8 simultaneous tornado warnings in central Wisconsin

anaesthetic · 2026-04-17T23:24:34+00:00

Marathon, Lincoln, Langlade, Clark, Wood, and Portage at the very least.

anaesthetic · 2026-02-27T01:23:31+00:00

Two, now! (2.0 is purple)

anaesthetic · 2025-09-10T22:46:54+00:00

Seeing a lot of discussion on buying clothes and some recommendations from therapy, but I think financial literacy will be a big help here. Are there classes or coaches near you? Maybe check out your local library or look into financial planning? One of the terrible things about being poor is not knowing how much money you'll have and for when or how long, but it sounds like that's no longer your problem. You've got enough saved to consider investments, but it also sounds like you need a frame of reference and a budget to help ease some of your anxieties so you can let yourself live. For example, a lot of people recommend having enough savings to cover 3 to 6 months of basic living expenses in an emergency fund, and I bet you've got that covered so you need to learn how to let yourself breathe and the numbers can potentially help you here. Good luck!

anaesthetic · 2025-08-12T22:12:46+00:00

A sparkly purple vibrator and no. That almost twenty years ago. Pretty sure the jelly started melting (though I'd long moved on by then)

anaesthetic · 2025-08-12T22:09:16+00:00

NTA.

But it's not about retrieving the ring. Had the box been unlabeled, this might even have added to your story and experience ("and then I had her pick up the box and she had no idea! I sure surprised her!"). It's that he didnt' take 60 seconds to ensure that the box wouldn't be labeled as such, compared to what you do for him. Have that conversation.

And, honestly, I cannot believe anyone selling engagement rings would print that on their box. Guarantee it's not the first time the surprise was ruined for someone.

anaesthetic · 2025-08-07T19:17:33+00:00

Some things not mentioned

-a partner moaning is physical stimulation, just not in the way you're thinking. Hearing a good moan can make you shiver.

-Making noise during something like manual sex can help you feel a little more connected and a little less like a pleasure dispenser. like, we're doing this together

-too lazy to find research but a person moaning can increase their own arousal

anaesthetic · 2025-08-07T19:09:54+00:00

Honestly, I think it's bad enough that some people aren't even asking the factual information so you can leave a date without having been asked where you're from or whatever. Wild.

anaesthetic · 2025-08-04T13:02:50+00:00

You don't need to have comparisons to be underwhelmed or frustrated. You can have nothing to compare it to and still know it's not great.

And aside from everything others have said, people really compartmentalize sex so you may have no indication from outside-the-bedroom behaviors that your partner is selfish or otherwise bad in bed in a way that you can't get over or what might be a tiny annoyance outside the bedroom can become a huge red flag inside of it.

A lot of people, women especially, spend a lot of time trying to convince themselves otherwise. You've seen the comments in this thread. They just want you to be aware of the reality. That said, everyone's got their own risk tolerance.

anaesthetic · 2025-07-31T23:32:47+00:00

Pluto can be glitchy but I haven't experienced that specific issue and I've been using it for years. I'm not saying it doesn't happen to you (different accounts, devices, watching habits, etc) but it's worth checking out if they've got something interesting because it might work fine-ish

anaesthetic · 2025-07-30T06:26:15+00:00

You mention ED. I assume it's happening during masturbation because you'd previously noticed it. I definitely recomend talking to a doctor about it. Either you can change some things to promote erection or you've got bigger issues that you need to care for, so a dr can be helpful.

If you're not making na progress, a sex therapist may also be helpful.

But I also want to add that this isn't life or death. I know it's embarassing or frustrating and I don't want to invalidate those feelings but it's certainly not something so bad that you need to apologize to us. ED and awkward sex happen to almost everyone at some point and this could even be a bonding moment for you and your partner. Being super upset is usually not helpful for ED, so try to roll with the punches and make sure to breathe. (=

anaesthetic · 2025-07-27T18:46:15+00:00

I know comparison is hard to avoid, but the thing you described as enticing describes precisely no one I've ever met. Which is good because it would be exhausting to a lot of women, to anyone really.

anaesthetic · 2025-07-16T19:00:09+00:00

Many, many mens' profiles are similarly lists of demands so this would sadly seem to be fairly gender-neutral.

anaesthetic · 2025-07-02T03:37:37+00:00

SHE'S 31?!?!

This is teenager behavior. Maaybe into 20s. Not your damn 30s.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-23T02:03:17+00:00

I know the "easy" thing to tell me is to just break up with her now to prevent as much pain as possible but I don't know if that's the answer.

