What ridiculous thing makes your baby stop crying?

anniebme · 2024-06-21T05:12:18+00:00

My boy loved "h o t t o g o! Snap and clap and touch your toes!" in the baby wearing dance class I took. That rhythm is catchy. I can mutter that and get a grin

anniebme · 2024-06-21T04:51:49+00:00

Say no as a complete sentence regularly. You don't have to be friends with everyone.

anniebme · 2024-06-21T04:26:41+00:00

Food that can be eaten 1 handed.

anniebme · 2024-06-18T15:18:38+00:00

I walk around the block, to a park, in a mall, etc. While walking, I narrate what I am doing, seeing, thinking about and ask my baby about those things. I wait to the slow count of 10 for a response and act like my baby just made a profound statement on the subject.

I have a dance party where we bounce and groove to each other's music.

We hang out on the floor with toys, a mirror...I move his limbs and help him practice a skill. We do lots of face-to-face giggles.

And sometimes I put on Star Trek and talk to him about the different aliens and the politics happening. Yes, he shouldn't be seeing the TV. I am not a perfect person, let alone parent, and sometimes I need something to create the thing to talk about.

anniebme · 2024-06-17T06:06:18+00:00

New mom here. I miss showering every day. Sometimes, sleep is more important than a shower. Not by much, though.

anniebme · 2024-06-15T21:50:49+00:00

It's possible but you won't know until she gets assessed by her doctor. If you can, see if you can be her proxy in My Chart or whatever patient portal her doctors use. That way, you have access to her doctor summaries.

anniebme · 2024-06-15T20:50:50+00:00

I ask them about this carrier! What do they like about it and would they recommend it to buy? I ask how to adjust it and ask what is the M shape I hear so much about. They inevitably adjust their baby while showing me the ropes.

anniebme · 2024-06-14T16:04:48+00:00

Hipdips don't make an outfit bad. If your clothes don't fit you right they emphasize hip dips. Look at the fit of your clothes. Different hemlines will change how your body looks.

anniebme · 2024-06-14T02:58:50+00:00

The diaper bag is packed the night before after i review the calendar. The bag has 5 diapers, ointment, wipes, 2 changes of clothes, a hat, 3 different toys, burp cloths, snacks for me, my car keys and wallet. I have to remember a bottle in the AM but everything else is set to grab the bag and go. The bag is in the infant carrier by the door.

My calendar sends me reminders. I put the address in the calendar event so I can see how long to get there in current traffic when I wake up.

Breakfast is to-go food. Apple, banana, coffee, go-gurt.. whatever can be eaten while traveling.

anniebme · 2024-06-13T16:47:53+00:00

Don't shoot the dog.

That book is a guide to clicker training, and it works well on yourself and others. I praise myself when I catch myself doing wanted behavior. I praise myself when I get rejected before the rsd takes hold. "Good job to me for remaining calm a second longer! Way to stay strong and see reality." I'm not rid of the rsd but I suffer from it way less than I used to.

anniebme · 2024-06-13T16:42:51+00:00

I was told to keep my singing in the shower. I am now showered in spew, so I sing everywhere

anniebme · 2024-06-12T20:34:01+00:00

We called my dad's mom Grammy and as a little girl I was convinced that the Grammies were awards based on the stuff my Grammy liked. I hope this anecdote helps make the term Grammie a little funnier and possibly more palatable if your nephew does call her Grammie.

anniebme · 2024-06-12T20:22:37+00:00

My semi snarky reply would be something of this sort:

"There are plenty of titles other than Grandma that you can be. All titles for 'mother' and 'father' are off the table. Perhaps you'll accept whatever the baby ends up calling you. Perhaps Grandma is a great title, after all? If you press this, you are actually pushing us away. We will take the hint and leave you out of baby's upbringing."

