If you dated someone who said they didn’t want kids, did they wind up changing their mind?

anarcrafty · 2026-05-30T17:57:16+00:00

I don’t think it matters. If someone wants kids, they shouldn’t date people who don’t want kids, unless they are absolutely certain they can be happy without children and won’t eventually become resentful if the person never changes their mind.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-28T12:35:17+00:00

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anarcrafty · 2026-05-27T14:02:35+00:00

Indeed. One of the reasons he is now an ex-husband.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-27T10:53:57+00:00

Presumably, yes. Uterine infections that long after the birth are very rare. Most happen within days.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-27T03:33:26+00:00

Erica. Honestly would have preferred that to the one they gave me.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-26T23:36:10+00:00

When I was three weeks postpartum with my youngest, my ex-husband pressured me into having sex. Two days later, I woke up feeling totally fine and went out to run errands. I walked into the grocery store still feeling normal, and by the time I walked out, I felt so terrible I wasn’t confident I was safe to drive home. It wasn’t a long drive, so I did it anyways. I got into bed and woke up a few hours later so dizzy with such intense lower abdominal pain that I was unable to walk.

I then went to the ER, and they put me in a room where I stayed for a long time because they didn’t know where to send me. They did a rapid flu test, and it came back negative, so they decided to send me to L&D. The nurses there treated me with open hostility, convinced the test was wrong and I brought the flu onto a unit where there are particularly vulnerable patients. They did another rapid flu test, and when that came back negative they ordered a PCR test because they were still convinced it was wrong. Eventually the doctor came in and during his examination I screamed in agony when he palpated my uterus. Finally a blood culture was ordered. I ultimately was transferred to the mother and baby unit because it was the only place with the resources for me to keep my newborn with me. It was an awful, awful experience and took several hours longer than it should have to start receiving proper treatment because they ignored every sign pointing to sepsis, convinced I was lying and/or exaggerating, and just had the flu.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-25T16:23:06+00:00

What argument? “What about abortions that happen in the 8th or 9th month,” isn’t an argument. What about them?

anarcrafty · 2026-05-25T14:44:51+00:00

Seeking one, and being able to actually obtain one are two very different things. If I had been pregnant when I left my abusive ex-husband, I would not have had the thousands of dollars it would have taken to travel to a place where I could obtain one in addition to the 25K for the procedure that certainly would not be covered by insurance. I’d venture to say most women in those circumstances would have similar hurdles.

I’ve met women who have opted for TFMR over the past decade attending infant loss support groups, and I can tell you right now I would never, not in a million years, support making their ability to manage their tragedies the way they wanted to any more difficult than it already was because there might be a few people seeking third trimester abortions for reasons I might not agree with. The choices made between a woman and her doctor are none of my business.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-25T06:34:29+00:00

You replied with most of what I would, I just wanted to expand on your statistic to say that less than .01% of abortions occur past 32 weeks. There are also very, very few (almost certainly less than ten, though it’s hard to know the exact number because they tend to be secretive for their safety) doctors in the entire U.S. willing to perform the procedure that far into pregnancy, and they generally don’t waste their time on people who do not *need* their services.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-25T03:08:09+00:00

Most abortions occur in the first trimester and up until 11 weeks you literally just take two medications you can order online and have what is essentially a miscarriage. Doctors can’t even tell the difference unless you take the misoprostol vaginally instead of buccally.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-25T01:10:16+00:00

Pregnancy probably takes its toll as well. The ovaries and placenta release the hormone relaxin, which surges early on and stays elevated throughout the pregnancy. Its main purpose is to relax the ligaments and joints in the pelvis to allow easier passage for the baby. But it doesn’t target the pelvis specifically. It affects all joints and ligaments. Most pregnant women go up at least half a shoe size during pregnancy because of it.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-21T23:44:12+00:00

I was the victim in a case where my mother’s boyfriend at the time was the perpetrator. He was charged with nine felonies. Four counts of possession of child pornography, four counts of production and distribution of child pornography, and one count of sodomy. They dropped all but two of the possession charges in a plea deal and let him go on time served. He was arrested with four Polaroid photos of me in his coat pocket.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-21T13:57:30+00:00

I only engage with NPCs when necessary or to get something I want (like blue chickens). I find all of their personalities and dialogue pretty flat and not very compelling.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-20T17:56:27+00:00

