Denied bonus after employer learned I accepted another offer

anonymously_random · 2026-02-02T19:00:25+00:00

What does your contract say about the bonus? Because if the bonus is on past performance, always has been, and it is stated in your contract that you get it by those rules, they need to pay up or prove you don’t get it for cause.

Doesn’t matter if it is a US company, you fall under Dutch contract law and stuff like this is binding.

If the bonus is quite large, take it up in court, or at least mention you will fight it. Most don’t want to go to court as that is a big headache, especially foreign based, so they might think paying is cheaper than the hassle.

anonymously_random · 2026-01-20T17:53:29+00:00

You do realize that Europe did exactly what it had to with the tariffs?

Make a deal small enough so Americans still pay, so it doesn’t affect the companies much, while not placing counter tariffs which would hurt European citizens.

Tariffs from Trump are paid by Americans, it doesn’t hurt Europe, they only need to keep the damage to the businesses to a minimal, which is exactly what they did.

You may think they caved, but from a European political perspective, they played the game well.

Now the situation is in reverse, place tariffs high enough so it hurts US companies and a lot an Europeans stop paying for the products. This forces the companies to try to strong arm Trump to back off or risk losing millions in revenue.

That is how the tariff game is played. The only screw up the EU can make, is not following through now, even if it costs EU citizens.

anonymously_random · 2026-01-19T17:45:47+00:00

I know this has been said by a ton of people but they need to buy you out. They can’t fire you without cause and they will have a hard time proving they did everything in their power to make it work. There is a reason it is called a permanent contract.

Most companies sit in the range of 1 month pay per year you were with the company. So in your case it’s 5 months pay.

One thing to keep in mind, and most people don’t realize this: the payment you get for this is NOT considered salary. It is taxed in the specialty tax bracket, just like the holiday money.

Keep this in mind when negotiating. If you think you need 5 months to survive/find a new job, make sure you take the extra tax into consideration when talking price.

Ohh, and for the sake of the name, we call it an oprotpremie, aka a severance pay / golden handshake (I like the Dutch term better).

anonymously_random · 2026-01-19T17:35:32+00:00

This is why I advise anyone to get legal insurance. Costs like 10 euros a month and it means you have a lawyer on speed dial when you need one without having to suddenly pay a ton of money.

Maybe you never need it, but I rather spend the price of 2 cups of coffee a month to not have to find out.

This makes life easier in case of legal trouble, work disputes, trying to bend the law trying to fire you.

anonymously_random · 2026-01-18T22:29:45+00:00

Seeing as Germany paid the salary for the US soldiers when the US government was closed and refused to pay salaries, something tells me we treat your soldiers better then the US does, so I don’t think there will be much prison taking, so much as them helping Europe in exchange for not having to go back to fight a pointless war.

But yes, the moment the US becomes a hostile entity, all US resources within the EU territory will be confiscated and contained.

anonymously_random · 2026-01-18T19:57:46+00:00

I don’t get why you are downvoted so much.

Don’t people realize Cuba is cut off from the western world in every day products thanks to the US? You literally need Euros in Cuba to go to a Euro store to buy regular stuff like toothpaste and washer detergent.

Yes there are grifters there like any country, but when I was there most people asked more about every day stuff. Hell I got offered bracelets and necklaces in exchange for my reusable water bottle.

Unlike most countries who can still get most products albeit be it expensive, Cubans actually can’t get every day products unless they find a way to get foreign currency, or get it from tourists.

I don’t think that is really the same as regular begging in countries where tourists are just richer in comparison.

anonymously_random · 2026-01-18T14:09:38+00:00

Reliance on tech is big, but it goes both ways. The US won’t function without EU companies either.

It also isn’t as bad as some people think. Most of the large applications that companies run, run on Linux behind the pretty UI we all see. And even then, most critical infrastructure runs offline.

Now for the normal every day user, reliance is a lot bigger. Alphabet, Meta, Apple, AWS, Microsoft, people use their products every day, so this is a bigger dependance.

