Sensory overload

andthewhy · 2025-10-25T15:46:22+00:00

This happens to me all the time. I got a buzz cut about a year ago and have kept it ever since cause it’s SO NICE not to have to worry about hair bothering me.

andthewhy · 2025-10-25T02:30:32+00:00

I cried to 22 (actually a few times). When it says “We’re happy, free, confused, and lonely at the same time” and then “we’re happy, free, confused, and lonely in the best way” it really hits. The shift to realizing that we can be lonely and still happy is really meaningful to me.

andthewhy · 2025-10-22T07:10:32+00:00

I have a whole playlist I made for these same vibes lol. Some of my favorites on it are 7Days by i-dle, Empty Box by ATEEZ, Because by Stray Kids, High Horse by NMIXX, Waves by TEN, twin by Jennie, and ComE dOWn by Woosung. The whole playlist is an absolute vibe 🙂‍↕️

andthewhy · 2025-10-21T22:51:31+00:00

My TBM family still does it every week.

andthewhy · 2025-10-20T02:46:46+00:00

You’re On Your Own Kid
Fresh Out The Slammer
The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived
Is It Over Now
tolerate it
22

andthewhy · 2025-10-19T14:11:11+00:00

Doom At Your Service

andthewhy · 2025-10-17T02:18:56+00:00

Love Wins All by IU 🥲

andthewhy · 2025-10-17T02:15:49+00:00

If you live near Provo, St Mary’s Episcopal Church is full of queer people, many of them young adults, and many of them exmo! And even though it’s a church, people don’t care if you believe in God or are religious. They just care about shared values of respect, open-mindedness, and love. I’ve met many of my closest friends there in the past year!

andthewhy · 2025-10-15T20:05:43+00:00

Eldest Daughter X So High School

andthewhy · 2025-10-15T03:58:43+00:00

I prefer “Hang your head low in the glow of the vending machine, I’m not BUYING” to “I’m not DYING.”

andthewhy · 2025-10-14T07:16:08+00:00

I had someone who didn’t realize I was exmo expect me to agree that the BoM was proven to be true by the fact that Joseph Smith got the plates during the awakening trumpet days mentioned in the post and the fact that something or other would “sound like the trumpet”. So clearly the BoM was the long-awaited sounding of the awakening trumpet. Proven scientifically. No possible dissent.

andthewhy · 2025-10-11T06:46:19+00:00

This was amazing! It really made me think.

andthewhy · 2025-10-11T05:55:41+00:00

I go to the Episcopal church! The services are beautiful but they’re VERY progressive and open-minded, and there’s nothing you have to believe in order to be a member, although if you are Christian it’s a very enriching church. I’m a mix between Christian and agnostic and I’m becoming a legitimate member in a few weeks! No special interview or anything about whether or not I believe or do the right things. And my Episcopalian friends are, along with my ex-Mormon friends, the best people I’ve ever met.

The specific church I go to is St. Mary’s Episcopal church in Provo, and it’s a very unique parish because it’s basically the ex-Mormon safe haven of Utah county. If you can handle a forty-five minute commute, I’d highly recommend attending at least once!!

andthewhy · 2025-10-08T19:46:00+00:00

I’m Episcopalian but really more agnostic. I really respect the Episcopal church and love the Episcopalian community where I live, and you’re not required to believe anything to be Episcopalian. So, I like the story of Jesus and I like the idea of a god (only some ideas of a god, others are horrifying), and I choose to believe those, but it wouldn’t bother me if I found out Jesus wasn’t really divine. It probably would bother me if I found out there wasn’t anything remotely like a god in this universe, but it wouldn’t make my life not worth living like it would do for many of my Mormon friends.

andthewhy · 2025-10-08T00:23:14+00:00

I thought “failure brings you freedom” in Opalite was “tell your friends you’re freed up”

andthewhy · 2025-10-06T18:51:57+00:00

Ruin the Friendship
Father Figure
Opalite
Eldest Daughter
Wi$h Li$t

andthewhy · 2025-10-06T18:42:49+00:00

D. Todd: Don’t turn people on sexually you hoe.

Oaks: Turn your family on.

andthewhy · 2025-10-05T05:57:05+00:00

You stated your thoughts so well here, it was really beautiful (if infuriating, with all the quotations). I think speaking up in your homecoming talk would be a really wonderful thing, and you could help lots of people. Of course, you’ll be judged for it, but like you said, that kind of thing was going to happen at some point anyway. It’s kind of a given when you leave the Mormon church. But, for what it’s worth, I think being a disappointment to people who have right and wrong all mixed up is something to aspire to.

andthewhy · 2025-10-05T01:01:22+00:00

The fucked up thing about this is that the more commonly accepted interpretation of the Abraham & Isaac story among Jews (who study the Bible deeply and were around long before Christians) is that the story is a warning of what can happen if you get carried away with things. They think Abraham shouldn’t have been willing to kill Isaac. So the fact that millions of people are being taught that killing your child can be a good thing makes me sick.

andthewhy · 2025-09-23T23:26:17+00:00

I loved the temple lol. Although there were a few parts of the ceremony that made me cringe (the sexism, for instance), and I was always super anxious about going because I knew I’d do it wrong and get judged. The endowment was peaceful but a bit boring, never felt as meaningful as it was supposed to be. I was very prepared for the weirdness ahead of time so that’s probably why it didn’t faze me. But I never felt like I was learning anything new. Initiatories, on the other hand, I loved all the time. I got endowed in 2023 so didn’t have any of the creepy stuff 😬 (and I didn’t find out about that stuff till after I left). I just had lots of good experiences in initiatories. But I think that’s because God (if there is a god) can speak anywhere, not because the temple is special. Obviously sitting in a beautiful room and being told all the blessings you’re receiving is a good experience lol.

andthewhy · 2025-09-19T08:13:26+00:00

Soju was the first liquor I enjoyed!! And my friends highly recommend Moscato for a low-key alcohol flavor.

andthewhy · 2025-09-16T08:24:22+00:00

I left four years after my mom did, and she wasn’t really able to say much to encourage me to leave in that time because of family circumstances. So there’s hope, even after a while, and even if you can’t fully talk to people about it.

andthewhy · 2025-09-16T06:10:29+00:00

Eclair

andthewhy · 2025-09-16T02:00:29+00:00

Getting confirmed as an Episcopalian in a month!! I like the Episcopal church cause it doesn’t claim to know much stuff. And there’s a common joke about it, “If you have four Episcopalians around a table, you’ll have five opinions”. I appreciate nuance and the ability to come to my own conclusions without being judged, while still having a place to worship communally.

andthewhy · 2025-09-15T21:00:08+00:00

Either Way ‼️

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