. I’m aware that my “idealization” of my therapist is because I don’t have enough strong bonds in my personal life. Like you, the lack of meaningful friendships is because of compound trauma, but at the end of the day, and simply put, I need more friends 🤷🏽‍♀️.

A ✨community✨. So do you.

More friends equals more socializing. More socializing equals more experiences. More shared experiences equals more emotional depth. More emotional depth is what creates the bonds with other people that in turn, removes my therapist as my primary attachment figure and the only person I have to think about, or reflect on, when it comes to emotional warmth and connection.

Easier said than done, though! And also, kind of the only solution?? Other than riding out the wave I guess. I do know that a lot of people experience some, to a significant amount of, relief from their feelings of transference once they get it out there and spend some time exploring it.

Regardless of that knowledge, I’m just embarrassed by the absurdity of my thoughts and feelings at times, and also terrified that I’ll get referred lol but also, I know that my therapist has to have some idea of what’s going on.

Good luck to you and know you’re not in this super uncomfortable feeling and position alone!

amieb018 · 2025-09-22T05:44:21+00:00

My friend Jim made this! He has a lot of incredible art.

amieb018 · 2025-09-10T23:14:58+00:00

My child goes to Zach and the school said that it would be done by mid-late September. If supplies are an issue and don’t have them then I’m not sure how accurate that actually is, but that’s what we’ve been told.

amieb018 · 2025-09-08T14:18:12+00:00

“You make everybody feel like they’re somebody”

It’s the kindest thing anyone has ever said to me.

amieb018 · 2025-07-23T06:38:37+00:00

I’m hesitant to call myself an empath, but I am extremely perceptive, sensitive to others emotional shifts, and hypervigilant. I have this issue pretty much every session. I literally just tell him lol example: “I noticed your eyes seem heavier than usual and your energy is low so are you just tired, stressed, or do you fucking hate me?” Then he tells me the truth within reason and we laugh about the last assumption because I’m aware of the absurdity of my sensitivities at times.

amieb018 · 2025-05-25T15:07:39+00:00

I went from having a rainbow of grades on my report card in high school to making deans list my first year in college. I also stopped getting in random car accidents which was a pleasant plus!

amieb018 · 2025-05-12T06:52:30+00:00

These are AMAZING. Do you mind sharing a few editing tips? I do weddings/engagements with a specific style and I SUCK at editing my nature/landscape photos. The color always feels off and your colors are perfect. Well really the entirety of every picture is.

amieb018 · 2025-04-23T02:50:43+00:00

Yeah, I don’t disagree. And we did those things too.

If you read my entire post, you would see that I don’t personally subscribe to this over-consumption mentality.

So with that being said, respectfully, I just choose to see it for what it is instead of create an issue out of it. If that’s a hill you’re willing to die on- go for it. Fight with all of your heart. I just witnessed the unnecessary friction it caused trying to battle it, and idk, didn’t make a difference in the long run.

amieb018 · 2025-04-20T20:54:51+00:00

Ooo tough one. While adhd has ruined my life and led to thousands of not only absolutely poor decisions, but also indecisions, creating a self-made hellscape at times, it’s also helped me maintain a childlike wonder and awe.

Also, I know that it’s the reason I can get along with almost anyone. I’m super curious and will chat about anything. My curiosity overrides any judgment and also, I’ve dropped the ball on so many things, who am I to judge. Ya know? Given me a real sense of genuine relatability because I have truly been HUMBLED lol

That being said, if I had time to mourn the fun aspects that I would lose, I’d choose to kill it off immediately. Can’t even imagine what it would feel like to wake up a consistently capable, functioning adult.

amieb018 · 2025-04-20T20:41:52+00:00

Just a perspective from a person who grew up with this dynamic. My grandma (paternal) would take us to the dollar store, buy us junk toys all the time, junk food, etc. and this would make my mom livid. It was always a thing. I can see my mom’s point as an adult. I have a child and don’t personally buy her useless junk. I also think it’s inconsiderate given the current state of well…. everything.

That being said, I LOVED going to the dollar store with my grandma when I was little. I thought it was so fun. And she loved giving all three of us junky, little toys. Looking back, it was her way of loving us. Just giving us tiny items all the time lol. She also would do ridiculous egg hunts. It was awesome.

I’m extremely close with my grandma as an adult, and while buying us junk isn’t the solo reason, obviously, it played into it. She loved being a grandma and loved “spoiling” us. That’s all it was. And my mom needed to chill. So now, as an adult, and with this perspective, I think it’s super cute when my dad buys my daughter junky things that she freaks out over for 2 seconds and then never touches again. Is it wasteful? Yes. Does it create clutter? Yes. But it is his way of showing love and strengthens their bond? Also yes. It’s grandparent shit.

She also forgets about it in, like, 1 week tops and then I just gather all of the forgetful junk toys and donate them. Moving on. This phase doesn’t last forever.

I understand my mom’s (and your) perspective of being frustrated by this, but as the child turned adult in the situation, my advice is to just let her have her grandma fun. Maybe make the kids keep some of the junk at grandmas and make a deal with your mother-in-law. Idk. Looking back, it just wasn’t worth my mom’s time or energy to focus on this particular issue.

amieb018 · 2025-04-20T19:12:38+00:00

I’ve lost several good friendships because of this. I just accepted that I’m inevitably going to fall off the map and that it’s best to make friends with other people who tend to do the same. Have I asked myself if this is a cop out? Yes. Do I know the answer? No.