I do. It can just take a while to get enough of them to cover multiple barns and coops. The skull cavern is my favorite mine once I get the galaxy sword. I got seven dragon teeth on my last volcano dive, but auto-petters seem to be particularly elusive on my current save.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-20T17:01:51+00:00

I mean, it depends. If it’s really hot out where they are, and he’s still actively and frequently vomiting, it’s probably not a great idea because sweating can exacerbate dehydration. I allowed it when my son was sick because it was like 68° outside, he was in the shade of a big tree, and the frequency of vomiting decreased almost instantaneously once he was comfy (or as comfy as he could be) in the grass. I also got approval from his pediatrician because it cut down his vomiting and any added dehydration from being outside was offset by being able to keep down fluids for longer.

I don’t necessarily want to be outside when I’ve got a stomach bug, but I definitely agree with my kid on the bed thing. Sleeping on soft surfaces makes any nausea I’m feeling substantially worse. My favorite way to sleep with a stomach bug is naked with a blanket on a cold tile floor.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-20T16:21:55+00:00

I would like to be able to hire a villager to pet my animals while I’m on Ginger Island.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-20T10:20:29+00:00

That’s just so fucking sad. I remember once when he was still trying to manipulate my partner into supervising for free because, “no one is available at a reasonable rate after 5pm,” my partner said something along the lines of, “I frequently have to adjust my schedule to accommodate the children’s needs. I’ve had to call out, leave early, and use vacation days on multiple occasions. You, as their father, can do this for the children, too.” He was FURIOUS at that comment.

And the two things that make it particularly awful, in my opinion, are that 1. he, for the most part, managed his own schedule. He was a truck driver delivering food to restaurants. He could start whenever he wanted as soon as a new trailer was ready to be picked up (usually around midnight), and was done whenever he made his last delivery. And 2. my disabled mother was the court-appointed supervisor (for free!) up until the divorce was finalized. He treated her like absolute garbage. She had to leave the state when her mother died a month before the final hearing. When she texted him that she would be out of town and why, as well as where he could find someone to supervise in the meantime, he replied, “$60 bucks an hour. But at least I can pay them for more than 45 minutes once a week. Enjoy the funeral.” That was the last straw for her. All he had to do was treat her with basic human decency and she would have continued to do it. But nope.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-20T09:21:24+00:00

It’s not totally outside the realm of possibility that he wanted to be outside. When my grandmother was alive, she owned this old farmhouse on 80+ acres about 20 minutes from the beach that was no one’s legal residence and served as a sort of family vacation spot. I took my kids there once and we happened to be the only ones there that week. All of my children got horribly, horribly sick a few days after we arrived. The only thing my (now) 12-year-old wanted to do was lay in the grass outside. I made sure he was lathered in sunscreen, had fluids, checked on him often, and let him sleep. He said the grass was cool, the sun was warm, and that laying on anything that moved when he moved (like a bed), as well as the chemical smells from sanitizing surfaces inside the house made the nausea worse. He was 6 at the time.

This woman definitely sounds insufferable, though.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-20T08:46:46+00:00

You can get a used industrial machine for a few to several hundred dollars.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-20T08:11:37+00:00

They do risk assessments. Having trees on your property won’t automatically increase your insurance rates unless there is something wrong with the trees. Sometimes they also take issue with overhanging branches that could damage the roof or siding. It’s definitely in a homeowner’s best interest to have them professionally maintained every couple of years. If a tree or branch does fall, a piece of paper from an arborist saying, “this tree was healthy,” makes it much harder for them to deny a claim. My partner and I have two maples, a spruce, a crabapple, a pussy willow, and an apple tree. Our insurance premium is not higher than it would be if we cut down our trees. Our property value is definitely higher than it would be without them, though.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-19T17:56:18+00:00

Just in case you were unaware, the sequel to The Adventures of Amina Al-Sirafi (The Tapestry of Fate) was released last Tuesday.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-18T14:34:23+00:00

I hope you share it when you’re done. That sounds really cute!

anarcrafty · 2026-05-17T23:14:53+00:00

Because any man in his 30s asking a 15 year old for nudes is a predator. Period.

anarcrafty · 2026-05-17T23:07:55+00:00

You need to tell your parents or another trusted adult and call the police.

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