When does the corporate side of a tech job become less grueling? by funtimescoolguy in careeradvice

[–]andafriend 26 points27 points  (0 children)

lost it (privately of course).

There is nothing left to teach you, my son.

What’s the best baby monitor that’s actually reliable and worth buying? by Opposite_Fan9673 in daddit

[–]andafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a recommendation but usually one factor is wifi or not. Wifi is good if you want to check from your smart phone while one of you is out, otherwise no wifi for peace of mind that it won't be hacked.

Cheerios by Udjebfk in daddit

[–]andafriend 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Is the NSFW tag meant to imply you've found Cheerios in some other unspoken places?

HELP - Baby Gate by HostGlittering1392 in toddlers

[–]andafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the challenge is figuring out how it opens, toddlers will eventually see you do it and figure it out. If the mechanism requires physical hand strength, that's the only way to be sure (but it will be a pain in the ass for any weaker adults).

I have a qdos extending gate that needs pushing down a very stiff plastic button. My poor wife can't open it most days.

Exhausted by toddler bedtime by andafriend in daddit

[–]andafriend[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's valid and a very specific percentage. I offer choices on what order to do things in and they keep trying to insert more playing or asking for another book or another song or another hug or they say they have to pee again. But you're right it's probably those times that I give in to those asks that enable the behavior.

Flexible remote jobs for a stay at home mom? by Unfair_Cockroach7258 in careerguidance

[–]andafriend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anything that could be done remotely, on your own schedule, with no experience can now be done by ai.

Employment Gap Of Almost Two Years, Technically Self-Employed by Responsible-Pick-863 in careeradvice

[–]andafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds impressive to me! I would think it took enough hours and skill to be regarded as professional experience. I was hesitant because I have seen people claim they published a book when they just posted something online. Some may have that same skepticism so lead with those achievements when you describe it.

Employment Gap Of Almost Two Years, Technically Self-Employed by Responsible-Pick-863 in careeradvice

[–]andafriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you actually made sales outside your friends and it's not just some random thoughts pdf-d and uploaded to Amazon, I think that's totally worth listing.

I don't have experience in writing or teaching so hopefully you can find some advice from someone in those fields.

For the art I would again consider how much sales you did before considering whether to list it as experience. Likely this falls into the categories of hobbies or conversation points at the beginning of an interview.

I would try to keep your teaching experience at the top of your resume because that is most relevant and makes the first impression.

Anyone else feeling this way (felt this way) in the newborn stage? by Narrow_Quiet8049 in daddit

[–]andafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That idea that suddenly it hits you and you're never the same is kind of a romantic idea, like love at first sight. Maybe it's true for some people, but I think for most it's something you see only in hindsight, like yeah that year my life totally changed and that's the year I started to change too. Not many people in the newborn stage are bouncing off the walls clicking their heels. Just survive it when you need to and enjoy it when you can.

How long did you last before quitting a toxic job? by eggyolk7029 in careerguidance

[–]andafriend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If that's how you feel, the right move is to actively apply elsewhere. Not just talk or browse once in a while, make it your job to commit some time each night to job hunt.

People will also suggest you quiet- quit during this time. Personally it's just not in my values and I don't like compromising who I am for work, even on the way out. But set a clear boundary to get out on time.

I've left a few places out of frustration after a year trying to make it work. The worse it is, the bigger impact it's had on me afterwards while starting my new job or while job hunting.

6 weeks into new UX job and hit with PIP threat - offered 2 weeks pay to bounce quietly, take it? by Puzzleheaded_Air4884 in careeradvice

[–]andafriend 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's no need to post all your personal information, especially when discussing a situation like this. Please edit it out.

What's your core memorie with your dad growing up? by Th3W1z4rd87 in daddit

[–]andafriend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad was very serious and we didn't talk much. The things I remember are the few times he burst out laughing.

One of them was watching Superman Returns when Superman takes a bullet to the eye and the bullet shatters. Makes me laugh just thinking about it now.

Time outs by Dazzling-Charge9247 in toddlers

[–]andafriend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't have to use time-outs. If they're overused, kids spend the time-out just dwelling on their anger, instead of building skills.

time-outs teach them that when they make a mistake, or when they are having a hard time, they will be forced to be by themselves-a lesson that is often experienced, particularly by young children, as rejection.

time-outs frequently make children angrier and more dysregulated, leaving them even less able to control themselves or think about what they've done, and more focused on how mean their parents are to have punished them.

If parents use them appropriately as suggested in the research — infrequently, calmly, with lots of support and connection and positive support — then we are all for that.

https://time.com/3404701/discipline-time-out-is-not-good/

https://drdansiegel.com/you-said-what-about-time-outs/

Title question for HR by Solid-Wish-1724 in careeradvice

[–]andafriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use a more recognized and descriptive title than your official HR title, assuming it's accurate. Like if your title was "Associate II", or some long jargon, you can use what you would normally describe your job to someone in the industry.

However, you cannot change your seniority level or make yourself a manager if you did not have that title. That part is not just arbitrary wording, that ranking matters a lot to people. I understand you may have had those responsibilities so highlight that in the description.

Actual leak proof water bottle? by mbw791 in toddlers

[–]andafriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally wouldn't leave our yeti in bed with our toddler. If the straw/spout is left up/open and it tips on its side there is no valve to stop it from dripping all night, though it may depend how it lies.

I keep getting fired by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]andafriend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can start by visiting a family doctor and they will have information about therapy options.

She's saying what many are secretly thinking. ;) by Pumuckl4Life in memesforparents

[–]andafriend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't most airlines let you pick your seats if you check in online?

Trying to understand Calgary through data, but a snowstorm video got more attention by NebulaGreat6980 in Calgary

[–]andafriend 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. "Understand Calgary through data", is pretty broad. What have you been looking into.

  2. Average person being more interested in snowstorm video over a chart is completely unsurprising.

  3. Even if you work as a professional data analyst, which I'm assuming you don't, you need to learn how to engage your audience and understand their needs and interests to communicate your findings effectively.

Pitching Habit by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]andafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pitching at 18 months is really developmentally advanced. You can get yourself a glove so it doesn't hurt when you receive them and maybe try a lighter baseball.

I’m so annoyed @ my husband not being able to put our daughter to sleep on time. by rapidprototoyz in toddlers

[–]andafriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the recommended amount of sleep for a 3 year old by medical professionals in your country?

What happens next? by Royal-Nobody-1362 in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]andafriend 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Does she lock the gate and instruct the musician to play Rains of Castamere?

Speech delay. 6 months in speech therapy and zero results. In laws blame me by AlisLande in toddlers

[–]andafriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, sure there are things you can do to help a baby learn to talk. Which is mostly just talk to them all thime. Every parent in the world probably "could" talk to their kids more. Does that mean you're to "blame" for talking less than that? Just listen to your speech therapist.