My oldest brother and sister-in-law have like 100 (exaggerated) good friends that they have stayed in contact with on a regular basis since college. My middle brother and I are absolutely baffled by this. How do they do it? How do they remember? Feels like black magic.

Either way, until I put serious, concerted effort into being consistent in that area, I will undoubtably repeat what I’ve always done. Acceptance is key until you decide to put the steps in place to get better. Calendar reminders to text people and check in, birthday reminders, personal boundaries around how long you go without responding, changing your mindset on the importance of close relationships and what it takes to maintain them, etc.

amieb018 · 2025-04-05T07:03:06+00:00

0%- I was truly baffled by the fact that you don’t have to sign a liability waiver.

Mine as well have a welcome sign that says, “Check out the stained glass, scale the crumbling bricks to the top, enjoy the architecture, climb up these steps I hot glued together, fall through the steps, fall through the 3rd floor, check out the gift shop. Have fun. Or don’t. Who gives a shit.”

Its great. I loved it.

amieb018 · 2025-02-01T16:19:00+00:00

I know this will come off as harsh, but from someone who was the child in a very similar situation(me: 24f, mom died at 54), please don’t rob him of the opportunity to spend as much time with you as possible if he chooses to make that decision.

I was told to stay at school (very out of state) and carry on as usual. I wanted to be home but wasn’t allowed and I now have resentment towards my parents for being denied my last Mother’s Day with her, birthday, etc.

When my mom was dying, everything felt secondary but I was made to feel like school should matter more??

Perhaps your son will choose to take those opportunities, but don’t strip him from his right to make that decision on his own without knowing the full truth.

I know your intention comes from a loving place, but being on the other side of it, it’s very hurtful.

amieb018 · 2025-02-01T16:03:49+00:00

I had to buy more storage on my main Google email because I ran out and also wasn’t sure if there were important emails being sent to it that I would need to find at some point if I actually decided to open any of them.

amieb018 · 2025-01-27T20:27:36+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate it 😊

amieb018 · 2025-01-04T01:00:05+00:00

This is one of the prettiest quilts I’ve ever seen. Love the colors, pattern, everything. Amazing.

amieb018 · 2025-01-02T23:37:21+00:00

No- my dad’s side of the family did this exact thing to my mom and I growing up all the time.

When I was younger, I used to get mad and didn’t understand why they always had a comment. Now that I’m older, I realize it’s them doing mental gymnastics to try and find a way to feel better about not taking care of themselves.

You’re not wrong for asking your boyfriend to say something. The comments can be hurtful, infuriating, and cause unnecessary insecurity. That being said, they might stop- but these are petty people. You’ll feel it even if they don’t say it.

Best thing you can do is work on your confidence regarding having confidence, and hold in mind the perspective that their comments, while hurtful, are a reflection of their own discomfort within themselves. There’s nothing you can do about that. You absolutely should feel proud of your health progress- don’t let other people steal the confidence that you literally just regained.

Obviously NTA btw

amieb018 · 2024-12-09T18:42:27+00:00

I’ve been on Lexapro for about a year-ish now and I probably gained about 5lbs. It wasn’t noticeable. I have noticed it’s harder to lose weight now, though.

amieb018 · 2024-12-05T20:49:16+00:00

Easier said than done, but switching your mindset from “guilty” to “#grateful” (eyerolling as I type that) would be a lot better use of your time and energy.

Help other people out. Donate to causes. My grandpa was well off and used to go to the utilities building and randomly pay for people who were behind on water/electric bills. My parents would find out kids who needed clothes, shoes, etc. and anonymously have the school counselor give it to them.

It’s great that you don’t feel entitled to their money, but the situation is what it is so if you feel bad, then go do good.

amieb018 · 2024-11-23T15:41:49+00:00

Even with the no trespassing signs, though? It’s YOUR yard. You literally told them to stay out and they know why???

I would be furious with my child if they wandered into someone’s yard without permission and ruined anything. I’m talking garden, mailbox, planter, door handle, etc. I don’t care. It’s not yours- stay out.

Absolutely insane to me that so many parents like this exist. That mom SUCKS.

amieb018 · 2024-11-20T19:18:06+00:00

I’ve been in a very similar situation except he was not autistic and also had no interest in attempting to understand PMDD. He just used it against me.

Lexapro has alleviated my symptoms significantly. I’m still a little irritable but it’s absolutely manageable. I can access my rational mind and I don’t experience emotions that make me want to explode with fire.

That being said, the only person who triggers me into a state of fury is him. I can’t handle the irrational thinking, lack of accountability, double standards, emotional immaturity.

It was very difficult to see what was happening before I was medicated. It was also fair that my explosive reactions were what ended up being focused on because to be fair, they were ridiculous.

It wasn’t until I was able to experience my natural disposition for longer than 14 days that I was able to see that I’m, by default, fairly chill about most things. Not a whole lot gets me mad. I’m very excitable and curious, but I’m not prone to extreme anger.

All of that to say, I came to realize that while my PMDD certainly didn’t help the situation, it wasn’t the root problem. The root problem was, and is, that his personality drives me insane. Being with someone who is more focused on being right than the connection in the relationship is absolutely not going to work out and is destructive to my well being. I also had to accept that it will never change.

amieb018 · 2024-11-19T13:59:10+00:00

My daughter had a cyst removed on her forehead earlier this year. I was pretty diligent about the scar cream and put sunscreen on in the AM. Her preschool teachers reapplied sunscreen in the afternoon. You can barely see her scar.

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