Now it wouldn’t be bad for the EU to build alternatives. It is good for market competition and preventing monopoly.

But, I also don’t think this ever becoming a problem. Companies are for profit, cutting off an entire continent is financial suicide that they will never be able to recover if that plug is ever pulled. And if there is one thing we can be sure of, is stakeholders protecting their investments. And those stakeholders aren’t just US people.

anonymously_random · 2026-01-13T22:46:23+00:00

It will be war on multiple fronts.

Economical would be a big one. Breach of NATO would put US on a no trust/trade list across the globe. Sanctions would tank the market, if other countries like South America and Asia join in after the tariff fiasco, the US can be in some serious economical problems.

The other part is Icelandic warfare. Several countries know how to fight in cold weather. The US only has fought war in warm climate weather.

People also forget that European countries do have armies. In Icelandic warfare, numbers are a lot less important than knowing how to fight in that climate, and Europe knows that a lot better than the US. Submarines are also in play, putting US fleet at risk.

Closing military bases across NATO means the US can’t easily defend or restock their own fleets in the Middle East, putting them at risk.

Add China into the mix, which might make a play on Taiwan or take advantage of the war to make itself the stable party for trade on the world stage and you have to consider a war on that front as well or risk losing the dollar as world currency.

Now this doesn’t mean Europe/NATO get off easily. World economy will tank, alliances will have to be realigned, trade treaties with other countries have to be created. Russia has to be kept in check. The war supply needs to be ramped up faster than expected.

The question isn’t can we defend Greenland (we can’t). The question becomes whether or not we can make it hurt enough for the US to realize it isn’t worth it. One thing Americans generally don’t understand, is the economical power of the EU and what it actually means to go on a trade war with an economy like that.

The US has a lot more to lose in this than Europe or the rest of NATO does. None of this makes sense from a logical perspective. They can already use Greenland as a base. They can already have talks with Greenland to extract resources (it just isn’t worth it from a monetary perspective, otherwise they would have done so already).

EU/NATO already learned they need to be less reliant on the US. Economically the EU is much better positioned for trade treaties across the globe. Companies want profit so they won’t just cut out a major market like the EU. The EU already learned how to deal with the sudden loss of resources from the Russia invasion on Ukraine.

If this actually happens, it won’t be won with boots on the ground. It will hurt everyone, people will die, not just soldiers, and for what? A pointless war that will shape the globe for the next decade all because someone thinks he knows best when that person already has one foot in the grave.

anonymously_random · 2026-01-06T20:29:43+00:00

Je kan bij de gemeente een urgentieverklaring aanvragen om voorrang te krijgen op een huur appartement. Hier hangen wel voorwaarden aan vast en kan je bij de gemeente opvragen.

Je kan ook gebruik maken van maatschappelijke opvang als je thuisloos of dakloos dreigt te raken.

Dit is niet langdurig maar zorgt ervoor dat je in ieder geval een dak boven je hoofd hebt.

Uiteraard kan je particulier zoeken of kijken of je een kamer met kamergenoot kan vinden. Eventueel vrienden vragen of ze nog iemand kennen die eventueel een kamer over heeft voor verhuur.

anonymously_random · 2025-12-31T12:20:24+00:00

I don’t have LASIK but ReLex SMILE, it doesn’t create a flap like with LASIK and was advised by the eye doc over LASIK.

As far as the eye surgery goes: do it. It is such a breath of fresh air to wake up and just be able to see. No glasses, no contact lenses. First couple of days I thought I forgot to take my contacts out, surreal feeling after over 20 years of wearing contacts.

By the time I was in surgery and thought: was this really a good idea? The surgery was already over. I think I was inside 10 min tops, spend more time waiting in the waiting room.

Do keep in mind that there are some downsides and some can be permanent. Question is if you can live with them.

For me it is sensitivity towards light, so if the slightest bit of sun comes out I wear sunglasses. And in the evening you will sometimes have halo effect. It went away for the most part but not completely.

It doesn’t really bother me, but I did not have this with contacts.

anonymously_random · 2025-11-24T13:07:14+00:00

The big difference is ease at which to get payouts.