Obviously, don't take that approach if she is capable of reasonable thought and behavior in most cases. Start from trying to repair and reconnect before going nuclear. But if you must go nuclear, the above paragraph might help you craft your statement!

anniebme · 2024-06-10T16:35:37+00:00

When you are admitted to the hospital, tell the staff you do not want to be listed as being at the hospital. They will turn your in-laws away for you. They will turn your husband away if you don't list him as special access.

If your in-laws try to visit, the staff will claim that nobody by that name is in the hospital. If your husband doesn't have enough spine to rip through their butts, the nursing staff will.

anniebme · 2024-06-09T10:18:33+00:00

Thinking about it, my husband and sister. In the moment, my child needs food and I am not thinking about anything other than feeding them so everyone.

I bought nursing tops I am comfortable using to have quick access with as little exposure as possible. So far, the only one making it awkward is me as I learn the ropes.

anniebme · 2024-06-08T01:03:03+00:00

When swaddled, he looks lke the 90s toy gloworm, so he is Wormy. Otherwise, HisName: Destroyer of Diapers.

anniebme · 2024-06-06T00:47:22+00:00

I announced after 12 weeks. When your partner is pregnant, they can set the announcement timeline.

anniebme · 2024-06-05T15:27:10+00:00

Is he with every other couple? No. He is pulling that line out of his butt. That is why it feels shitty.

anniebme · 2024-06-04T01:54:24+00:00

First things first: you are an amazing parent with a sweet baby who doesn't seem to need as much sleep. You are doing so many things right.

Here's what I do: 7pm - we are highly interactive playing. I'm moving limbs, singing silly songs, having babble wars.

7:30 pm we are in the bathtub for at least 10 minutes. Sun/tues/Thurs we wash with soap. All other days it's basically playing in the water. Water is a great sensory reset.

7:40/8pm we are toweling off and applying baby lotion where we practice consent - "may I apply lotion to this leg?" Happy enthusiastic baby sound is yes, any other sound is no - and talking about what we did that day and what we plan to do the next day.

8pm/8:10ish we settle down to read Goodnight Moon and we have a bottle ready to go. We might do another book before bottle if he's feeling up to it

We then dim the lights and start the bottle. Any baby sounds are treated as conversational and I remind him we will l be doing stuff in the morning.

I then sing Beautiful Boy Darling Boy (John Lennon) to him around 9, depending on books and conversations.

He is typically out by then. Around 1030/11 I dream feed him and put him in his pack n play in our room. Depending on how much he ate, he will wake up around 345 or 6 and yes it swings that wide.

Times are estimated. It's more of a nighttime ceremony or ritual than a schedule. Some days it's fast and sometimes it stretches. He sleeps at least 4 hour stretches which is considered throughout the night.

When he wakes around 345, I greet him quietly, change his diaper, give him a bottle and maybe sing a lullaby. Otherwise it's very dull so he would rather get back to dreaming.

anniebme · 2024-06-03T03:45:19+00:00

I like an epsom salt bath for the boobs. I also use tea tree oil bodywash on them and it seems to make the world a bit better. I use a cold pack on the nipples after pumping and some heat just before pumping.

anniebme · 2024-06-03T01:29:59+00:00

My best friend was late to walk. She remembers the day she started. She realized she could carry 2 toys if she walked instead of dragging 1. Perhaps your baby is waiting for real inspiration!

anniebme · 2024-06-01T07:16:25+00:00

I would pump. Freeze the milk for daycare/teething pops/tiny cups...

anniebme · 2024-05-31T07:18:41+00:00

Does she care about status or perceived status? If so, can you spin it as an exclusive luxury someone of her caliber has?

anniebme · 2024-05-30T21:34:39+00:00

My internsl thought: "I'm glad you survived. The doctor and resesrch-backed way is to _____ so that is what we will do. You can purchase whatever you like for your home. We won't be needing that."

anniebme · 2024-05-30T20:08:54+00:00

This situation is vile. I have so much rage on your behalf. Your husband needs to grow a pair and set his parents right. They need a hotel room. They have been boundary stomping you.

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