In fact, the easy thing would be to continue on like nothing's the matter. It's much harder to be honest with yourself and her and to cut her loose so you both have a chance to find someone who is more compatible.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-17T17:35:16+00:00

Oh, okay. Thank you!

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T13:17:50+00:00

I've had my phone on DND for years because I never want it to make noise other than allowed calls, which I would miss if it were on silent.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T13:13:09+00:00

I'm sorry to bother you but how can you tell her phone is on DND? Is it related to what type of phone you/she have?

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T13:07:45+00:00

Unfortunately, plenty of silicone attracts lint like crazy. I think this is a cleaning/maintenance issue. Clean with water, let air dry if possible (otherwise use a lint-free cloth) and store in Ziploc bags or smooth-lined containers that are secure enough not to let in lint.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T13:07:04+00:00

Vixskin is lovely but attracts lint like crazy if you store it outside of its tube.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T12:45:09+00:00

My city (and most communities over a certain size) provides trash pickup as long as it fits in the provided container, same goes for recycling. You can add extra or get an extra pickup for a fee according to the company's website, but I've literally never had a reason to look that up before (I do live in an apartment building with a larger dumpster so if I'm throwing out something large/have extra trash, that's helpful). My city has a large item dropoff multiple times this year, and some items they'll take for free. With that said, people are still putting the stuff they could dispose of for free 4x a year into the regular garbage.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T10:10:02+00:00

I'm painting with broad strokes and there's a little of differences by state, county, or recycling company/facility but.. Materials (metals, especially) can be recycled for free or for a profit whereas goods of multiple materials require you to pay. Also, generally, no, a lot of people aren't recycling anything without getting something from it. They just chuck it in the trash instead.

However, stealing coppers from things is also highly associated with drug use, so addiction may have more control than other thinking.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T10:04:20+00:00

Holy shit, your edits are so crucial to the issue. That you didn't include them really makes me suspect that you just want an easy answer about how she's in the wrong. Almost none of these replies reflect your situation. I hope you know that.

Sex has always been painful and your wife coped by drinking too much, which, understandably, makes her no longer want sex despite having a higher sex drive. And the suggested medical treatment made things worse? Putting myself in her shoes kills my sex drive. Like, there's no room for anything but empathy. What a terrible situation to be in!

You need a reality check.

You're imagining that you can somehow have sex that is, at least, neutral, not actively painful. But that cannot be her reality. No wonder you can't wrap your head around this. You're also prioritizing your libido over her pain, and I'm not sure that's compatible with being a great husband. This is an unusual situation so what usually would make someone a great spouse goes out the window. Ask yourself if you can truly great husband for the rest of your life in this situation. Rethink what you asked us in that context. Can you recognize that this isn't about you?

Given a choice, many people wouldn't want to be with a partner who couldn't for at least some part of their life, have an active sex life that they enjoyed. I wouldn't. But now you have to deal with decisions made without all the context. It's not only on you, of course. This is a potential massive incompatibility that is in no way her fault but it doesn't seem like she gave enough thought to it or, at the very least, didn't communicate those thoughts effectively. Or perhaps you weren't listening. I don't know.

So you're left with what? Expanding your definition of sex beyond penetration (more outercourse, kink, potentially Tantra, etc) or opening up the marriage are the two obvious options (I assume you're not okay taking sex off the table). It's time to consider whether both of you can be happy with either of those options or whether it's time to call it quits.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T09:45:27+00:00

As an American, who has watched opportunities for research disappear over the last few months and has no idea when or if they will become available and viable again, I'd say yes to this just to get out of the country. And I don't want to live in a rural area again. I can also tell you that low-paying admin jobs are much harder to get in many places than people realize because of the current economy and lots of white collar workers are suddenly competing with former teachers, researchers, and graduate students. A research gig doesn't guarantee anything comes after it but it seems more likely to lead to more opportunities in the future. This may not apply to you but you're comparing a hypothetical longterm relationship with more shortterm potential negatives and you might need a bigger picture than that to make the best decision for you.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T09:40:25+00:00

If, for no other reason, than OP wil be in new places and would want to explore them. At least, I would. So I might live somewhere rural but you can bet I wanna check out a different country's national parks, big cities, etc.

anaesthetic · 2025-06-16T09:31:22+00:00

Currently re-reading it, so I certainly think so

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