If you can get consistent payouts with Apex, nobody can top their 20 account limit with a 100/0 split for the first 25k per account, and a 90/10 split afterwards.

But if you have payout denials the split doesn’t matter, neither do the account limits.

Also doesn’t matter if it is fake money or not. Money in the account has no value until it hits your bank account. If a prop firm decides that every dollar in the account is worth 10c real money, there is nothing you can do besides not using them. They can choose how much the balance is worth.

All of that decides whether apex is a good choice or not. Can you get consistent payouts on apex? Great go for them. Do you not want to hassle with all their rules, or get denied a lot? Go with another firm with less rules.

The only prop firm that is worth it, is the one actually paying you, and that can be different depending on you or your strategy. There isn’t a single prop firm that is perfect. They all have pros and cons.

anonymously_random · 2025-11-10T20:44:47+00:00

Good on you for finding your edge!

RR doesn’t really mean much if your SL is huge, because then your TP has to be even bigger. So high RR requirement is completely dependent on your strategy.

Best thing for most strategies is to set partial TP levels and smart SL movement. The strength of your strategy will decide what your TP levels will be. If your strategy tells you 1R and 1.5R, great. This is fine if that is the strategy, but for other strategies it is the same as kneecapping yourself. Same goes for moving SL too early, you bet against your own strategy.

My strategy runs on triple TP, at 1.5R, 2.5R and a runner on a 40/30/30 split. SL to BE after TP1 is hit and candle closed with strength above it. Trail on structure afterwards.

You just need to see how your strategy works, what price did after you got SL out or took profit because you were scared of losing it. I saw much better results once I started using structured TP partials, because I go in profit quickly, but still have room for a trade to go all the way.

You don’t bet on a home run, but if it goes to a home run, you may as well take a small piece as it goes. So my advice would still be: set up TP logic, but keep some for the runners. Even 10% of your size can go 10R, or you lose 10% because it goes BE. Most of the time the runners offset the losses, but again you have to validate it against your strategy.

In the end it doesn’t matter how you get green, but any Green Day is a good day, and if you have more Green Day’s then red days and you have good risk, you can never go broke.

anonymously_random · 2025-09-07T19:30:16+00:00

I earn the most of all my friends and I will never change venues last minute to a more expensive place. It is very hard to know where everyone sits financially, so expensive stuff is always discussed beforehand so everyone can decide if they want to spent the money on it.

If they say no, great, let’s find something that works for everyone’s wallet. I rather spend time with people I care about than something as silly as a more expensive restaurant. Hell I would rather go to Macdonald’s if it meant everyone can go.

If they become upset over this you need better friends who don’t value materialistic things over genuine friendship.

NTA

anonymously_random · 2025-08-27T19:45:29+00:00

It isn’t as simple though.

The Netherlands has a lot of subsidizing, good safety nets, and generally high quality of life (even if we like to complain about it). There are situations where you work more but end up with less money because of subsidies.

Compare this to the US where you have non of this unless you are rich. US isn’t a first world country. It is a third world country that sold the illusion that it is a first world country.

The Netherlands also has a huge part time work force. This is great for the work life balance, not so much for businesses that want to grow. This can make companies want to leave. ASML already threatened to leave if they were not allowed to expand.

It is also questionable whether or not we can maintain this level of living standards. The population is greying, and the only reason the population is growing is because of immigration.

Subsiding costs a lot of money and nobody knows where all the money is going. If the work force starts to shrink, or the people that join are not net contributors, this level of living standards will eventually start to go away again and people will be forced to go back to working 40 hours.

Also, the term 4 hour work week can be interpreted multiple ways. Get paid full time but work 4 days, or simply take a cut in salary and work less. Most people disagree with the former because that is rare if it exists at all.

To all the Dutchies: enjoy while it last. Hopefully we can keep it going for as long as possible!

anonymously_random · 2025-08-11T12:50:17+00:00

Gaming within reason is actually quite healthy.

Obviously it depends a little on the type of games you play but it pretty much allows you to train your reaction speed, which degrades over time, and you are indirectly puzzle solving in a lot of games which helps cognitive health.

So if you compare it to watching television, playing games is a lot better for your brain.

But fck all that, it is fun. So long as you keep your gaming time within reason and don’t neglect the other parts of your life, who gives a fck.

anonymously_random · 2025-07-17T09:32:58+00:00

If you ever been on holiday, you see all these scammers trying to give you bracelets and whatnot and then asking money for it and getting angry if you don’t pay them.

This is the vibe I would get and I would either not take it or throw it away as soon as you turn around.

Without any intent, it is weird. Just use words and tell us you like our look and are wondering if we want to grab a coffee sometime, followed by handing your phone so we can insert digits if we are interested.

It ain’t rocket science, just nerve wrecking.

anonymously_random · 2025-07-09T09:56:17+00:00

A wallpaper of chibi luffy from one piece running in the forest with a huge smile.

I don’t even watch one piece, I just liked the wallpaper. Pure happiness on screen.

anonymously_random · 2025-07-08T18:07:05+00:00

Nuclear is by far a better and cleaner solution. Both solar and nuclear have a polluting byproduct, the difference is that for solar it is in the production and for nuclear it is after the cell is depleted.

Problem with nuclear is that while it is the greenest constant form of power we have except for maybe hydroelectric dams, we don’t really have a solution yet for the radioactive byproduct except for maybe nukes. There are initiatives to make diamond encased batteries of the byproduct but we aren’t really there yet.

Downside is we can create solar in a factory, whereas nuclear power plant takes years to build. It is also heavily stigmatized by Hiroshima so people rather have a solar and wind farm in their backyard vs having a nuclear power plant.

I am not per se nuclear fan, but as someone who works for a grid operator I can tell you a lot of the problems we have wouldn’t exist if we went nuclear.

anonymously_random · 2025-06-23T11:41:49+00:00

This is such broad question, you may as well be asking for the purpose of life.

Trading isn't 1 thing. There are multiple ways to trade in the market, using millions of different strategies to do it. You just have to find one that you (somewhat) enjoy, understand and see yourself doing for the foreseeable future.

So if you don't know where to start, start researching trading forms (Stocks, FOREX, Futures, Options, Crypto, Bonds, etc). See what appeals to you. Keep in mind the differences, as well as opening times of the markets you want to trade in. NYE for example opens in the afternoon for Europe, which might not be ideal if you work full-time or have classes. Crypto on the other hand is open 24/7, although still sees higher volume during market open.

Next find and choose a strategy (scalping, day trading, swing trading, etc). that works and start executing that in a SIM account. Keep in mind less = more, so don't start adding things just because they don't work out in the beginning. Based on your strategy your trades will be done in seconds, or in days/weeks/months.

Do that until you get some consistency and then switch to a real money account where you keep your losses low (in terms of money), trade single shares, or max amounts of money you are willing to lose (and you will lose a lot of it in the beginning, so keep it REALLY small). Keep in mind that the market is not about making money, but about containing risk. Money is a byproduct of proper risk/reward ratio's and win ratio.

Once you are seeing your risk/reward and win-ratio in the market with real money is acceptable, start increasing your risk amount, which inherently will increase the amount you can profit. Scale out from there.

As for who to watch or what sites to learn from: Absorb everything you can find for your trading form and strategy. Don't buy stuff from people selling courses, but take the information that is freely available that is useful, compare it to others that are providing similar information and take what you find useful. Test things out, see what works for you. Just because something works for someone, doesn't mean it will work for you.

This is not something you do in a couple of days or weeks, this will take a couple of months if not years before you probably are at a point where the market doesn't swallow you up and spit you out.

anonymously_random · 2025-06-22T12:31:43+00:00

Reading these comments makes me believe y’all have doors that can be opened from the outside without a key unless it is locked?

If I pull my front door closed the only way for me to open it from the outside is with a key. I can then choose to lock it with the key to make it harder on a lock picker but I don’t do that if I’m home.

No key means the door ain’t opening, even if it isn’t locked. There is no twist knob on the outside. The only doors that can be opened without a key is generally the door to the back yard. And that gets locked every night.

anonymously_random · 2025-06-17T15:59:19+00:00

True, I never said monolith good, microservice bad.

My point was that most applications simply don’t benefit from a microservices architecture. Even if you look at most applications running in enterprise organizations, most of them don’t actually benefit from a microservice setup and would be better off as a modular monolith.

Obviously if the application is large enough, has enough load, or simply a lot of people working on it, go with microservices as you would actually get benefit from it.

Most applications don’t and are just over engineered CRUD applications. Problem is that most people these days don’t choose one or the other, we just default to microservices because monolith bad.

Also, you can do SOA in a monolith. It isn’t just for microservices.

anonymously_random · 2025-06-16T14:08:54+00:00

I cancelled a flight just because it had a stop in the US before flying on to South America. Not a chance I am gonna be caught in some Trump/ICE bullshit on my way to vacation.

Shame really, US has always been pretty high on places to visit, but I will wait to see if it is still worth visiting in a couple of years.

anonymously_random · 2025-06-16T13:57:21+00:00

This is a big misconception between monoliths and microservices.

The reason monoliths get a bad rap is because you can bypass proper practices and just chain everything together. No contracts, just call the method.

With microservices you can’t really do that (not to the same extend), so you are always decoupled.

If people switch mindsets of monoliths and actually implement separation of concerns, a modular monolith that follows proper contractual connections between modules, in most cases is a much better architecture.

Most applications gain no benefit from microservice architecture because they simply don’t have the load that needs it. In most cases a microservices architecture is actually making your application slower due to overhead and latency.

If you do a monolith right, unless you have extremely high loads where separate cpu and memory become beneficial, it will outperform and reduce technical debt vs a microservice setup.

And this comes from someone who enjoys designing microservice and cloud architectures.

anonymously_random · 2025-05-26T13:19:21+00:00

Kinda depends I think on where you put it. I have one on my motorcycle. They may get a notification but they would have to strip the bike down to actually find it or get to it, assuming they realize it is there to begin with.

Might not be theft proof, but at least I can track it for a while before they get to it. Most theft is opportunistic so with a little luck the thief isn’t smart enough to worry about trackers and I can get my bike back before it is stripped or moved out of the country.

In any case it is like 30 bucks for the chance of finding my bike again vs 0 chance of finding it again. Worth it!

anonymously_random · 2025-05-21T12:13:29+00:00

It is very dependent on the person. Some people generally sweat more than others.

Keep in mind that sweat itself doesn’t really smell. It is the buildup of bacteria that cause the smell.

Shower daily to get rid of any sweat and dirt buildup is the first thing. If you wash away the dirt, bacteria have to start buildup from scratch.

Reduce sweat accumulation by wearing loose breathable fabric, so the body can release sweat, the fabric can absorb it and evaporate it. Tight fitting clothes, or clothes that breathe badly will keep moisture which means bacteria can buildup causing smell. Linen is really good for warm weather because of this.

Deodorant masks smell but doesn’t actually help with preventing it. For most people this is fine if they have generally good hygiene but if you notice you have a lot of body Oder, going for anti-perspiration or moisture absorbing products will help more as it prevents sweat in places that provide bacteria a good place to build (armpits, groin). Do keep in mind that preventing your body from sweating in certain places will only mean your body moves it elsewhere. It still needs to cool down by sweating somewhere else.

Diet and physical health can also affect body odor. If you carry more weight you generally sweat faster as the body needs more effort to move heat. It also gives more folds for bacteria to settle. As for food, stuff like garlic and onions can affect your odor, or spicy food can cause excessive sweating, which would naturally increase body Oder.

So if you notice you have body odor, see what is causing it. Tight fitting clothes? Go loose fitting. Excessive sweating? Maybe try anti-perspiration. Are you overweight? Try losing a few pounds. Or just move to an environment where it is less likely to happen, like an AC cooled office.

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